What makes a husband fall in LOVE with his wife all over and make his eyes sparkle again?
We have been married for almost 5 years and we just had a baby one year ago. He used to call me all the time from work and say hello beautiful. now he hardly looks at me when he gives me a peck on the mouth. He makes me feel so insecure. I try to dress nice for him but he doesnt complement me. Most of the time he says he doesnt care if I dress up that I look fine with out make-up. I dont get it! He Doesn’t believe in divorce nor do I…however this also makes me feel like mabe he is not in love with me anymore and feels like he’s just stuck with me. I rather someone leave me than feel like they are stuck with me and don’t love me. I confused, In every relationship I have had in the past the men were totally in love with me I could see the love in their eyes. I was always the one to leave them and they kept looking for me. This is so different for me I feel very insecure now.
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The problem is HIM, not you. Now that you have to spend so much time taking care of a child, he may feel (immaturely) that he isn’t the center of the universe anymore.
You are finding out what many women find out–that there is a weak, self-centered side to the man they married.
Don’t act desparate–that just fuels his ego and arrogance.
Men want what they can’t have–that never changes. Stop trying so hard–and give him distance. One person can not fix a broken marriage–it has to be both.
great sex
Everytime she shows him that he made the right decision………
Check out the book Love Languages. It has some great advice for keeping love alive in a relationship.
u are pretty and sexy
Arrange a date.that reminds him of your first date.maybe same place,or same activties.or just do somethine romantic and sweet.snuggle maybe.slow dance.peaice and quiet and some alone time can solve it.
I’d like to know too, after a while it just seems they don’t look at you the same, they don’t touch you the same, and that spark isn’t there anymore. I know how you feel!
For me it’s usually whenever she does something surprisingly nice for me. Something small from out of the blue….it show me that she still cares for me and in turn reminds me why I married her.
great sex
nice body figure of the wife
attractive fashion
nice long hair
prepare his favourite food
massage him once a while
shower with hime once a while
leave your kids with your parents once a while and have a private time with your husband
make him remember the first moment you saw him
be romantic like the early stage of relationship
play his favourite song
start your day by hugging him…
always remind him that you love him so much..
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I have been married 10 years and we have never lost the spark. We keep things fresh and new by communicating well, trying new things, making each other feel like we are the sexiest people alive etc. It just takes work but it is SO worth it. Don’t let every day life get you in a rut. I have heard so many people say "I am married, why should I care how I look?" That is so wrong. You should care for yourself and your spouse. Don’t ever take things for granted about yourself or him.
If you have not been taking good care of your outlook, then go for grooming class. If you have those curvy assets, flaunt them to him.
Tease him with tight fitting clothes revealing your cleavage and body curves and wriggle around the house.
If he still does not notice all this, send him to the optician to get his eyes checked.
Tell him he’s amazing every day! (If he is, that is) And give him the blowjob you’ve been putting off!
When he truely comprehends how great and true her love for him is.
When he feels he has hit bottom with no way out, and as he looks up, there is her hand reaching in to pull him out……
When he’s going through troubled times and emotional turmoil and he looks up to see his head has been laying on her breast, her hand upon his head………
When he is drowning in a sea of tears and as his vision begins to clear, he sees it is her drying the blurr of salty water rimming his eyes……..
When he is old and gray and ailing, it is her hand that gently washes and feeds him and eases his suffering………
When he guestions himself and his judgement , he hears her say, " I trust you"……
When he is riddled with quilt for having hurt her, she whispers…."I forgive you"…….
Unexpected surprise.
I am carrying his baby and he just stares in awe at me and always touches my belly….. its like we are falling in love all over again!
my husband says he likes the smile i give him but really, get a good babysitter that u trust and tell him when he gets home u have a surprise for him when he gets home take him out on the town and when ur just sitting there at the table or whatever touch his hand smile tell him u love him and weak at him i think ur a n excepional husband a great dad and i love you i just thought youd like to hear that,now tell me what what u think of me, please hunny i really would like to know good luck
hi i am 26, i have been with my wife for 7 yrs. we have a 2 yr old and a 2 mth old. if u want him to treat u like he used 2, then u have to treat him like u did 5 yrs ago. physically, mentally, verbally, and sexually. wake him with a good morning **** he will think about u all day. i promise..
Right attitude
It sounds like you need to discuss this with him- but do not do it in an angry way, otherwise he’ll just get mad and close himself off.Try acting the way you did when you first got together.Try slapping a mad passionate kiss on him; initiate hot crazy sex in an unexpected part of the house, at an unexpected time.Hold hands in public; embrace him.Maybe he’s wondering about regaining the spark himself.Take the baby to a trustworthy sitter and rock his world!
IT DOESN’T SOUND LIKE HE HAS FALLEN OUT OF LOVE WITH YOU AT ALL!!!! FROM WHAT I AM UNDERSTANDING ABOUT THIS, IS THAT YOU SEEM TO HAVE A GREAT THING GOING WITH HIM! HE STILL KISSES YOU WHEN HE LEAVES, HE LET’S YOU KNOW THAT YOU LOOK WONDERFUL TO HIM IN EVERY WAY, IT DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU DRESS UP AND PUT MAKE UP ON OR JUST BE YOUR TRUE EVERYDAY SELF! I’M SORRY, BUT I THINK THAT, THAT IS THE SWEETEST AND BEST COMPLIMENT THAT A HUSBAND COULD EVER GIVE TO HIS WIFE! HE IS LETTING YOU KNOW THAT HE LOVES, AND WANTS TO BE WITH YOU FOR YOU, AND YOU ALONE!!!!!! IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU AT ALL! YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL & LOVING PERSON TO HIM IN EVERY WAY!!!!!!!!!! HE SOUNDS LIKE A GREAT GUY! HOLD ON TO HIM!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!
It sounds to me like you need to have a serious talk with him…let him know that you are feeling insecure….communication will help…alot of men get so caught up in daily life that they forget to be themselves…I’m sure that once he realizes his neglect that he will be himself again…and if all else fails…get as sexy as you can and go take him lunch…after his co workers give him sweet compliments he will realize he has a prize that way too….
The great sex you had the first 6 months or year is biological in nature. It’s nature’s way of getting you reproduce. After that, you settle into a "love" state for a while so you can raise a child.
A great way to cheat nature and get that lust back is to play some sex games to keep things fresh. As the wise sage Chris Rock said, "You got to recycle the pxxxy. If it ain’t new, it’s through."
When people get married they relax and get comfortable. With the baby added to the picture it is normal to loose some of the romance. It doesn’t necessarily mean there is trouble. He might just be taking you for granted. Get out of the hum drum. You tried by dressing for him but go all the way. Make it a point to spend time together. Your probably a good wife and mom so you don’t have time to be a good girlfriend. Date each other again. Get a baby sitter, dress up and go do what you use to do. See if you see any signs of affection. Hopefully your both just caught up in responsibility and when you take some time together you will feel some heat again. It is different after marriage but it should still be there. If it’s not you two have to honestly talk about what’s going on but don’t judge him, just show you care and don’t want to loose what you have.
great sex? good looking and helpful wife
pay back it’s a wake up call
big breast…
I think surprises are great and also mabey if you dont show too much attention to him he will chase you if you think about when you first got together you may have not been too worried about what he thought about you and to guys that has some sexiness to it the fact that you know you look good and you can do without him . good luck
Never let him get that bored to start with. Always make him wonder what you’re gonna do next.
Honestly….sit your husband down and have a long talk. Tell him how you are feeling. He is probably feeling the same thing, but just doesn’t know how you might react. I’ve been in your shoes before to where my wife was feeling the same way. I had to reassure her that I am still madly in love with her as the first day I met her. It’s just that when you have a baby, it’s a whole lot of other responsibilities that you have to take care of…and it wears you out. He could just be stressed out and don’t know how to come to you about it…and the same with you. So just sit him down and have a heart to heart talk.
Try doing the things that you did before he decided to marry you. Don’t just dress up, dress sexy. Meet him at the door in a sexy outfit and drop it off after he steps inside. A naked body makes us men just forget what else is going on.
If he has special interests, try to like them too. If he loves football, make the popcorn and sit there with him and cheer. If he likes to fish, ask him to get you a rod and reel so you can go too.
Make his favorite foods. It’s true that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Meaningful touches are important. Not just groping either. A hand on his hand or a touch on the cheek. A love pat as he walks past. These should be done at least a dozen times every day.
Tell him how much he means to you. Let him see what a great woman he has.
If he still does not respond, its not you. Hope it works out.
Its because sexually your washed up with him. He doesn’t like what you have bewteen your legs anymore. He wants fresh young tenderloins. It is known to be fact!
Once you have a baby a guy looks at life differently, more responsibility, wondering about the future,etc.
before baby it was just the two of you playing house, now it’s for real.
right now, just close your eyes and think about what he can do at this very moment to make you feel happy. now open your eyes when you are finished, and go do that very thing to him.
i’ve never been married, but i can probably give you some advice. i think you should try to take him back before you got married and had the baby, back to when you first met or on your first date. try to rekindle how you left about him back then and how he felt about you. just forget about the present and focus on the past for a day or two and probably end it in a great romance.
I think sparkle are in his eyes for another woman. after the wife have the baby,s the man go out looking for someone new to f…
communicate
be honest to him and tell him what you dont like
and then work on it
give him unexpected surprises
dates, great sex, massages, more attention
boost up his ego
make him feel good about life. make him feel important enough
make yourself feel good about life. boost your own confidence. look after yourself. dress well
tease him
squeeze him
forget sex for a while. let him yearn for you. he would yearn if you tease him, touch him passionately, act a little unavailable but at the same time pay attention to him…
look into his eyes and tell him a good morning and good night
touch yourself in front of him while changing clothes etc but dont give him sex for a while
sex would then be great!
When the bloom is off a relationship, it’s off forever. This is a normal thing and you shouldn’t let it bother you. Now’s the time for you to roll up your sleeves and get down to the business of being married, rather than simply being in love. All couples have differences that can’t be resolved. Accept them or leave. Most everyone in the whole world who is married learns this.
The exceptions are shallow Hollywood stars who pack up and leave the moment they find that they aren’t hot for each other every waking second of the day and they call it irreconcilable differences. Hello Carmen Electra.
You said that you were the one that always left and that these men would look for you…..is that what is bothering you? The Chase?
What would happen if you respected him enough to get back the security you have in yourself?
Building a Family, and taking on more responsibility takes away the attention you are used to showing to one another.
Jealousy comes in many forms, let it go……..next time he is leaving for work, and he comes towards you with "The Peck", try reaching out for him and remind him of the Passion and Sparkle you still have for him.
Arrange a Play Date with your husband, and a babysitter for your child.
Show him how you can Shine!!
For your info, men look at women not their dress. The dresses are for other women folk. Your baby must have caused a small gap in your otherwise steady relationship. If you are back to normal health and fitness then start afresh and spend more time with him. Go on a vaction to release the stress of work and routine life.
You need to talk to your husband and tell him how you\’re feeling. A lot of people feel like they don\’t need to make the same effort with each other once the wedding is over but you have to maintain the marriage just like you had to work to get it.