how do i get a my husband to fall in love with me again?
WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR OVER 8 YEARS. (MARRIED 1) BEFORE THE MARRIAGE WE HAD SEX ALL THE TIME.2 MNTHS. AFTER NO SEX,NOTALKING,WE DONT SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM.
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give it time, even though you were together a long time before you got married actually being married changes things for both of you and it adds to the stress. the longer you go without sex likely the more snarky you can be, or the more desperate. either way, that is not what your man wants, he wants you back to your assertive, confident you! honestly, i think the best thing you can do is give it time. dont take it personally if there’s no sex, just try to be positive and happy and then likely he’ll be happy just being around you and happiness tends to lead to sex with married people
bring in another woman
Make yourself look sexy
lingerie
I’m not trying to be a smart a*s either, seriously if i were married and were having trouble keeping it going,i would bounce off the wall if my wife started doing sexy stuff like that.
distance makes the heart grow fonder
Make over
try going to marriage counseling
Sounds like something is bothering him.
Crawl into bed with him and wake him up nice and slowly.
just start being the same person you were for the last 7 years.
i agree with mandie
wow, tell him you miss the sex. if hes anything of a man he will do you on the spot. revisit some old romantic places from when you were dating?
You probably need to loose some weight
give him a baby…
gifts……more gifts.
talk to him and find out what you need do to get the spark back
how about going to a couple’s retreat?
get blow job lessons and suck his dick off
love him and see if he loves you back, try talking to hime
good luck!
awww~
be more sexii.. and TALK TO HIM.
bring things from victoria secrett
cause i mean, its been awhile hasn’t it??
so.. hehe. get ur groove on x]
‘LOL
you can’t make someone fall in love with you.i’m sure if he was in love with you in the first place, he still is in love with you.
theres obviously a deeper problem to this.
have you tryed talking to him??
other than that why dont you try to be spontanious??
i really hope everything works out.everyone desereves love.
and no, dont bring another woman into it.thats retarded.
be spontaneous, and do role playing, with him.
stop talking. and bring young legal brazilian girl in the bed room.
You can’t "get" someone to fall in love. You can try to re-spark the romance. Do things that you did before. Talk – be open and honest instead of accusing. Tell him how you feel, what you want, what you need, etc. Be ready and willing to hear what he has to say.
Good luck.
Use your imagination. The point of a marriage is to be together for the rest of your lives, and not only that, but to be IN LOVE. Use lingerie, lose weight, different clothes, whatever it is that would make you look as beautiful as you could be. When he comes home from work, welcome him, make dinner, after dinner, lay on the couch together, enjoy time together. The next day, spice it up, and get dirty with him when he comes home from work. Just be a good wife, I’m sure you know how, remember when you first started dating, and how great both of you used to communicate, etc.
Go to a marriage counselor. Something is terribly wrong. Have you asked him what is wrong? Therapy is a really good option, see if he will go with you. If not, go alone. If you think he isn’t in love with you then you will need to develop your own interests and get involved in something like Habitat for Humanity or another charity. Helping others always gets your mind off your own problems.
what ever you needed to do the first time, it still works, dont be afraid to go back to the old tried and true, only you can prevent forest fires, but this is where you want one burning hot and bright, and sex is not only the answer, but the end result
BJ… use your imagination what that stands for :p
It is possible there maybe a reason for this. I would try to talk to your husband and try to come up with solutions to this issue. You could also write down on a piece of paper what make both of you to want to be together, then share with each other your list. If both of you have a difficult time talking about the issues at hand without getting angry I would suggest going to couples counseling.
. Go to the place you had your first date, take out some old love letters and photos.
. Buy some toys or games or outfits and experiment more with your sex life. Have some fun, pretend to be someone else, try something new, make him excited again.
. Make a general effort to improve your relationship. Buy tickets to take him to see a movie HE likes, cook him his favourite meal, go on a romantic holiday together.
. Make sure he knows that your feelings haven’t changed just because you’re married. Assure him that you still find him attractive and funny and kind, and that you can both have fun together just like you used to.
Communicate with him and see if you can determine the problem. Seek therapy and do what u did to get him…to keep him…and vice versa. Do not let 9 yrs go. He is already kind of trained (smile)
My bf has the best saying in the world…..I will work harder at making this relationship work than I have ever done at anyone’s job….we get married August 09. GL boo…and love urself more than u love anyone except Jehovah.
Spend more time doing things that you know he appreciates; show him attention and make an effort to look really good so he will take notice. Be the aggressor when it comes to your sexual relationship; make things exciting and be irresistable. You have to work hard to keep things going all the time and make changes to keep things exciting. Many people don’t sleep in the same room for a variety of reasons but they make the time to make things special when they are together. Be imaginative and try a little harder. He will notice and it may just make a difference. Good luck.
cant make him fall in love with you again. he’s already checked out of your marriage. talk to him and if that aint work decided if this is the marriage you want.
I’m sorry to hear of your situation, it’s sad that people seem to burn out so quickly especially in marriages. I went through the same thing, sorta. I guess just do your best in seeing your own value and worth, do your best at treating him good and know for yourself that you’re beautiful and desirable and hopefully he’ll come around. Seek counseling, maybe he’s treating you this way because there’s a "skeleton in his closet" Do your best to talk with him about this issue.
Your not in a hole.
I would say set up a nice dinner for you and him. Make him realize your still interested him. Wear something you know he likes to gain his interest.
And think about this, Why did your husband initially fall in love with you?
-Did you have a certain carefree confidence about yourself?
-Or maybe a great sense of humor that came with an award winning smile?
-Or you ability to support him in everything he does?
-Or how when you two were together, you could talk for hours, or share comfortable silences, and still have a great time?
If you share this time together, and it doesn’t really work out. Opt for marriage counselling.
It may sound somewhat "severe" now, but if your marriage is at cost, it is definitely worth it. These counselors know what they’re talking about. And almost every couple who has gone has some sort of a success story to tell. And don’t forget, you don’t need to go as a couple. If your husband doesn’t feel comfortable going, you can still benefit a lot going on your own, but make sure you at least ask his opinion on going.
And remember, the first counselor you meet may not be THE counselor. Try looking around
You have not given any information to get a good answer
A relationship does not go from great to nothing in less than
a year unless something happened
And getting him to love you again depends alot on what "happened"
Well, Don’t bring in another woman. That’s a huge mistake!
Try to make your marriage more interesting. Let him know how sexy you think he his. Rub his arms when he picks something up and say ,"oooh honey, you’re arms look so bulgy when you do that."
You might even exaggerate about how impressed you are with his "size." Cook some of his favorite meals. Leave him sexy notes. Watch and learn sports with him. It sounds so stupid and one sided, and it is, but women tend to adjust to a mans likings so much easier than the other way around and to everyone’s enjoyment. You don’t have to give up what you love, just learn to love what he loves too.
Men love adoration. He may just be comfortable. Just because he is comfortable, doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
Perhaps he has erectile problems. Tell him how much you miss making love to him and that you would give anything to start again. Dont make him feel embarassed about it, because this kind of problem can be very touchy.
Could possibly be having an affair.
There is no communication between you two, so you may never know what went wrong or what’ s on hs mind.
You must force him to speak to you and tell you what it is you need to work on.
It may not be something you want to hear, but bear it anyways and listen to every word he tells you.
Figure out what went wrong in the marriage and why you think he is not in love with you. You also need to see how willing he is at trying to restore the union. What ever attempts you make your husband must also be willing to make the same investment at getting things to a better place.
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