how can i save my children from abusive ex wife?
recently divorced from a 23yr marriage,The two year separation period has been hard for me but been -ell for the kids at home . I have three boys living with her and her boyfriend ,she always use,s fowl language towards then and is degrading me as a father .has hit one child many times ,and Iowasable to get a protection order put in place for him and myself for ssixteenths. lstintedduring my custody time with two of the younger boys we went to pickup some thing for my son at her house and my began yelling at me because I corrected him of his actions towards yyoungerbrother and she bg at him and hitting him with closed fist . when I reminded her she was acting outside of the protected order she removed childrennen from my custody and ordered me to leave the property at once, I had no choice but leave at that time and to return home and begin to recall the works that came from the children. my son age 7 says he hates this family, and other son age 13 says he wishes he were dead . I ask that someone please help me save these children !
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It’s hard to follow what you are saying as there are so many errors in your question. If you are concerned for the children’s safety, file for custody and state your reasons. If she is abusing the children, report it to the police and the child protective services. I would get help for your 13 year old very soon, he could become suicidal. As a parent of a child who killed himself at age 20, I wouldn’t wish that on my worse enemy. It is the most awful pain that you never fully recover from.
Keep records and take pictures. Call your local state department of Children and Families and report the abuse, do not make an anonymous report. Get your kids to talk to a therapist or social worker. Get a lawyer.
Remember, in most states if you know that a child is being abused and don’t report it you can be prosecuted for neglect.
document everything!!!
If you can prove the abuse, you are obligated to report it. Call the local authorities. If they see any bruises (there has to be a visible mark) and the children tell the authorities that they are being abused, a file will be opened and an investigation will occur. I’m not sure about your state, but the 13 year old should be old enough to testify in court as to what happens to him and the other children in the home. If you are genuinely concerned for their well-being in her care, report it.
Start a notebook. Get a binder or spiral notebook and start writing down everything that happens. Every conversation and encounter you have with your ex and children, everything that’s happened so far and the date as close as you can get it that it has all happened.
Then file for primary custody.
Yeah – but mostly that doesn’t matter, if she can present properly in court. Expect her to have an excuse/reason for everything. Maybe she’ll spun it back on YOU – for example, I did that “because” HE (insert any excuse here.) Believe me, been there, done that, except I am a “she.” We face a long, hard, probably losing, BATTLE. To keep your sanity, read anything by Lundy Bancroft. Good luck, brother – blessed be.