My husband tries so hard to make me happy. How can I fall in love again?
I’m just not interested anymore. I go out on my own and well I don’t get butterflies in my tummy for him anymore…
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sounds like you have a good man. think about what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Love is a verb – so try to make him as happy as he tries to make you happy. come up with some role playing games to spice it up. go out on a date together or walk on the beach. look at him, deep in his eyes, and remember the beginning of your relationship and how you felt then. he is good and good is hard to find. you actually can fall back in love with someone,. good luck to you.
this is why we have so many failed marriages, women like you ready to give up, you took vows you need to grow up and stand by your man!
Just go find the right one, beside why you marry him for
You have to accept that you are past the honeymoon stage and are on to a more mature loving relationship. Find things that still turn you on about him. The butterfly feeling can’t last forever.
depends if you have children or not first…you know the answer of why the butterflies are gone….
when couples get comfortable, they lose the flirting and actually being friends…
if you really want to stay married to this man, take action of your own and see if you can get a different "reaction" from him…treat each day as if you were dating again.
I know, easier said than done.
It worked for me believe it or not…
But it’s a 2-way street too….
"Spa night" always works
now thats really sad! you can’t force yourself to love someone. but please try to respond to him. dont make your marriage a disaster! why don’t the two of you go for a vacation…spend time together – just the two of you….
Fix it.. Go to marriage counseling. Maybe there’s something mental that is blocking your love.
Don’t give up so easily you might regret it in the end. Try everything you can possibly think of first before throwing the towel in.
I reccommend reading the 5 love languages by Dr. Gary Chapman together. You wouldn’t think that a book could really make a big difference, but it really will, its success rate is crazy high. My husband and I read it on our honeymoon and it completely changed our relationship, which we thought was already good. It is so incredible! Please please read it. I would give you my copy if I could!!!!
It’s possible if you really want to fall in love with him again..but you gotta work at it and be honest with about it. Tell him that you want to work at falling in love again and rekindling the feelsing you two had when everything was new.
You are in a rut. Take a small vacation together without the kids or any distractons. Play couple games to build the intimacy with one another and seduce eachother.
Think about what your life would be without him in it….may just bring tears to your eyes.
Well you have to put of your own part to do so. Think about the positive things. Spend time with him and do things for him as well. Same was happening to me but it was my mother in law who was part of that you have to spend time with him and pay complements to him. tell him what you don’t like about him and let him tell you what he doesn’t like about you.
Where did you get the idea that the butterflies stay around forever?
Butterflies are from the natural attraction required to pair.
They cannot exist through the life of a marriage, familiarity prevents that feeling of newness.
You are confusing attraction with love.
Today seems to be the day for the "Love Is Voluntary" answers. No one can make you love them and you cannot love anyone who you decide you don’t love.
Your husband is trying to make you happy?
That would be his biggest mistake.
He cannot make you happy otr love him. both of those feelings come from within you.
So here we are again, asking, what has he done that YOU no longer love him?
If you are chasing butterflies good luck. When you catch them they either die in the jar or you stick a pin in thier back and mount them in a box.
Why is a guy who attempts to please so bad that you have turned off your love?
You gotta make that happen, it’ll never be the same as it was before kids and when you’re younger and dating that’s part of the kit and caboodle.
Get out on date nights, make time for each other, do what each other likes to do, just casual time works wonders as long as it’s just the two of you.
It’ll happen if you want it.
Is he doing the right things when he’s trying to make you happy? Maybe there’s a need that you have that you’re not in touch with. Do some thinking about what you Really want out of your marriage and see if he can give you what you need. People start looking away from a marriage after their husband is not bothering to do the little things that they used to do anymore.