how to make passionate love with my wife again.
How do you get back the sexual energy you had when you were younger. I am 30, my wife is 25. We have one beautiful 7 yr old daughter, and another on the way.
When we were younger, only like five years ago we could make exciting passionate love all nite long, like 9 times a week sometimes, but the past couple years, it hasn’t been the same as when we were like 24 and 19. She says I’ve gottne boring, and need to spice our love life up again.
She thinks i am not attracted to her anymore, which I am. she is a very beautiful petite ll woman, any man would love.
I planned for a weekend away to a cabin just the two of us.
Also, she knows I love it when she wears her lil nity’s, or one of my t-hsirts which barely cover her smooth tthighs, which she did when she was younger. she doesn’t do that anymore though.
jld522, I wasn’t talking about just taking care of me, and yes I do get it.
I was perfectly fine with our love life. She is the one who wants alot more of it, and wants more passionate love making. I am trying to lo ask advice, tips on how to make it better for her.
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It’s like the hokie pokie. You put your right foot in and take your right foot out, you do the hokie – pokie and you shake it all about.
There must be something wrong with you OR your related to John Edwards. Boogie in the kitchen, boogie in the hall, if you get some on your finger, wipe it on the wall.
Just try new stuff man. XXX movies, the Joy of Sex by Dr. Comfort anything available to you. Try it.
I would have felt really bad if my wife told me that when I was 30 (a million years ago).
So having a kids makes a 30 year old feel OLD?!?!
Thanks for the heads up.
buy a book, try some role playing
My husband and I are going through the same thing
I think its is a phase. Hopefully gets better.
Make it exciting. I love the pickle jar game. Get 2 different colored papers. You each write down your fantasies. Put all the papers in the jar. Each week or whatever you take turns picking each other’s papers & you have to do what it says. My husband didn’t really go for it because he’s boring like that but I thought it was a great idea.
Try getting a hotel away from the kids with a jaccuzi tub. That is very relaxing and will cause less pressure on her durring intercourse if she is pregnant. Also, bring home flowers spontaneously every once in a while. Listen to the Kenny Rogers song Buy Me a Rose, it will tell you what to do. Good luck.
Seriously – buy vast quantities of lube and just have slippy slidy fun……
plan a romantic evening for just you and her,
Bring the passion and romance back into the life! I know since you have had kids it makes it almost Impossible to do it but have someone babysit the kid one night, buy her roses, light some candles, turn the lights down low (whatever make HER happy) and try doing some new positions…or OLD ones that you KNOW she use to love! Try to think of making her happy!
It’s all about time & attention. Having kids around will be tiring & take up a lot of time for both of you. The best advice for this situation is usually to try & ‘make time’ when you can be alone (arrange babysitters) so you can go out for a meal/film/whatever & give all your attention to your wife.
Give her little presents out of the blue – nothing big or fancy, can be a scarf, small ornament or her favourite chocolates. Make an effort, both with your dress/appearance and with presentation of gifts. Praise her appearance & tell her how you feel.
Don’t worry about the physical stuff – that should come naturally if you get the rest right
You need to take controll of this and be a man..
What you need to do is grab your wife throw her on the bed and rip her clothes off! Your young, you should be having sex everyday. Be passionate..
Me and my husband have sex almost everyday..
If you know any of her "fantasies" try to play them out for her.
You could also go back to the "trying to seduce her" mentality…
Or get a sexuality book at Barnes and Noble, or any othe book store.
They give you ideas to spice up the bedroom activities.
And don’t get stuck with the same old positions. Learn new ones, and explore the posibilities…
You don’t need to go back to 9 times a week, but try at least 2-3 times a week… and something different each time.
Surprise her in the shower, if you don’t do that already/anymore.
Leave her Love notes too…
Think about what you would write if you were just dating…
Have fun!
i think that because she is pregnant she feels that way… since you say there is another one on the way.. i would suggest to send your 7 year old to a friends house set up a romantic dinner buy a dozen of roses that are 9.99 at albertsons and take the rose petals put them from the door to the tub and the table have even sandwiches or anything you can make as a man without cooking and draw her a bubble batch with rose petals in them light some candles they dont have to be fancy and just rub her back while in the tub she will feel so sexy that your sex should spice up a bit more… its the feeling that she is missing that you are not making her feel attractive! i did that to my husband and boy was he in heat after that! good luck
Sit down and have a talk with her and remember all the things you use to do that would get you so turned on. You should try new things too like go buy her a sexy outfit you would like to see her wear. Take plenty of foreplay time. Watch a sexy movie together. Get completely relaxed maybe a little wine or a nice warm bath. Give each other a massage. Tell each other sexy made up stories. Use your imagination and tell her how sexy she is. She can never hear enough of that.
All night long, nine times a week? ok, maybe. Anyhow, it isn’t the same as when you guys were 19 and 24 because you’re not 19 and 24 anymore. Is that so bad? In many ways, sounds like your life has gotten better. Relationships evolve, change and grow. Also, she is pregnant. I know you can’t imagine this but it’s hard to feel like being intimate when you have a baby growing inside of you. Double that with another child, home, cooking, ect. Are you serious that you really don’t get it? This is the best advise you will get: Let your wife know you just want to be near her. Not talking about sex, just the pleasure of being around her and listening to whatever she has to say. As for sex? If that is really your objective, it will show through and she will know it’s not about being with her-it’s about taking care of you.
You need to see a marriage counsellor, this goes further than sex. Sex is just the symptom not the cause.