How Can I make my wife fall in love with me again after an affair??
Please anyone out there help me!!!! Let me begin by saying that I am very sorry and ashame for what I have done. I did have an affair on my wife of 17 years. After she found out about a year and a half ago, she moved out of the house and filed for divorce. We have two kids 15 and 16 years old girl and boy. MY kids stayed with me by their own choice. I have begged my wife for forgiveness all this time. We went through some marriage counsoling for a while but she did not want to go any more. We did see each other on and off while she was away and we did make love a few times here and there, there after. I had some issues with the kids and keeping them on line so after we talked she moved back home for the sake of the kids. She sleeps on a separate room and she has been back for the past seven months. While she has been back we have still seen each other , have been intimate many times, but she does not want to commit or let the kids know about us, what can I do. I love her !!!!!
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try your best to make it very clear that the person you had the affair with had no value to you. I don’t know if you are the type to go out, but now is a good time to remain around, be available for her in every aspect, and really show her that you love her. I doubt that she is concerned with the idea that you don’t love her, but I am more than sure that trust is the reason she won’t commit to you. Gaining those lines of communication and trust are necessary to move on. I am assuming you have discussed why you cheated, and no matter how vulnerable it makes you feel, let her know what you were thinking and how you do have regrets. I do think that there is a chance to salvage the relationship, especially if you are making every effort you can to right the wrong you have done.
She still loves you but she’ll never trust you ever again. Give her lots more time, ALOT more time, don’t you owe her that?
Be patient
even though you regret your affair and you are ashamed of it, its easier for you to get over it than what it is for her.
Youve been together based on trust, love etc and now that trust has gone it may not come back again.
Whats a relationship without trust?
When you first met your wife you courted her before getting married. You may now have to start at the beginning again and try courting her all over again, going out on dates again etc.
Haven’t you heard, "Hell hath no fury, like a woman scorned" . Since you were the one who acted out, you have to be patient with her. If you really want her back, you have to rebuild the trust, if this is possible. You just have to wait. Hopefully, you have learned just how damaging having an affair is.
i have the same problem but the only real answer your going to get is whats inside your heart if you really love her. Its not that shes not in love with you anymore i can almost gurantee that she is still in love with you but she is ashamed that you did that to her she is probly thinking what am i not good enough for him and can i not tend to your needs. you know what if its meant to be then it will fix itself just give it time really thats all you got!!! you know what i mean well good luck with it i hope my advice can help you out somewhere along the line.. signed James M