Comments on: Does he want to save our marriage? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: tony_le12 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1968 tony_le12 Tue, 04 Aug 2009 19:15:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/#comment-1968 as you say, he is an angel if he not drinking. Social drinking is once in a while, once or two beer or glass of wine. But when you starting to social regularly and drinking until to become a dumps ass is not social drink. if you want to safe this married than this is the only you can try but there is no guarantee that will work. First you both need to see counseling second he need to sign up for AA life is not easy for every one. each one of us going through life in different way but doesn't mean it is always pleasant. excuses of being drug and alcohol is not a good excuse. A man twice almost kill himself, every one should learn on the first mistake but he did not. If the drinking pattern still continue there may be the third one coming. when a person don't care much the safety of their own than what make you think they would care for your safety of the safety of other. You can not change any one You can not help any one unless he willing to help himself. Even after you leave him, this is what you are going to dealing with, he will come to your and sweet talk you to come back, than he will be nasty at you again when he drunk. Thing only get worse if there is alcohol involve I used to grow up next to the family with the same story. His wife and kids used to ran to my home and hide. as you say, he is an angel if he not drinking.
Social drinking is once in a while, once or two beer or glass of wine.
But when you starting to social regularly and drinking until to become a dumps ass is not social drink.
if you want to safe this married than this is the only you can try but there is no guarantee that will work.
First you both need to see counseling
second he need to sign up for AA

life is not easy for every one. each one of us going through life in different way but doesn’t mean it is always pleasant. excuses of being drug and alcohol is not a good excuse.
A man twice almost kill himself, every one should learn on the first mistake but he did not. If the drinking pattern still continue there may be the third one coming.
when a person don’t care much the safety of their own than what make you think they would care for your safety of the safety of other.

You can not change any one You can not help any one unless he willing to help himself.

Even after you leave him, this is what you are going to dealing with, he will come to your and sweet talk you to come back, than he will be nasty at you again when he drunk. Thing only get worse if there is alcohol involve

I used to grow up next to the family with the same story. His wife and kids used to ran to my home and hide.

]]> By: just me http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1969 just me Tue, 04 Aug 2009 19:15:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/#comment-1969 I think you both need to go to counseling. You may want to go to A.A. meetings in your area for his drinking. The problem is that you knew about his drinking before you were married and had a kid with him. It's going to be tough for him to change because this is all he knows as far as the drinking and his troubled past. It's going to be a long, hard road and he has to want to change. If he doesn't want to change, you need to look out for your future and your child's future. In your last paragraph, it sounds like he's choosing his drinking over his family.....that's a big, red flag. I wish you the best. I think you both need to go to counseling. You may want to go to A.A. meetings in your area for his drinking. The problem is that you knew about his drinking before you were married and had a kid with him. It’s going to be tough for him to change because this is all he knows as far as the drinking and his troubled past. It’s going to be a long, hard road and he has to want to change. If he doesn’t want to change, you need to look out for your future and your child’s future. In your last paragraph, it sounds like he’s choosing his drinking over his family…..that’s a big, red flag. I wish you the best.

]]> By: mem11363 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1970 mem11363 Tue, 04 Aug 2009 19:15:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1045/does-he-want-to-save-our-marriage/#comment-1970 He is a full blown alcoholic. You need to end it so you can try to find someone who is NOT alcoholic to be with. He is a full blown alcoholic. You need to end it so you can try to find someone who is NOT alcoholic to be with.

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