My fiance broke up with me recently and I just got a $500 bill showing he's been texting a female coworker
I’m talking hundreds of text messages starting from morning and going til night, for the past three months. He’s been acting distant for the past few months and we’ve been fighting more, and he blamed the fighting on leaving. But I think the reason I was fighting with him all the time is because he was acting distant and like he didn’t really want to be around.
On Christmas night he said he was ending the relationship and then for three weeks after stayed with his sister and said he had to "think about things" because he didn’t want to make a decision he regretted. Then he broke up with me last Sunday. He said he hoped we could be friends for our son and offered to continue to support me while I’m in school for nursing.
Then I get this bill. HUNDREDS of text messages back and forth between him and this 20 yr old coworker. He denies anything has happened and says it’s "work related". I’m both devastated and livid. Don’t know how I should handle this. Advice? What would you do?
We’ve been together for 10 years and have a 23 month old son together. I am so angry I want to humiliate him and make him regret ever leaving. But then I don’t want to make myself out to look like a fool and the bad one. What would be the best thing to do to get closure on this and leave him wishing he never left?
Shoul I contact one of his coworkers to let them know what they’ve been doing so that they’re both humiliated when they go to work or is that just being petty??
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file for custody & child support – take him to small claims court over the phone bill – then leave him in the dust and don’t look back….
get the money for the bill if you got to take it out his ass then kill him
Whether he will one day regret the decision he made is not up to you. So what I recommend you do is to feel fortunate that you found out who he is before you guys were married and have kids. Trust me, things won’t be pretty then. You still have your whole life ahead of you. You might think you wasted 10 years, but some women wasted 20, 30, 40 years. So think about that and get your life together. Live well and happily, that is the best revenge.
You know what you need to say to him?
"Good Riddance!"…when you hand him the bill…
Get over it. You can’t say enough to hurt him like you’ve been hurt. Just move on and make a good life for you and your child. Good luck
take custody of the kid…and ignore him. move on and find yourself someone better for you and your son. show him that if he wasnt man enough to care for you nor your son, another man has now taken his place.
For the sake of your son, working things out is the best idea. But then again, if he hurt you, I’d say that the best way to get back at him is start dating some REALLY REALLY HOTT guy or pay someone to act like your boyfriend, and then make him jealous. THEN, he will fight the urge to come back .but if he still doesnt and keeps being a jerk, then make his life hell!
Take him to small claims court for the cash-then Move on!he’s a player
Moving on with your life is the best way to make him regret he ever left you.
Just leave his miserable azz….Be thankful you found out he has no clue what commitment is…BEFORE you married him….He is a liar as well….texting her because it is work related? What BS…it would have been much easier to pick up the phone and call if that were true….
agree–small claims court and have nothing else to do with him.
First off send him the bill. Don’t count on him for anything, fight for support for the child. Get ready to take care of yourself. Be nice to him smile alot. make him think you’re on top of your game. Never show him you’re hurt or down. If he sees you mad and upset then he wins. Good Luck
I know exactly how you feel. I understand that you want to humiliate him but you are right, you will only seem like the bad guy. I know, that sucks. I think that you should stay civil with him obviously for the sake of your son. I hate to say it but it sounds like he was cheating….so you need to move on. You need to make him pay the bill since he ran it up…if it is work related, why the hell doesnt he talk about it at work instead of on his personal phone. I know that it is hard but you just need to concentrate on how you are going to take care of you and your son and finishing school. I hope that you leave him. He is totally disrespecting you and your son. You need to find someone that respects you and that is worth your time
I went through the same thing with my ex. I understand you are very mad, and want to get revenge..but that is not gooing to help resolve the situation. Listen, a man that has been with a wife for 10 years, and has a little one and then leaves his wife usually ends up ALONE, ASHAME, and BEGGING for forgiveness, man that have been marry miss wife and their kids (even if they have problems). Right now it might seem that he is over with you and he doesn’t want work things out, but that will change when he realized that he "left his wife of 10 years and baby for a young stupid girl that h edoesn’t even know?! i am sure he is cheating and has been cheating for awhile. The good part about cheating while he was home with you is that he was having both of the worlds, his lover is young, and has no attachments, free can do whatever she wants, ( like playing him as well) he "thinks" he found a "spark" on this other girl that he doesn’t have w/ you anymore….but so he thinks….He can’t wait to be available to experience life as a single man, and he wants to make sure to leave in "good terms" with you, he doesn’t want you to know the truth because he knows that it is probably not going to work out with this other girl and he can have an open door with no shame and therefore will try to come back. And that my dear is when you revenge will start. No before, right now you be the good wife, the good mother, the good worker, move on, unless you want to wait for him. But if I was you, I wouldn’t or at least not until he has paid with tears, shame and whatever else you want to put him through. I love when guys do this kind of stupid XXXT!….I love to see them suffer after the realization…because he will have one..I guarantee it. Gd luck. and be strong girl.
Tell him about the bill. Not about the texts just the bill and see if he will pay it. my ex and we have been divorced for almost 2 years and apart for 3 has called to ask forgivness for his actions. He never supported me or our son so you are better off playing it cool. My divorce wasn’t even started before my ex purposed to a lil 18 year old and he was 34. They are married and I keep having to tell him to go talk to her and not me. He apparently is starting to finally see what he had and never really cared. Let him go and find a good man for you and your son.
Just Move on and do what you gotta do for your son
Men don’t always know what they got till it’s gone
If he’s left respect it and then if you can work things out you can if not then don’t worry
Sounds like the guys a player anyway
If that’s what he’s saying it’s possible that’s what it is.
Be happy that he still wants to be friends with you still for the sake of your son
But i would ask him to pay half the bill. Or at least help you out with it
Think about it this way while you guys are freinds you never know what could happen
See a lawyer about child support AND this text bill. You need legal advice because this jerk will take off and leave you with nothing and you need to make sure your child is taken care of.
Forget this loser. Your son should be the priority in your life (it obviously isn’t a priority in his father’s).
Man, you should have gotten an unlimited texting plan. Damn. Thats a lot!
i am positive you are a smarter person than the one who wrote that maybe she could humiliate him in front of his coworkers. and he is supporting you? you cant be serious. his job is the thing that allows you to go to school. if you mess with him and his job i guarantee he will exact revenge on you, and it wont be petty, he will just stop giving you money. no smart woman ever messes with a guys workplace.
what would i do.? as i wrote someone else recently, maybe you, i would be grateful he was giving me something to get ahead, and i would take advantage of that and i would not ever bother with petty revenge fantasies. i too hope you can be friends for the sons sake, you will need his support as the boy gets older, so, i would be polite and nice for that reason too.
maybe you are hurt by all this and i am sorry. take advantage of every penny you can get from him to make your future better.