Will I ever fall in love again? How can I get over such a devastating painful relationship.?
My boyfriend committed suicide on the 7th of this month. Besides all the feelings that I am feeling, I feel incredibly betrayed.
My self esteem reached to an all time low. I talked to my grief counselor, and she told me, he seemed to suffer from "borderline personality disorder" in which suicide is very common.
Anyway, long story short, how can I trust anybody again after this? Breaking up is always hard, and on top of all, there is death, how can I get over this? Will I ever be able to love again? More importantly, will I ever be able to trust anybody ever again?
I post another question. just wondering in the future, how do I spot a person with mental illness? thank you
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oh my. :[ i am sorry for your lose! i think you should better stay single. we don’t know if he or she has an illness unless you want to find out and ask him straight. but that’s impossible that they will tell you the truth coz they might think that if they will say YES, you can’t be with them. they will just lie to you. so it’s really hard to know. it’s not easy to get over what happened to your boyfriend. you will be able to love again but you will never ever forget your boyfriend. and he is always in ur mind and in ur heart! how to spot a person with illness? being unsocial, wanted to be alone most of the time, keep crying, talking to themselves, walking around back and forth, cant decide easily, change decissions many times and cant sleep. u can still trust someone. just take ur time!
and again, i am sorry for your lose. may he RIP. i will pray for his soul.
i’m so sorry for your loss. i’ve never been in this specific situation, but i do know that, like all deaths, time will heal. you won’t hurt like this forever, and you will find true love again. i would suggest sticking with this counselor. if they’re not helping you, find another. counseling does wonders.
take care.
Give yourself plenty of time!
keep talking to the counselor!
never blame yourself for his act!!
When, my friend committed suicide, I started blaming my self for his actions, and there is nothing, I, or anyone else could do!
he had made up his OWN mind!
I am sorry for your pain
first, I am so sorry for your loss; and so sorry your boyfriend was so depressed in his life he chose this way out……YOU had nothing to do with him doing this to himself…you have to know that; you cannot ‘spot’ someone with mental illness…yes you will be able to love again, you will never get OVER this, you will however get through it; these things change who we are….yes you will be able to trust again; keep talking to your counselor and give yourself time to grieve…it will get better…really it will
sometimes it is better to take time. there are people who will treat you better. sorry for the lost. enjoy things that will help you get by. God doesn’t create ugly things, because all are beautiful to Him.
Definately stick with the counseling…talking as one who is in counseling it works wonders if you have the right therapist. The pain will go away, you will fall in love again and will be able to trust again. You need to give things time…grief is a process…don’t rush anything.
Oh dear…How sad for you!
I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. I wish I knew what to say so you could feel better…!
All I can think of now is that it’s good that you are seeing someone…Therapy is a great tool and should be used more, IMO.
You will have to be patient, and give time, time. What happened to you is terrible, and you will have to work on your feelings and on dealing with them appropiately.
Please remember that if your boyfriend was ill, there was nothing you could do about it; so don’t let guilt make you feel bad. He was an adult and he chose to do what he did….
Yes, you will be able to trust another man later on, and to love again. But it will take time, and you will need to be alone for a while.
As for how to spot a person with a mental illness, I guess you will have to pay attention to things that just don’t click or make sense. Trust your instincts…that is why they exist!
Good luck. Ask God to heal you and guide you. He is the best Doctor around!
I am so sorry to hear about this. My ex was Borderline, she was so missed up, I loved her and she left, but oh well. Email me if you need to ask: Firawi83@yahoo.com
One day at a time.
Breaking up and someone committing suicide are totally different things. Your boyfriend was sick, he had head problems. I know it’s really hard, and a total cliche, but time will heal your pain, it really will. 1 out of a million people most likely won’t commit suicide, so I think your safe… just trust your instincts and go with your gut.