How do I forgive and love again?
Hi all,
I’m still legally married but have been separated for almost a year and a half now. Our marriage came to a stand still and we were not talking much. Things have improved a lot since our separation but my wife seems to be having a lot of fun partying and not taking responsibility for our son. Our son stayed with me for over a year, he is both our pride and joy.
She got lawyers to setup some papers for a divorce and I signed but she has not given it to the lawyer yet. She is working some distance away from me and I only see our son every second weekend. She had a lousy paying job which the hours were totally louzy and she use to leave our son with her mom to look after.
I have organised her a job in the same town as me and she is happy. Can I forgive her for what happened to us and learn to love her again or do we just not go back there. I love her to bits but she became addicted to chatting on the internet while we were together. I don’t think she chats anymore.
Related Information:
Tagged with: divorce • job • lawyer • lawyers • marriage • mom • partying • pride and joy • taking responsibility
Filed under: How To Get Her Back
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!
Forgive for what?
like nike, just do it
by trying again
It’s easy to forgive but to be inlove again only time can tell…..
If God who is the almighty forgave us, who are we not to forgive! But it has to be genuine in order for it to work! You can not be throwing the past back and forth! You have to learn to go on! Everyone has a weakness but sometimes as victims we contribute to the fire!! Sometimes we are so hurt that we don’t notice that we are causing hurt ourselves! Humble yourself and love again! Teach your child the importance of family, love and forgiveness….Jesus loves you and you should love one another!
well do you still love her would it work does she love you
remember love has no boundaries and forgiveness is apart
of love and respect and without these qualities you cant
have love just lust there is a difference
and the first cut is the deepest
time is the best medicine!
why didn’t u sit down n spend time with your family.u said she is addicted to chatting so u can catch her on net….and discuss yourself ……….but plz be polite and generous…..try n understand her likes n dislikes…..right know the situation is tight……….n remember a mother always want to c his child happy and happiness lies in family……..so make a 1st n honest move and c what happens!!!
You can forgive her for anything if you love her enough and want to stick this thing out. I don’t know how far she took this internet chatting but if she was only chatting I think you should forgive her and start building trust in her again if she is committed. This brings up another whole topic: Is she willing? Sounds like she is enjoying this freedom. If you do love her and you want your marriage to work sit her down and have a long discussion about getting back together and your expectations of the relationship. Let her know you love her but if this happens again you will leave and never look back! Good luck!
Use it or loose it- you lost it. Can I use money spent ,twice? No, I have to make some new money. Do you think love is for free?
there are no rules in love but just love itself…look if u still love her and u fell that u could still work things out why not give it a shot…if she says yes then good for you and if not well,at least you’ve tried…
It is more difficult when there are children involved, however, love should not be one-way traffic. Think of forgiveness this way . . . If someone gave you a hot drink, you can either hold it and get burnt, or just let go until it cools.
Well its hard to say wether you should forgive her or not as you do not actually say what she did, was this chatting on the net, simply that or did it lead to more. Only you can answer that. Things have improved a lot since you separated, this can be for two reasons, one ………..that you are better off apart, you can still love each other but sometimes two people just cant live together. two………..you maybe needed this break to make you both take a look at your relationship. Try not to give up to easily. If you BOTH think the relationship is worth saving, for the right reasons, then try to make a go of it, but don’t rush, take it slowly.You both need to take a look at why the relationship broke down in the first place, why she felt the need to spend so much time on the Internet. There is usually faults on both sides.Look at this and see if it can be repaired and dealt with.The fact she has not given her papers in yet may suggest she is not sure. Communication is the key, she may be waiting for you to speak first and visa versa.The important thing to remember here is you have a Son, everything you do and say will have an effect on your Son, so take his feelings and needs into account and don’t let him get caught in the middle of this.
"You will always believe your first love was your last, and your last love was your first!"
Be sure to write this down, and hold onto it
When you do finally move on, you’ll realize its true meaning… its not over for you girly, not by a long shot. Take your time, and you’ll see your way when its time.
be sure to save the quote. My grandmother told me this years ago, and it still remains true with most things in life… as you replace them, things are quite as they seemed before… be content in how it works, and accept it for what it is.