Why do people save sex for marriage?
I find the idea silly. What if you wait all that time, miss out on all the fun, and get married, and then you two aren’t sexually compatible? He’s a sadist and she’s a prude? That’s bound to cause problems later on.
To those who wait for religious reasons: you’re dumb. Quit letting yourself be brainwaished and think for yourself. (Deny it all you want, but that’s what’s happening.)
So, ASIDE from the fact that some fictional book might tell you pre-marital sex is wrong, why do people wait for marriage?
Edit: I come from a corner of the internet where what I’ve said above is LESS than mild. Don’t get your panties in a bunch 
Also, people crack sex up to be sacred and special and only meant for one person. I just can’t grasp this mindset. I think it can be done both for fun and for love. Nothing wrong with exploring, a one night stand, if you use protection. Psychologically, we lose our innocence long before we have sex, so I don’t see the significance.
Metalhead, sex is indeed an instinct. But that means nothing. Seeking water when we are thirsty is also an instinct. Why have we any reason to suppress instincts? they exist for a reason. And while humanity has come a long from living in nomadic tribes where people randomly had sex, is repressing your nature for years really necessary? Why would someone ever request their partner to prove their love so cruelly?
Ah, perhaps I simply lack a rampant fear of STIs and pregnancy. Considering all the precautions I take, the chance of either happening to me is maybe .0001%. I guess that’s a chance I’m willing to take 
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religion is largely to blame for many stupid things that people do- newer commercial campaigns and sex ed programs have also been preaching this ideal lately as well- it is hard to say how much weight they hold. Some people are just scared to death of STDs which is a valid reason but even more than sexual cmpatibility not panning out, it would really suck if their first andonly partner infected them
probably scared wat there parents will say, wat other people would think about them, or they are just religous
Because they BELIEVE they want to share it with just one other person. Regardless of if you or I believe it ourself, it’s right for some people.
Name calling is on about the same level you’re accusing the other people to be on btw.
I didn’t save sex for marriage, as I believe it’s a part of compatibility. I do believe that you should be serious enough about a person before you have sex. Know each other for a good while before taking the next step. It should be with the person you intend to spend your life with.
I can see why religion has it that way, but it’s impractical. There is a happy middle ground on that topic. Random sexual relations aren’t any good for anyone.
Ease up on religious people. No ones asking you to do it….I wait because I believe that it makes the act after marriage more sacred……I don’t see whats so special in giving your husband something plenty of other guys have already had. UNDERSTAND-thats not an attack on you ….Even if I didn’t believe in the Bible…..I still would wait just cus the act makes you soooo much closer to the person on various levels adn ya…i’d want the night to be special. AND- say that both are virgins….so what…..I think that if the bond was strong enough 4 marriage…then it should be strong enough to work out any sexual problems that MAY come up later on- and thats lil ol me thinkin 4 myself
never met a single one. women need to know if her love is a minute man right?
Because it shows that you are willing to suppress your sexual urges for someone else. Sex is an instinct. Would you die for the person you marry? and thus suppress your instinct for survival? Same difference. It shows a large amount of the capacity of the person to commit to someone else. If you can’t keep your legs closed for a few years, how do you expect to commit yourself to one person for the rest of your life?
Tsk, tsk. To each his own, now; don’t judge. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, including you, but you don’t get to decide that someone is dumb for saving themselves for religious reasons. For me, since I am atheist, it’s a personal thing. For one thing, there are too many diseases going around and no, condoms do not protect you from everything and no, you don’t always know the HIV status of your partners; sometimes they don’t even know. There are men who are on the downlow, who go out and have sex with other men and then come home to their wives and make love to them and then later find out they’re HIV positive. Another thing: if you think sexual compatibility can be better achieved by having sex with several partners, guess what? Doesn’t happen. People change over the course of marriage and just because they were conservative doesn’t mean they always will be conservative. If your only concern is ensuring that you and your partner are sexually compatible, then you are definitely not ready for marriage. There is more to marriage than sex. For some people, they want to go into a marriage with no past, no partners to compare or be compared to, no drama and know that the other is healthy and won’t require the use of condoms. I want to wait because I don’t want to be a bedhopper, going from man to man and finally going into marriage with enough partners to fill a high-school auditorium. We could stand to make a much-needed return to a sexual gold standard. It sounds like you are atheist, as am I, but I don’t judge. Whatever the reasons, there is no right or wrong one and there is no smart or dumb one. If you are okay with playing Russian roulette with your body, then rock on. Don’t tell others they are dumb for not wishing to put their lives and self-respect on the line for a few orgasms. Another reason is, I don’t want to get pregnant. Birth control is not 100% and I do not want to raise children without a father. I want a complete family; I am not willing to bring a child into a never-was-but-still-broken home. I want to share such a special act with my husband. To have sex the way you described it–have fun and make sure you and your spouse are sexually compatible–it makes the sex meaningless. The whole point of sex is to express your love for your spouse, not to achieve physical and sexual gratification. Sex has lost its meaning; it used to be a means of expressing love; now it’s just a means of recreation, of entertainment; people meet up for sex and don’t even bother to get each other’s names. As for sexual compatibility, when neither of you have previous sexual experience, you find sexual compatibility together. It’s not just a physical thing; sex goes much deeper than that, at least it’s supposed to. I can only speak for myself, but I am not willing to lie down with a man, let him get his jollies and roll off of me and walk out the door, leaving me with nothing. My body is far too valuable to offer samples.
Not everyone saves sex for marriage incase you have not been paying attention, lol
Some do, and they have that right.
To each, their own.