Comments on: sex therapy=last chance to save marriage, but:? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: dad0three http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/comment-page-1/#comment-4864 dad0three Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:13:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/#comment-4864 Sex therapy is probably not going to save this mess. MAYBE full marriage counseling would, but I kind of doubt that, too. You just don't understand love. As someone else wrote, it is so much more than 'getting your juices flowing.' You probably did have a self-esteem problem when you first began to deceive him and married him for the wrong reasons; but now that you're aware of that, you're just shallow. Don't torture the guy any more until you grow up and understand love and commitment. If you think he'd be hurt & bitter towards you now, just imagine how he'll feel if you waste any more of his life before leaving (again) to pursue your selfish passions. If you really want to try to save this, and I mean more than 'not feeling right getting a divorce...,' treat it as a matter of LIFE AND DEATH! Go ahead and try the sex therapy, but more importantly, get into joint counseling, possibly individual counseling, and if you're at all affiliated with a religious institution, seek out guidance from a member of the clergy. And, whatever you do, STOP LYING to him about your true thoughts and feelings. If you're not going to make a real commitment of this, you are doing nothing more than stealing away more & more of his life, preventing him from finding the true love he deserves. Just because you apparently are not ready for true love, does that give you the right to prevent him from finding it? Sex therapy is probably not going to save this mess. MAYBE full marriage counseling would, but I kind of doubt that, too.

You just don’t understand love. As someone else wrote, it is so much more than ‘getting your juices flowing.’ You probably did have a self-esteem problem when you first began to deceive him and married him for the wrong reasons; but now that you’re aware of that, you’re just shallow. Don’t torture the guy any more until you grow up and understand love and commitment. If you think he’d be hurt & bitter towards you now, just imagine how he’ll feel if you waste any more of his life before leaving (again) to pursue your selfish passions.

If you really want to try to save this, and I mean more than ‘not feeling right getting a divorce…,’ treat it as a matter of LIFE AND DEATH! Go ahead and try the sex therapy, but more importantly, get into joint counseling, possibly individual counseling, and if you’re at all affiliated with a religious institution, seek out guidance from a member of the clergy. And, whatever you do, STOP LYING to him about your true thoughts and feelings.

If you’re not going to make a real commitment of this, you are doing nothing more than stealing away more & more of his life, preventing him from finding the true love he deserves. Just because you apparently are not ready for true love, does that give you the right to prevent him from finding it?

]]> By: KB http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/comment-page-1/#comment-4865 KB Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:13:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/#comment-4865 YOu need more than just sex therapy, you need full on marriage counseling, and maybe some counseling for YOURSELF to unveil why you have such low self-esteem and you may possibly be depressed. There is more to marriage than "juices flowing" and marriages take a lot of work. YOu need more than just sex therapy, you need full on marriage counseling, and maybe some counseling for YOURSELF to unveil why you have such low self-esteem and you may possibly be depressed. There is more to marriage than "juices flowing" and marriages take a lot of work.

]]> By: days of writing, nights of wine http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/comment-page-1/#comment-4866 days of writing, nights of wine Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:13:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/#comment-4866 I think for both of your sakes, you should end this marriage. You have caused your husband a lot of pain (in cheating) and he should not have taken you back, thus enabling you to do it again and again. Being that you aren't attracted to him - set the poor guy free so he can go find someone who will be interested in him and he can have a loving relationship. You're just holding him back by remaining together. It's too bad though, it sounds like he's a truly good guy who deserves so much better then you. I think for both of your sakes, you should end this marriage. You have caused your husband a lot of pain (in cheating) and he should not have taken you back, thus enabling you to do it again and again. Being that you aren’t attracted to him – set the poor guy free so he can go find someone who will be interested in him and he can have a loving relationship. You’re just holding him back by remaining together. It’s too bad though, it sounds like he’s a truly good guy who deserves so much better then you.

]]> By: HeatherLyn http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/comment-page-1/#comment-4867 HeatherLyn Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:13:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/#comment-4867 Eh, just divorce him. Monogamy doesn't work. Eh, just divorce him. Monogamy doesn’t work.

]]> By: bigdog_0032 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/comment-page-1/#comment-4868 bigdog_0032 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 19:13:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1437/sex-therapylast-chance-to-save-marriage-but/#comment-4868 You are lucky he took you back, Sounds like yuou have him wraped around your finger. If you really love this guy then try. If you dont and you dont want to be married to him anymore then get out. Dont string him along. I dont like the younger woman, That dont know what they want until they hit there 30's. You are lucky he took you back, Sounds like yuou have him wraped around your finger. If you really love this guy then try. If you dont and you dont want to be married to him anymore then get out. Dont string him along. I dont like the younger woman, That dont know what they want until they hit there 30′s.

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