Fiance broke up with me in Europe!!?
Im 21 and have been engaged for a year and was with my fiance for 4 years. I lived him so much and did want to marry him i just wanted a long engagement as i wanted everything to be perfect. Last thursday myself & a few of his friends traveled to Europe to see my dad who is in a band touring.
The weekend was really awkward and i felt like i didn’t know him at all. He almost acted like i wasn’t there and then last night when we where at the hotel he started questioning me about wedding stuff, and i was so tired and was really after enjoying my night at the concert and he was hell bent on making me feel upset for making him wait on marriage. We have had a few arguments over the past 2 weeks but last night he let rip at me and then said he wanted to end things with us even though he loves me to death he doesn’t want to wait too long to get married, it was like a screaming match with us. He really wanted to try hurt me and said thanks for the free gigs worth staying for.
I love him so much but maybe us breaking up was for the best. I left the hotel and when to my mom & dad’s hotel and have continued traveling with them. He has tried ringing me but i haven’t answered him. Any advice on this would be great. Should i ask him to work it out or just be single & free?
Thanks!
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hhhmmm have you two even spoken to each other about what marriage means to each of you? what you want for the future? what the wedding means? what you want from each other? sounds like a total miscommuncation about wants and needs, you need to talk it out if you want to salvage this. if you love him you will try to understand his point of view, i think he thinks you are stalling because you are unsure. you both need to talk about this and life and your goals before getting married, it doesn’t sound like you have done any of that!!
Sound like you two have days of cooling down. Now maybe you two can sit down & talk to each other with open ended questions. If you two love each that much. You can over comes the little things. Best of luck
While this guy sounds like a complete jerk, he might honestly have just grown tired of you dragging him along. Waiting years until everything is "perfect" is the same as not committing. He may have felt that you were never going to marry him and he wanted to get out before he wasted more time. Did you even have a date set?
I’d give it a few days to calm down before talking to him again. See why he wanted to end things.
If he’s going to be picking fights with you, that’s probably not something that you want to have the rest of your life. Even though it hurts, it’s probably best to go ahead and let him go. I know that it hurts like hell to let him go (my fiance just left me because I can’t move to the state he wants to for family reasons), but you don’t want to be with someone who will treat you like shit.
I would say maybe time is what both of you need. If you both love each other and it is meant to be then you will naturally find your way back to each other. I know that sound silly but I believe it. It sounds like he was trying to rush a wedding and maybe he needs time to realize that there is not rush. Plus time might make you realize that you dont need to wait for perfect. Or maybe you might realize you want something else. So I would enjoy you time for right now. I would not do anything that I would regret if you get back together but have fun.
It would drive me crazy to have to wait that long to get married to the one I love. If you love each other definitely work it out. Stuff like this will make the relationship stronger if you can work it out. I think it is a little wrong to make him wait though. Also you should appreciate the fact that he wants to make the commitment of sharing the rest of his life with you by marrying you. I don’t know if there will ever be a "perfect" time to marry but I do know that when you love each other there is never a wrong time to marry.