Comments on: Is it possible that my husband who had a 4 month affair could love me, his wife again?

By: flagger_guy

flagger_guy — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:33:09 +0000

Is it remotely possible that your critisicm of his finances and asking for space to " breath" pushed him away? You state that he has improved his finances. You had no idea that your space meant he’d get his affection elsewhere did you? In our culture men are supposed to be the provider. Your reminding him of his deficiencies in that matter belittled him. Then you said your suffocating me? No wonder he went to another woman. That does not say he wasn’t in the wrong but you have to take responsibility for some of it. You have to understand that he wanted caught or he would not have. You seem so wrapped up in yourself you did not know what he was doing. He allowed himself to get caught to deliver the message loud and clear. If you don’t want me I can find someone who will. She made him feel good. What you call being more mature (still judgmental)may just be feeling good again. You have few choices at this point. Answer this question , Do I want to stay married? If so you need to ask him to stay. You also need to make it clear that you will not accept his cheating any more. Both of you need to work on your marriage without the outside distractions. He probably did not want to do this in the first place. I do not believe he wants this other woman and her kids or her husband would have also found out. You have to stay out of her marriage. Work on yours. This supposes that you want to stay married. You can deal with an affair, people do it all the time. You also now know why it happened. You need to assure it will not happen again. Only he can do that and only if only he wants to. If you do not want to be married or if he liked what he found its time to end it now and move on. Start over with a better understanding of how to drive someone away.

By: danetterjohnson

danetterjohnson — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:33:09 +0000

it’s strongly he can he probably never stopped loving you but i’d question his motives b/c if he found grounds to cheat in the first place who is to say he won’t do it again!

By: HopefulHelper

HopefulHelper — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:33:09 +0000

Unfortunately Susan it sounds as though your husband has made a lot of positive changes since becoming involved with this woman. Things he wouldn’t correct before with you he has now made efforts towards since meeting her and that would indicate he has very strong feelings for her. I think the most you can do is to ask him to be honest with you and that whatever his decision is you will accept it and each move on with your life.

By: countrygirlcansurvive

countrygirlcansurvive — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:33:09 +0000

leave his A**…you can’t love somebody and put them through that kind of pain…you will always think about it…and probably never trust him again…it sucks.

By: fold_ngo

fold_ngo — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:33:09 +0000

yes it is possible