How do I wait for my wife to love me again?
I have been married for 15 years and for most of my marriage I was too busy making a living instead of making a life. When we got married, she had to small children and I wanted to provide for them. We did okay but I guess I was never really satisfied with that. I had my idea of the perfect life and it seems I never had it. We had 2 more children after about 7 years of marriage. When I look back, I realize that my wife and I were never really close, like husbands and wives are supposed to be. She tried to tell me things weren’t right and I minimized things. She was right all along. Our biggest problem was communication. 7 months ago, she told me she didn’t want to be married anymore. There was no buildup, no argument, just a sentence. For the first time in my life I had to truly examine myself and realized that there was a lot of changing I needed to do. I changed, but she said it’s too late. We have gone to counseling but to no avail. What hurts is that she says that I am the husband she always wanted, but she doesn’t want ME. I love my wife…always have. Sometimes you take the sun for granted because it rises every morning. She says that part of her wants to be in love with me again. How do I wait for her?
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Give her some more time during which you HAVE to show her you care about her. Pay more attention to your family not to money only. Money is important but as the Beatles sang once: Can’t buy you love.
Show her you care, show her you love her, give her more attention and she will love you again.
Take care,
Martin
I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It doesn’t sound like she was really happy or in love with you as much as she should have been…
I’m sorry, but I don’t think she will love you again. You can’t fall in love with someone, then not love the person anymore, and then fall back in love with them. If you truly love someone you will always love that person.
u cant.. its over…
after 15 years? come on.. she wants something new
the only thing u can do to get her back is this.. and take it seriously..
1) go to the gym… get fit and sexy…
2) get new clothes..
3) get a sexy car…
4) start playin the feild and act like u dont care..
become everything u arent. that u wanna be….
she will come running back..
You have excess baggage, one thing I have learned don’t date women with children. Date one without, shes baggage man. Dude you should have realized that before getting into it. You can’t, what she is basically saying is that your inadequate and she’s thinking of finances more than you. You wanted to provide for them lol you should have told her that before you got into the marriage, she’s taking advantage of the situation thinking your there only for the ride, when in fact your supporting her and her children. If you have alot of money, i would store it in a well trusted place, so that she doesn’t suck your bones dry. Keep some for expenses though. Just my thoughts, you could either try to wait to fall in love (which could happen, not saying it won’t), or could protect yourself from the times to come. Choose
You don’t WAIT…you ACT. Tell her that you are going to do your best to change her mind and then ask her for six months before she makes any decisions with regards to your marriage.
It is an absolute truth that when someone gives up on a marriage that has, say, 5 issues, they will likely enter another relationship that has 5 issues, albeit different ones.
If she does grant you this time, make the most of it. Court her. Treat her like your girlfriend. Then, if you are fortunate enough to win your case, always remember that it is romance, sensitivity, stability, friendship and sex that got you where you want to be.
Change. Then STAY CHANGED.
Good Luck!
Not an expert here,but it might be possible to fall back in love,but it will take time and effort to do it and it still might fail.
If she is not interested in trying to get that loving feeling back,then you might as well call it quits or live separate lives in the same house.
After 10 yrs. of marriage,my wife told me she only married me to get away from her dad.
That was 24 yrs. ago and she still hasn’t left,but she doesn’t want to have anything to do with me.
Best of luck to you both.
Dude this is serious.
Tell her that you know something is wrong. Ask her what is wrong. Let her explain. Apologize and say that you’re sorry and 1000% willing to fix the wrong. When you have this conversation with her she might get irate, start blaming you, accusing you, verbally abusing you, but it might be worth it for you if it saves your marriage.
Then again you and her are going to take responsibility for not communicating to each other, and the kids will suffer. She sill become a single mom and will have a hard time daing. A single mom with 4 kids is going to have a hard life in the dating world.
Good luck, and God have mercy on your soul.