After 15 years of marriage my wife wants to leave I love her with my whole heart can anybody help?
a month ago my wife said she needed space and that she was moving out she refuses to go to seek help I got a book online to save our marrige but it is really hard I know I need to let go and give her space but I just want us to be together I can’t help feeling there is someone else in her life and that is causing more problems for us I just need to let go but I don’t know how
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Just let her have her space a little bit. Let her have some weeks to think if she wants. Maybe you should have some time to think about this situation too.Maybe she’ll decide that you are the only one in her life that she really loves. Have her take some time to decide what she’s going to do. The more you push the problem in her face the more she’ll want to pull away from you. Give her time.
well paze its like this if shes going to bail you cannot do anything to stop it, it take two to make a real relationship. you have to open the door for her and let it end on good terms, if its meant to be she will return, but you dont need to worry about her. you need to focus on you its not healthy nor a good idea to base your self worth on her staying or leaving, you have worth as a person, so let her fly . and you fly as well..
What happened? why does she suddenly need space? did she tell you she wanted something? All I can tell you is talk to her and she what is wrong, when I personally stop talking to my husband is because I have said the same thing repeatedly and it fell on deaf ears. Best of luck.
First of all, don’t blame yourself unless you cheated on her…. 2nd don’t push her let her have her space, 3rd If there is someone else you can’t change it, 4th ignore her for 90 days and she will either come back or be gone for good neither of which you can control Then you can have a feesh start with a clear consuious
Been there after 21 years of marriage. You’ve forgotten how to be romantic just like I did. We get ‘em married then sit down in front of the TV, or go to the lake or go to the woods ect..
You’ve got to romance her and never stop. Call her during the day and tell her you just wanted to hear her voice
Hold her face in your hands and tell her " honey, have I told you how beautiful you are today? , then Honey have I told you how much I love you today?
Treat her like you did when you wanted to impress her enough to marry you.
Buy her "I love you" greeting card for no special occasion about twice a month.
Kiss her often, hold her and hug her. She is very insecure because she’s heard no compliments on a consistent basis from you.. It may take about 4-5months to convince her that you’re not putting on. You will see a remarkable change in both of your behaviors.
Eventually you won’t want to leave the house for work because you guys wan’t to stay in bed all day.
It’s not easy, but you have to be loving, very nurturing and supporting right now instead of jumping to conclusions.
Get her back, take her on a romantic weekend. DO IT NOW BEFORE HER "FRIEND" DOES.
If you have to go to the "friend" like I did to tell him to leave her alone, then do it.
Tell him to "be a man because you love her and want the opportunity to revive your marriage".
dude she is cheating on ya………you will be better off
You can’t make her go to counseling, but you need a counselor for yourself, to get your head on straight about what’s going on, and you really need a divorce attorney. If she’s planning to leave, with or without someone else, you need to find out how to proceed and how to protect your assets if she does actually want more than temporary space to think. It’s traumatic, but it’s worth the consultation. After 15 years, you may be talking serious financial concerns, and that is all you can really control.
Your wife has a lover and has probably been getting her freak on for some time now.
get back wt u have lost in u’r relationship with her make her feel special and don’t give up on her that easily
my frind i know just how you feel my wife and i were marrid for twenty years 2 months ago i caught her in a relatinship with another man for the secound time in our marriage it is hard for me to give good advice chances are there is some one else i know that hurts but i would want to know if you love her and you can work it out let me know how confront her look in her eyes they will tell you the truth good luck to you
Pray for your wife.Learn about what love really is from scripture. Try and find what you can do better. I’m working through a similar situation, I’m reading “the love dare”. It’s helpful. The thing that has helped me the most is the professional counseling however. You need it at least for you even if your wife does not want to go. It will also show her you really care about yourself and your relationship. Don’t jump to conclusions and needlessly worry over what may or may not be happening as far as an affair goes. It’s easy for guys to assume the worse that and be overwhelmed with a bunch of junk emotion needlessly. Women are complex creatures, there is something going on that needs to be addressed and I pray it works out for you.
My wife is telling me that she no longer loves me, and that she wants to leave. We’ve been married going on fifteen years. We have an eleven year old, and a three year old. The children play a huge role in this equation. I adore my wife. I do not believe that she is having an affair. The problems in our relationship are a good deal my own. As much as I love her, I haven’t quite learned how to express my love in a way that has been hindered by issues I’ve had from the past. Yet, our beautiful children are people whom I do not want to effect. They both adore me as well as their mother. A broken home may have a great impact on our children that I wish not to subject them to. Preferably, I would prefer that my wife and I attend counseling in order to allow some one else to offer suggestions for a solution. This is very difficult, and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make our lives work together, and for the absolute best.
she must have been cheating on you for a while or something went wrong. its not you that went wrong if she did cheat thats a typical woman you can always find someone better out there for you if things dont go right with your wife. if i was you i would not wait around if shes been gone awhile. i been married and divorce and have seen everything.They say they change but it doesnt. they will be the same way later down the road.It took me a while to realize it myself, but as soon as i did realize i was the stupid one waiting around on something that hurt me. After all that time i wasting my time i didnt realize what good i had in front of me wanting me. I started talking to this girl i met and i really liked her and like i said i regret not tellin her how i really felt. i wasted all my time worrying about my ex wife when i shouldnt have been. im happier now and it took a while to get there. it was worth it.
best wishes
After a 40 year marriage and 37 years of living in hell, my wife finally informed me she had no interest in sex.. I would beg, plead, wine and dine her and still only received enough intimacy from her to get by.. On top of it all, she began working nights after the 3rd year of marriage and never went back to days. She initially told me it was temporary until the kids were self sufficient.. It never happened. I wake up alone, go to bed alone, spend my nights and weekends alone..Now, after all these years, I’ve come to rrealize she just doesn’t love me and I have fallen out of love with her.. We don’t speak to eachother any more and are in counseling..
I want to end the relationship and marriage to get out of this situation but she says it’s worth saving.. My loss of happiness has affected my outlook on life in a negagtive way.. I just want to be free of her and persue new friends, which I have lost, and be confident in myself so I can be happy again.
Any suggestions would be good for me at this point..
Thanks