My husband left me and his kids at total random? Why or better yet, how can I save this marriage?
This is so out of the blue. He is so romantic and treated me like a queen and as soon as my ex got out of prison I helped him out. My husband took this as a threat and left me. He is now saying he just doesn’t love me anymore. How do I save this or can I?
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sounds like there is more to the story. Your ex would be viewed a threat to him only if you started becoming too involved with your ex (like calling to much, seeing him, HELPING too much).
You have a lot to lose with kids and a husband, especially a husband that takes such good care of you and treats you like a queen. If he’s bending over backwards to treat you- and you go help another guy, he could be hurt right now.
You need to DROP contact with your ex. There is a reason he’s your EX and a reason he was in PRISON. Please go to your husband and prove to him that he’s more valuable then a con. It will save your kids hassle too. Good luck~
you made a big mistake helping your ex get out of prison i would leave my wife if she did the same thing,
Girl if he can say that he just don’t love you no more just like that, then he never loved you in the first place… I don’t think this could possibly be true seeing that you have children, but it still could be a possibility… Personally, I think you guys should talk this one out. Open your heart and open his eyes, see what his real reason is… Really No more love?? Or is there someone else?? I’d give him a heavy heart for leaving you with the kids…
Make him believe you don’t care. See if he comes around. If not, go back with the convict and live a life in the gutter. You should have never helped the ex.
Well, this is an issue of trust for him. In his eyes you have broken his trust. In a marriage, the man sees his role as protecting the family from outside influences that are harmful. In helping your ex, you exposed your family to a situation that your husband viewed as a threat. You need to make him understand that you view him and your family as your priority and will never put anything before that. Maybe you could write vows and recite to him. Do something in a big way, make sure you have his total attention. Tell him you know you screwed up in a big way, but it’s because you have a big heart and have a lot of love for all people. Just make sure he knows that he is the priority and no one ever comes before him.
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