What can I do to make my husband love me again?
We have been married a little while now and have a 6 month old son, things have been pretty good all in all but when we fell in love everything was so perfect and now he works really long hours and I take care of the baby all day and when he comes home he never wants sex and he rarely hangs out with me, he works on the car, or spends time on the computer or watches football (or another sport at different times of the year) and lately I have been feeling like I live with a ghost instead of a husband. I have told him I feel lonely and he told me he felt I complain too much. I cook for him, I clean and I take care of the baby. I also try to get him into bed but he pretty much just isn’t into sex anymore but he says it’s just him and nothing to do with anyone else and he says he loves me. I don’t know what to do. I need help to get things back on track as I have no idea what more to do for him.
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well i hope u continuously worked out post birth. keep that body in good shape & get some kinky lingerie to keep ur man happy. worked for me in the past, til i traded him in for a richer one
maybe he is being honest with you about a phase. i’m sure having a new baby is an adjustment time for him, too. i’m afraid if he won’t let you, you can’t get close again. just keep trying and until you can’t.
Assuming this is baby #1, he may be overwhelmed with the responsibility. Get a sitter & go on a date. Have fun! Good luck!
Mary in Camden, MI. USA
Typical woman…here’s your problem: You can’t FORCE somebody to love you dum dum.
Try working out hard and looking hot..instead of walking around in a moo moo dress.
Well, when you go to work again you are going to find out how tired he feels because you will be taking care of the kid and doing all the housework on top of going to work and then trying to have a relationship.
Tell him either to have SEX with you or you are getting a new lover!! Plain & simple.
Your husband has the baby blues. Just like women, men can go through it as well. A baby is a huge blessing, however can also ruin a couples energy when the parents are not ready to bring a baby in the house.
The problem is not the baby or you, the problem is the communication that didn’t happen before and after the baby!
First of all, when your husband (or partner) no longer wants to have sex with you, that is a big red flag. Something is causing him to act this way and you need to find out why asap before you drift even further. Sometimes we get tired and don’t feel like having sex, but for the most part a man is willing to take part in this act even if he’s been working all day. For that person who made a dumb comment about you not working so you don’t understand what it’s like, well that is a very stupid and ignorant comment because being a full time mother is HARDER than holding a 9-5. I know because I’ve done both. Anyway , I don’t want to say it’s another woman, but you need to talk to him and have a real sit down. He could be having financial issues he’s not discussing or work problems. Sometimes men don’t talk about things but you have to remember that you’re his wife and should be the number one person he can come to if he’s having a problem. If he keeps telling you there’s nothing wrong, then he’s hiding something because men don’t reject sex for no good reason. Also, if you have a 6 month old I hope you are keeping your look together because men can’t stand when women let themselves go, they may love you but lose the attraction if you don’t keep yourself looking good. Try getting a new outfit and hairdo. If he STILL doesn’t notice you then there’s defenitely something wrong. Lastly, make sure he’s not surfing the web for porn.
Give him the reverse psychology gimmick. Don’t pay to much mind to him and he’ll wonder what’s up with that. She is not pursuing me like she use to any more. Get all prettied up, get short pants, show some skin. Put lip gloss for shinee lips and just a little blush. Nothing to fancy ok, when doing house chores try to look your best hair, may be nice body spray maybe a different scent. Take care of the baby, but remember your husband. Some get jealous because we woman are paying to much time to the baby and not to them but remember in this case when you are free from the baby just do something else OK
Well I hope it helps, Just some crazy advice. Use it if you think it will help. Gook Luck you and your family
LV
Think about it he says he loves you and your thinking what else am i supposed to do to save this relationship.
If your cooking cleaning for him he should have noticed
Would you rather fight for his love and stay in your marriage
or would you rather find love on its own because the main focus is how you will be happy
Know what comes ahead of you and re evaluate yourself before you end up fighting for his love for a long time
some relationships arent always about physical main focus is spiritual if you dont even have that what are you doing?
But I also understand that you have a son so it will become a lot harder
knowing that it will affect your sons life
But if you stay in your marriage what example will your son have when hes already hitting 6 or 7 asking you why dad doesnt give you kisses
you know?
Honey give the man some breathing room he works and is tired just give him a little space don’t bug him for sex let him come to you . keep the house clean and take good care of him make sure he knows how much you appreciate him and just love him by doing that it will get better maybe you could get a sitter every once in a while and go to a movie and dinner if that’s in your budget.sounds like the honey moon is over but the marriage has just started and if you really need get a little vibrator .your husband has a lot on his shoulders .just keep on loving him unless he cheats or beats you ,
Jekyll and Hyde were very real. A part of the man’s brain shuts down when he gets married, they have MRI’s that show this sort of thing. So you are now living with some one you did not marry. You are absolutely correct, he is a different person. It has nothing to do with you, especially the sex. He would act the same way if he married a porn star. What to do is the $64 question. There are possible solutions but people on this forum don’t like to hear them. Good luck.