Is my marriage worth saving?
I’m 32. I have been married for going on 4 years. Not long at all. My wife and I became reconnected about five years ago. About a year after that I asked her to marry me. A little quick I understand. I don’t think we took enough time to get to know each other the way we should have before marriage. About a year went by and we ended up in counseling. We went for about two months and she said we didn’t need it anymore. I felt we did. We DON’T have a lot in common, food music, sense of humor, passion for sex, or foreplay, for that matter which in my book is huge. I’m not saying that I’m just some overly horny guy but I like a little excitement when it come to sex. Not just hop on and lets go. To make matters more complicated we are pregnant. It’s our first, but I’ve fallen out of love with her. I don’t hate her or anything I just don’t think we are meant to be together. She on the other hand does not believe this at all. I’ve been going to counseling and she finally just started this week. I’m not running away, I want to be there for our child and I want to make sure that my wife is comfortable. I’ve told her how I feel and I feel like an ass for doing so. The past two years just seems to have leveled out and fizzled to nothingness. I probably should have discussed this with her before getting pregnant. I just don’t feel it anymore! Any feed back would be helpful.
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Opposites do attract. I think that something brought you two together, and you need to try and go back and find that something that made you want to be together. It’s gonna take 2, you both have to do your part, bring back the romance and the courtship of your relationship. Be open to change. She should want to please her husband, as he wants to please his wife. Is the Pastor who married you doing your counseling? That could help. Sex plays a large part in a union, so you 2 should really try to meet half way on that, I guess the main thing is listen to one another, be open to try and experiment new things, sacrifice sometimes even when it’s something you don’t care for, to make your spouse happy, work at coming to a common ground. I hope things work out for you 2, but if not, try and remain friends and cor-gel to one another for the baby if no other reason.
no. she should find someone who loves her.
I wouldn’t stay together just for your child if you are no longer in love with her. If you don’t think you can fall back in love with her, then I think the answer is to split. You both need to find people who you are in love with! Life is too short.
I had the same issue with my husband and please be careful with the counseling I went myself and my concealer kept enforcing me to leave my marriage..our marriage problem was we were distant that’s all but I kept going to counseling and she kept telling me i should leave so I did ..What a dummy I was let me tell you..I lost the best thing I was just stupid and listened to other people and not me concealers tell you what ever you want to hear remember you pay them so why tell you bad things Just take some time for you and your marriage you sound smart look you married her for a reason right??? Reflect back as to what made you fall in love with her what made you ask the question of marriage PLEASE don’t give up these days everyone answer is divorce I disagree it takes strong people to be married and stay married are you one of those people???