“The Love Dare” book and letting emotions get in the way?
I started the love dare book on yesterday. Our marriage is a little rocky, not perfect, but not in divorce court either. I did good yesterday, but today is the random act of kindness. I am struggling because my husband has not said happy birthday to me at all. I am a very practical person, gifts and material possessions are not my thing so I am not upset about not getting a gift or a card or going anywhere. I decided to rub his feet as my act of kindness, but I am so upset about the birthday thing that I can’t picture myself doing it or approaching him to do it. I know it sounds silly, and I should look past that, but I am struggling. I guess it really isn’t a question, perhaps needing a little outside motivation from people who would like to save their marriage or those that cherish their marriages. Thanks!
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Ok… first I want to say that The Love Dare saved my marriage.
Second… one of the things the book talks about is showing love even when the person doesnt deserve it.
An act of kindness could also be picking out a nice outfit for him and laying it out. When he asks what its for, tell him its so he can take you out for a very nice birthday dinner… dont yell… dont get angry… just tell him calmly and be firm that its what you are doing.
This would be a way to point out what he has forgotten and also act kindly about it.
Things like this are emotional and can leave you feeling forgotten and angry…. but if you want to better your relationship you have to change the way you react to things.
I don’t know what the "Love Dare" book is all about, but if my husband forgot my birthday, I would just tell him that you felt sad that he forgot your birthday. Perhaps he’s a busy man and totally lost track of time???
Tell him it’s your Birthday , about how it makes you feel to not have heard it. Could he have forgotten? Life does get busy! Let him know about the book you are reading and your idea of random act of kindness. Do your best to be a good wife to him and if he fails you, he fails you. You’ll know you were a sweetheart and went on with your good plan despite his insensitivity.
I would communicate to him how you are feeling. Ask him if he knew it was your birthday today. If he said he did, tell him how you feel about it not being acknowledged. You can still continue your Love Dare tasks today if you wish, but I don’t see anything wrong about discussing your birthday if you feel that it’s important.
maybe make a comment about your birthday to remind him. I remind my husband for several days leading up to my birthday. Keep going on the book I know it gets really hard especially if the other person is being a jerk that day but remember to ask God for help