SEX PROBLEM because of gym. PLEASE HELP!?
So this is my (sad) story… My husband and I got married about 2 months ago. We SAVED our selves till marriage, I’m in my early 20s hes in his mid 20s. We seen each other for a few years, we did mess around but never had sex till we got married. So i would imagine us being like rabbits but we are NOT. I want to have sex all the time NOT HIM! This is his reason! he’s been in gym ever since like 14 so he has really good results now and one day he read in some sport magazine that its not good to have sex more than 2-3 times a week. So that’s what he is doing. And I can’t talk him out of it I mean it sucks!! He doesn’t want to have more sex cause he wants to do good in gym, for him gym is #1 its always been. Okay i do respect him being a bodybuilder and all that but is there anyway we can have more sex like at least everyday. I mean I’m a hot girl: 5.6, long healthy hair, 34D, small waist, mid size a$$ I know its not cause of my body and he thinks I am drop dead hot too. I did try to tease him, dress up, text him naughty, all kinda of things BUT it doesn’t work or if it does and we start having sex then in the middle of sex he will remember HIS gym and boom "it" dies, and I just want to cry. How can I make him want more sex with this gym thing? I don’t want to leave him he means the whole world to me! And we did talk about it I told him that I feel undesired and all that but he says he doesn’t want to do anything that would make his results in gym go down. Can anyone give me some advice here PLEASE HELP! I want more sex! and I don’t want a divorce for SURE!
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Leave little hints that you are looking for some hard dick out side your marriage.
He may not give you more but you will find out how much he really cares,
your hubby is an idiot
Why don’t you tell him that sex is a workout then maybe hell want to workout with you.
buy a vibrator
This guy has issues. I workout but I wouldnt refuse sex.
never buy the car without a test drive baby!!
first of all 2-3 times a week is great so take it easy. secondly, he’s a dork. third, i go to the gym almost every day and also wack off and i don’t think it makes any difference. if i don’t wack off then i end up drooling over all the babes in the gym while i’m there. lastly, if you go to my gym i’ll help you out on the other days.
you have an addiction. your husband has no temptation. well i got nothing good luck
Too bad you didn’t know about this before you committed for life. That’s why i think people should not wait until they are married to have sex, or even live together.
I have never heard of lots of sex being a bad thing for your health in any way. I think this article he read has no basis in science or research. Try to do some of your own research and find a reliable source that contradicts this article. Then you can show it to him and prove to him that that’s BS
Vanity can be a sin when it’s this retarded.
Threaten to get it somewhere else. Tell him you need a real man.
Okay girl listen, it’s not just the gym here that’s the problem, going to the gym and working out has NOTHING to do with sex drive no matter what he tells you. If anything it makes a guy have more energy in bed. He is having some kind of sexual dysfunction, it is NOT normal for him to go flacid in the middle of sex. Looks like he could possibly be on steroids or something too, you may want to check into that. You really need to get him to go to a doctor. None of this is your fault! He has a serious problem. Working out at the gym lowering sex drive is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard to be honest. I’m sorry to break it to ya!
You also sound a lot younger than early 20′s.
Welll if ur so bleady drop dead gorgous go and get someone else and btw i dont think that many people are gonna read all tht its boring
umm ok. calm down! if he really loves you he will understand you and if you really love him you will understand his needs…just say you need more action
Let him come to you
have u ever heard of a dildo? buy one. make sure he finds it. when he asks u why u own it tell him because he cant get the job done. youll either get angry sex or a pissed off husband.
Congratulations!
This is the 8 Millionth time you have asked this question!
he’s gay or in love with his own hand.you can’t win against the hand.
Sounds to me like his needs are more important than yours. He seems selfish, he needs to give you what you want. Maybe you could try some kind of counseling with him, if he’d even go for it.
try looking up information that debunks his theory of too much sex being bad then he won’t have a reason not to have sex more often
That’s why you should try before you buy….you are married – for better or worse. You can always get yourself a box of joy and utilize it when he’s down and out…Sounds like he is no less self-centered today, then he was when you met him. Good luck!
Tell the jock to grow up. How he does in the gym doesn’t matter, he is going to ruin his marriage. Tell him you want the two of you to go to counseling. His priorities are all wrong. I think you probably made a mistake marrying this guy that is so into himself and obsessed with the gym and body building.
haha…the gym has NOTHING to do with it. Just stop having sex with him all together and see what he does? ANd if he asks whats up…just say, "have sex with the gym"
Wow, he is really not very smart. You need to tell him that YOU are more important than the gym and that all the workouts in the world do you no good when you cannot enjoy his body. He needs a serious priority shift.
maybe act like you dont care, next time he wants it tell him no, make him beg. dont give in to him. make up some excuse why you cant have sex with him. maybe he will feel how you do. maybe, he is a man.
hes greedy tell him to think about others before him
He’s wrong. Actually doing it 2-3 times a week is healthy. And it actually is a workout.
he’s a dumba$$…. sex is a workout, it won’t affect him in the gym
Well he ain’t much of a man if you ask me, no man turns me down.
Child no man and woman have the same sex drive. 2-3 times a week is probably a little better than average so relax! It’s ok! And you love him, it’s not all about sex (or shouldn’t be) so it’s not cause for a divorce!
go to tyra banks…
shell help you
or phil
I agree with someone else who said your husband is an idiot. I would have sex with you everyday of the week. Tell him to not worry about the gym. You should be number one in his life not some workout routine. He needs to get his priorities in order. He can still workout and all but he should be giving you the sex that you desire or else you will be tempted to get it elsewhere. Try couples counseling or some kind of sex therapy otherwise you are just going to have to get used to your hand or something else when he doesn’t want to give you sex.
wow that’s tough. Unless he is a professional athlete I don’t see what is wrong with having sex more.. I’ve heard of not having sex the night before a game but I don’t know. I have heard of herbal supplements to get a better sex drive, but you sound like he just doesn’t want to because of his body? Slip him some herbs. All legal ofcourse.
your husband is a fool. if this were my wife I would find clinical data that shows that having sex all the time will not affect his workout. in fact, he should be doing you as a warm up.
When he comes home from the gym, is his butt sore or his breath spunky?
Just kidding (kinda). You need to get a friend on the side. A friend with benefits. When he is off at the gym, and you have that itch that you need scratched, get in touch with that friend and let him enjoy the benefits.
I am a very loyal person who can (somehow) manage to separate feelings from sex. Try me.
Witholding sex from your wife is just wrong! I really hope that you can stay faithful.
Anyway, a good way to get him to "see it your way" yet still compromising with his obsession (you married his obsession too, you know), is to tell him that in order to keep lean body mass and flexibility that is essential for joint health and prevention of orthopedic injury, he should have sex with you. Having good long sex is great for stamina, endurance, mental strength (to hold back the orgasm), and cardio vascular health, which men need more than women to keep heart disease and other cardiovascular ailments far away. A good hour of sex is like running a few miles, if you’re good;). have sex be his "complimentary" workout.
If he still acts like this, he is totally into himself and working out, or he needs therapy because it might be something going on with his mind and his feelings toward sex that you wouldn’t ever guess, and it could be painful for him.
Love each other.
It must be you i never have trouble getting sex i sleep with married men bet he wouldn’t turn my hot azz down.
HE is a moron – is he taking steroids? – Ask him what good is all that working out if he can’t be a man in bed? – leave him – sounds like a real Turd.
why does he care about his "results in the gym"? the idea of working out is so it improves his capabilities elsewhere in his life – like stamina in the bedroom. He is severely mentally deranged if all he cares about is how many times he can bench press 300 pounds or something
Alright, a lot of people are saying it might be some underlying issue other than the gym. I suppose that’s possible, but try this:
Go online or go to the library. Research and find statistics, polls, or articles that say it’s perfectly healthy to workout and have sex on a daily basis. As far as I know, there isn’t anything out there that says you can’t have sex every day if you want to work out. Also, what is the magazine he reads? Maybe it’s not as reliable as he thinks it is.
And if none of that works, sit him down and talk to him again. This time, don’t tell him that you’re feelings undesirable, or that he is hurting your feelings. Be straightforward with him. Tell him he’s being unfair, that you KNOW you’re an attractive woman, and that you shouldn’t have to go through this for the gym. And, I’d also like to point out that in MY opinion, you, his wife, should always go before his work. That’s what love and marriage means.
And maybe you can’t get him to have sex every day, but maybe you can work something else out. Perhaps you can have sex 3-5 times a week, and if you want it other times, he should be open to oral or something. That way, you get what you want from him without him having to worry about messing up his routine.
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