how to tell if wife does love me?
ok I know these questions arre all over the net, and yahoo questions, but need some answers.
I made and earlier question on how to fall in love again with my spouse. well now I want to know how to tell if she is actually out of love or just confused.
My wife told me she is not in love with me, I have been trying my hardest to get her to fall back in love, ie( roses , cook for her, clean, write love notes, etc…) well during this time if our split we still live in same house and we watch tv together and stuff I scratch her back, rub her feet, rub her head, I have kissed her on neck and at first she did not fight it but then a second later she said stop, we do not sleep togeteher, I ask her if this bothers her and wants mne to stop she says she does not know, I ask her if her feelings have changed and she does not answer. I tell her that she is not leading me on when I do these things,I truly love doing it for her it makes her feel good. I feel though that she does love me.am I wrong
ok some detail. I do notr beleive she is in love with someone else, i truly feel, that she does not know what she wants. I have given her time lots of it. I know I am probably overthinking this , but feel if i don’t do something now she will think her feelings are correct and we will never get back together, she is depressed a lot, she does have a lot of things to do during day which I want to help but they are things that only she can do. she is a worry wart she worrys about everything she is always worried we will come home and the house will be on fire, or broke into. I feel that with all these worries and things todo she can not give herself time to think about us. I would love to make it where she did not have to do anything at home so she would not worry so much, I feel this is what is keeping her from concentrating on whats important ie our family.
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Stop over thinking this. It sounds like your wife has been very honest with you about how she feels. The fact that you two are only separated but still living together and still spending time together hints that she is honestly there trying to figure out how she feels. If she didn’t have some feelings for you then she would have left by now and filed for a divorce. You just need to be careful and not go over board focusing on pleasing her all the time. She is probably looking for a lot more than just your attention. She is probably looking at your life as a whole and where the future might lead. Take time to make sure the rest of your life is as good as possible. Love is more than just emotions, it encompasses all of life. Be patient with her and don’t push too hard or all your work may have the opposite effect and drive her away if she feels smothered all the time. Remember, what you do for her now needs to be things that you can continue to do for the long haul for the rest of your life, and not just for the moment to fix things between you.
Go to a counseler….something went wrong and u need an expert advice
Of course she loves you. She can’t help it. The real question is… Is she still IN love with you? Sounds to me that she needs more time and you need to give it to her.
Perform acts of sex with your tongue on her.She will become your slave.
the first sign of knowing ur wife doesnot love you anymore is that, every thing she has been doing willingly becomes borden to her and when you visit friends and family she wont fit in anymore. most importantly she wont allow you the access to her body anymore
open your eyes she wont let you kiss her she is not in love with you but she is willing to use you and keep getting back scratches and foot massages!!
stop doing these things and she will leave i garuntee it !!!!
love is not these things it is sticking by you when you really need it and you need it now but there is no sticking by being done!!!
sorry!!!
Please man get a spine!!! What does she do for you??
Very simple if she swallows she loves you if she spits she doesn’t!
Has something happened to cause your wife to feel this way? Communication is obviously important. She needs to tell you what she’s thinking. Don’t get mad at her responces, just talk to her about what you want for both of your futures. She can’t make you feel unloved b/c that is painful, espically when you don’t know.
send her a letter and say it was from one of her best friends let her anwser and say I will take it to the letter box or where ever and open it and see
I think deep down she does love you but what ever broke you two up in the first place keeps coming back should we say to haunt you.Maybe your pushing things to quick why don’t you try talking with her,tell her how you feel and your more than willing to change if that’s what it takes,cuz I feel one of you did something to the other and it’s still affecting your relationship.good Luck and Take Care.
If she isn’t doing those things for you and seem to be preoccupied, she has probably fallen out of love with you. She is probably seeing someone else. We will let you scratch our back and rub our feet but when it comes time for sex, if she doesn’t want it then her feelings have changed.
I think if you could get her to see a Doctor it might clear up one thing that hits me in the face in your post. "Depression".
She does not sound to me, and neither is she acting as if she no longer loves you. I feel this woman "may" be distressed or depressed and needs professional help.
She also seems to be totally confused, and depression can have that effect on anyone.
Please, keep loving her as you are; don’t push things on her, just show her love emotionally. The little things you do, even without reward, hopefully will add up to one big thing long term.
She needs the love, and I suspect some help and advice.
You sound like a wonderfully loving husband, and I wish you both the best.
I’m so sorry you’re going thru that, maybe she’s just going thru our womaly changes that we go thru, but if not then, why dont you leave her alone for a while and give her some space and wait and let her realize the kind of man you are.
I dont know you but you sound like a nice guy. I know you dont know me, but I’m having problems with my husband too and he isn’t giving me enough attention and I try everything, but it seems like all he does is either watching a game or playing his video games, and we jus got married 5 months ago.
All the stuff you do for your wife even though she’s been treating you funny, I sure wish my husband would do for me. I’m really despreate, can you please help me and do me a favor and email my husband and tell him to do all the things you do for your wife, but without letting him know how you found out. Please I really need help, his email address is: imahoopa04@yahoo.com
Please I need help too. Write my husband or email me and tell me what should I do at: missgiles2003@yahoo.com
you know that she loves you when you have an argument , and she cries , and when you make love she looks deep in your eyes and she says she missed you when you were gone at work .
You do know it can’t be all one sided here if she has not figured out that she wants you in her life, your effort maybe for all for not. You know love can never be a one way thing. You may find that it to late to save it. as Long as you know you gave it your best effort and feel in your heart you did your best. And you can live with idea you did all you ca.
Maybe its time to stop and let her figure what way her life will go. Sometimes you just have to let go, if her happiness is whats important to you and you love her you May just have to tell her just that you love her enough to let her go, even if it tearing you up. Good luck Buddy.
She had an affair behind your back and does not know what to do and feels guilty.
Just get divorced, she will not return, give her a time line, 10 days to get back on track, by either going to see a doctor or therapist, or some action to show you she cares about you or wants to make this work.
If not move on, you are wasting time.
hi i am your position too although she my wife does have sex with me, and she is enjoying it, but its quite infrequent compared to the early years. but its always me initiating and she will quite often refuse. if i were in your shoes i would have to have done somthing so bad that she would have found it intolerable to continue. fortunately i have pulled her back when things get really bad and i have had to eat some pretty bad reactions in order to carry on. it has only been recently that i feel willing to truly move on but i dont feel that many of the easily given assurances of intimacy have been equal o my efforts. i still feel i owe it to us to persevere but there are weak moments when i become moody and hyper sensitive requiring some affectionate response to get me back on track.
i could not carry on if she didnt try too especially wrt sex i am impressed that you did but i would imagine either
1. she is bpd or depressive
2. she strayed and is now guilt ridden and avoiding telling you the truth or
3. .you have betrayed her trust and her admiration with your actions so many times that she no longer trusts you or her own feelings that you show desperately crave.
btw if you have kids already you may be able to turn this around with effort if not, or you cant either way, you must leave satisfied that looking at how you tried you could not have tried any harder. or you will carry some pretty awful baggage into your next relationship.
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