my fiance said rude things to me when we broke up and says he never meant a word of it should i trust him?
my fiance broke up with me the night after my sisters wedding and said mean things to me and then broke up with me at 4:00 am and came back to my house the next morning crying and saying he didnt mean a word of it and he wanted me to take him back. but the things he said were REALLY hurtful.
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Tell him they were hurtful, tell him why they were hurtful. Words do hurt and it’s hard to forget them once they’ve been said, whether they were truthful or not. Go with your gut. Does he have a history of saying mean things and then apologizing? Or was this a heat of the moment, I wasn’t thinking clearly situation?
You know there are 2 things when the trurth really comes out. Thats drunk and when your mad. Just give it some thought. Is he really worth it. And do you really want it to work out with him
Forgive him he was probaly overwelmed by your sisters wedding
4:00am what are you a booty call?
Well, the thing is, you must be able to make that decision on your own. It sounds like he needs to grow up. You never know, maybe he’s not sure he wants to get married. I do know that you two MUST have everything settled and figured out before marriage. Do not hold anything "in" it will just bite you in the ass.
Emotional abuse can eventually turn into physical abuse. And the fact that this guy didn’t take responsibility for his behavior should concern you.
If he says now that he wasn’t his own self when he said those hurtful things. And he is not responsible for what he said. Then he will do nothing to make sure that this kind of thing doesn’t happen again. And very likely he will end up not being his own self again and again.
And you will end up in an abusive relationship.
Perhaps you could trust a guy who pin-points the exact reason why he misbehaved (drinking alcohol) and vows forever and ever to avoid being in this kind of situation again (be sober for the rest of his life).
But you can’t trust a guy who simply says he didn’t mean it. What’s going to stop him from not meaning it again and again in similar circumstances in the future?
can you forgive him for hurting you? will you remember his words, and carry doubts about sincerity? do you trust he wants to make a new start ? we all make mistakes, words can never be taken back, if he has these spells often, you should consider a more considerate partner…