My fiance broke up with me in europe!!?
Im 21 and have been engaged for a year and was with my fiance for 4 years. I lived him so much and did want to marry him i just wanted a long engagement as i wanted everything to be perfect. Last thursday myself & a few of his friends traveled to Europe to see my dad who is in a band touring. The weekend was really awkward and i felt like i didn’t know him at all. He almost acted like i wasn’t there and then last night when we where at the hotel he started questioning me about wedding stuff, and i was so tired and was really after enjoying my night at the concert and he was hell bent on making me feel upset for making him wait on marriage. We have had a few arguments over the past 2 weeks but last night he let rip at me and then said he wanted to end things with us even though he loves me to death he doesn’t want to wait too long to get married, it was like a screaming match with us. He really wanted to try hurt me and said thanks for the free gigs worth staying for. I love him so much but maybe us breaking up was for the best. I left the hotel and when to my mom & dad’s hotel and have continued traveling with them. He has tried ringing me but i haven’t answered him. Any advice on this would be great. Should i ask him to work it out or just be single & free? Thanks
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Oh girl, this might be the best thing that could happen for you! You are so young and have so much to experience before you get married! He obviously isn’t mature and pressuring you like this isn’t a good start to married life. It does get harder with time and it will never last if that’s how he deals with problems. I was engaged for 4 years! I just kept pushing the date giving excuses and not knowing myself I just wasn’t ready. I was 21 when I left him and it was the best thing I did. You want to do this right and when the guy is right you will know it. You will want to make it happen so bad you’ll do it all! When I left William, I decided to have as much fun as I could before I’d get in anything else serious. I traveled a lot (Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia, Laos, Vietnam, South Africa, Botswana) and since I’m French it was very easy to go all over Europe for cheap. I had many many boyfriends, even discovered ménage à trois, which I thought was pretty interesting. Now, I’m not gay but I knwo what it feels to be with a girl, and all my sexual experiences (as long as it stays safe) tought me so much about myself, what I like and don’t and what to expect from mister right. After 2 years of complete crazyness I met him, Mister Right. He was on deployment (American Navy officer) and stopped in the south of France for a couple of days. He was gonna be just another "sex partner" for me but after we spent the most amazing day together I just knew. I came to America after talking on Internet for 6 months and we got married. I wanted it so much I even put away all my dream wedding plans and we got married in Vegas just the 2 of us. Now we are the happiest couple, sex is amazing, we are best friends and we have the sweetest little boy.
I know I told you more than you asked for but I just wanted you to know, that at 21 there is many things you still need to do on your own and you obviously don’t love him enough to spend to rest of your life by his side.
I’m sure you’ll make the right choice.
Good luck!
Carpe Diem
Roxane
Men suck,
He sounds like a creep. What’s his big rush? Something smells.
Yes it sounds like he wants to break up – or he wants you to tolerate his childish behavior – your choice.
If he’s pressuring you into getting married so quickly, what else will he pressure you to do once you are married. Men like this tend to be controlling, maybe you are better off without him.
there is nothing wrong with a long engagement. my uncle had a 3 year engagement.
what do you want?? listen your heart. if hes going to put you thru pain, is he worth irt??
its ur choice, im not going to make a decision for you bc i dont no wat YOU want.
Do him a favor.
Don’t contact him. Move on.
I vote for having a heart-to-heart. Both of you can explain why you feel the way that you feel and where your relationship should or should not be heading.
Hes seeing his life and what is about to miss in it getting married too early. For your own sake and his. postpone ur wedding and take a break . let you both get out and live your own lives. then if you find your way back to each other its meant to be.. Youre both pretty young. he either is being OVER POSSESSIVE OF YOU AND UR INTENT.. or.. he wants to break free of the whole responsibility. You need to talk it out on that level and let it go until your both ready.. Sounds like hes going to be a divorce before you marry him… .
Wow, that sounds tough. So why were you waiting to marry him again? How many wedding plans had you made? What indication had he had that you were serious about proceeding with the plan to actually marry him? My brother is currently engaged himself and they have been engaged for a while now. They have a date set though and were only waiting a while in order to have the time to plan everything out. My aunt and uncle were engaged for a year and a half but again, in order to have the time to save up the money and plan everything out. After 4 years if you were still worrying about it not being right, you need to move on. Either you are simply not ready for marriage or your heart is trying to tell you that despite your love for him, he’s not the right guy. Sometimes I think we move to engagement because we all feel like we should be moving forward and that’s the natural progression. People also believe that getting married is the right thing to do if you truly love the person. However, just because you love someone doesn’t make it the right person for you. It sounds like you should move on. Enjoy being single for a while and someday you will meet the man of your dreams who you will be dying to hurry up and walk down the aisle with.
your in a tough spot. being with someone for 4 years no one can just say okay let it go n be single because thats impossible to do.. .but i mean your 21, if that pic is you hah you wont have trouble finding someone else. just think this happened now when your still young and not late where itd be harder to find someone. i dont know about you but im a big believer in the whats meant to be/happen will happen, everything happens for a reason. if this guy is really the guy your going to spend the rest of your life with itll work its way out, and if he isnt well maybe its bc now your going to move onto better things and find the real person. i dunno good luck with this, chances are hell miss you and come back to you. seems like it if hes already hittin you up
If he doesn’t want a long engagement then he probably won’t be around for long when and if you marry him. I made a huge mistake by getting married soon after meeting my husband. I do regret not waiting and learning more about him. You will be a better couple probably by staying together for a long time to make sure things are great. Good luck. Enjoy Europe. Deal with this when you return home. He sounds too immature to walk down the isle with you.