how do I get my wife to love me again? She is depressed.?
She is depressed and thinks I cause her the depression. So, she says she doesn´t love me anymore and that she wants to separate. We´ve been together for 14 years. I am 42 and she is 34. We have 2 girls. When we make love, it is still very pleasant to us. I still love her and I wnt her sain and back. We are still together, but living in a psychological hell. I want to hear from you, specially if are psychologist or psychiatrist. Thanks for your time and help.
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Marriage counseling and individual therapy are the first moves and have a decent success rate. Anti-depressant drugs can also help a lot depending on the cause of her depression.
Sometimes though, no matter how much you love a depressed person, they can’t see you outside the prison bars in their own mind. Then you have to really ask yourself what is wrong with you, why do you require yourself to take care of what essentially amounts to an object that can’t love you back and that maybe never really loved anything. Would you say that you loved your car the same way as your wife, or a t-bone steak, or a football game? Most people trapped with people that cannot love them back start to figure this out way too late, but the signs were always there.
Look up NPD, Histrionic PD, Borderline PD and see if anything fits.
if u know u wrong her,admit it let her to know u are sincerely sorry and truely love ur relationship and want it to last.if she does not believe u keep on doing those things she likes. one day she will konw ur herat and come back to u.but if u persist it will be like a bore.
Suggest you seek professional help for the depression, AND
you personally read books on Marital relationships.
You may love her but have you expressed it in her unique language? The book called (the 5 love languages) by chapman talks about how each person has a unique language. If you learn her unique language and begin expressing "love in a manor she can understand that can help her come out her depression. it can also help revitalize a marriage.
You can also read the book: His Needs, Her Needs, By willard Harley Jr.
This book discusses the 5 basic "needs" a husband and wife have in the marriage. ( along the same lines of the first book) The difference here is Each (gender) has different "NEEDS" by learning those "NEEDS" you can learn to communicate effectively with your partner,
God Bless you and your family, I hope this helps
Take her to a psychiatrist, get her on an antidepressant and then and only then evaluate your marriage.
you need to look in the mirror
this is a bad thing for you to have done
start buying her teddy bears and flowers
if she wonts to leave and you love her and she feels you are her problem let her leave .. if you love her just be there when she needs you…things will work out but not if you growd her.. give her space…good luck
You have to get her professional help . Her M.D. can treat the depression but she will also need to see a councelor.
She is not going to be thinking straight in that state of mind. Just cater to her wishes no matter how strange they seem and try to soften her up so you can convince her to seek professional help.