Do you think my ex-husband and I will ever love again ?
I’ve been divorced for about 5 years and we have a son together. Anyway I moved on a year after the divorce and got into a relationship with a wonderful man. We had a baby boy in 2005 and we were happy in love….Until 2007 he passed away. Ever since he left us and went to heaven I’ve been healing and raising our son as best as I can myself. My ex-husband and I have always gotten along and our 7yo lives with him. He is not in a relationship and devotes all his time and effort to our son. Yes he’s a great daddy!!! He’s invited me every now and then to stay the weekend at his house so the boys could be together and of course I stay in my son’s room with the boys and my ex-husband stays in his own room so it won’t be weird. But lately I’ve been realizing how much different he has changed for the good…and how much more care he shows people and me really impresses me…like he grew up into a wonderful man. I mean we were in our early 20′s when we were married so I’m sure we both did some growing up.
Anyway…. I’m staring to care for him again. Kind of like when we first met. Like a little crush…I know he has always had that piece of my life and heart but I’m not sure if I should turn away from the feeling or let it be and hope he feels the same. IDK…He may not even like me that way anymore and I’m just going to get hurt if I see him fall for another woman.
Our son..lol…bless his little heart…tries to play match maker telling me his dad still loves me but he always says just kidding while giggling and tells me I wish you and daddy where married again.
I really don’t know what to do with my feelings…to be honest I don’t want to tell him because he may feel the total opposite and I’d be hurt if he told me that straight to my face.
What shall I do?…Should I just back off and give it time???
Do you think we could ever love each other again???
OMG…sorry about the words that I accidentally spelled wrong….I know it probably sounds childish so understand the best you can plz!!! :O)
To answer some of Peter’s Q….We divorced because we were to proud of ourselves thinking we each were right at everything and never gave each other a chance to give in and understand each other. Like I said we were young and stupid to let one another go just like that….and our son stays with his dad because he want’s to and I believe our son has every right to be with his dad. I raised him from a baby until he asked "mommy can I live with dad because I miss him" and I always want my boys to be happy so his dad and I agreed he could live with him. He’s daddy boy and the only grandchild on his dads side so you could imagine how much attention he gets from his dads family.
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Definitely something is in the cooking. Some times you do not appreciate something until you loose it. I am of the opinion that you son’s dad needs you back. Like you said, you were both young and inexperience, now you are more matured and have both gained experience in your different relationships. He is more disciplined now that is why he can allow you into his home with your son and others. It is even easier for you all to make a come back now that you are free, sooner or later one of you will come out to the open and you will appreciate your romance more than before.
I think you should wait some time just to see how things move, is good that you sleep at his house but also be carefull because you might be sending the wrong message to him and your kids, just play safe and don’t be to close, if in 6 months or so things keep being nice and you feel comfortable then i guess you should talk to him and try to move back with him…good luck
Make sure you are not rebounding…
Why did you divorce in the first place?
Why did he get the child?
Deep down you have not changed, nor has he.
But perhaps the endurance and patients for another have.
Perhaps being totally honest with your ex about this is a good start.
Or you could invite them on a picnic, and make a move on him?
But, I ‘d sugget telling him how how much you admire him, and how much you respect you him….and discuss your feelings openly and honestly.
It sounds like a very likely possibility.
I wish you all the luck in the world, try talking to him though you might get a pleasant surprise, certainly sounds that way to me!
I would enjoy the time you have there and see how it goes. You both love each other and maybe you just needed time to both grow up. How does he treat your other child? If he can and does treat him good, then maybe he is trying to let you know that he wants to start over again. I hope you are not giving false hope for your son. I don’t think he is interested in another woman or he would not invite you to spend time at the house. You might want to sit down and act like adults and see what is really going on. You could ask him why he wants you to stay there, maybe he will let you know his true feelings.
It sounds like there just might be something there. Give it a shot wait for the right time and see what happens.
I think is wonderful that you feel this way and you see your x husband as the man you first fell in love with. You both have grown from your past experiences. Keep it going, until you both can develop the trust for each other again. I sure he feels what you are feeling because feelings are very hard to hide. See how he relates to your son from your other marriage that’s so important also if he treats him like your other son. Good luck and pray to get Gods help with this.
Yes it’s possible. In your case, very possible. I would play it slow and see. Time tends to unravel the truth. Regardless it great to see you two have a good relationship for the sake of your son