my husband doesnt love me anymore what should i do to get him back again?
What should i do to make him crazy about me although am not fat i always wear makeup ,color my hair,wear hot cloths for him but i can feel it he dosnt stand anything from me he just forgot our aniversery we just married for four years I love him I cant live without him am sick of fighting for this love he is not with me ..am sure that there is no one else in his life cos we spened the whole day togather but I wont wait till he fall in love with another i talked with him alot about that he just cant find an answer what he will say that i dont love you anymore help me plz should i fight more and more or just leave him just like that???
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It sounds like you and him need some counseling. Maybe you can start with separate therapists and then get into a joint marriage counselor or start together and then go separate. But either way someone needs to get some outside help. You say that he can’t communicate well and he’s not invested in the relationship and you seem to be doing anything and everything to please a man who doesn’t reciprocate.
I’d go and speak with an unbiased third party to help you with your problems. In the grand scheme of things, four years isn’t a very long time to have been married, and have you so worried about losing him.
if he doesn’t love you, then he’s moved on… so should you..
go shopping buy some lingeria and when he gets in bed turn some slow music on and put on a show or pretemd to be bending over and show some booty&breast!
talk to him about going to a marriage councillor.
tell him you have concerns and if can’t open up…(lots of guys have trouble with opening up)…this is a good way to help your marriage.
Nothing. You should ask what to do to take yourself back. Looks like you lost yourself.
If a man does not love you, find yourself and start over.
Do not lose your time.
I would ask him flat out if he loves you anymore. If he says no then I would leave. You two really should sit down and have a heart to heart conversation about this. Let him know what is bothering you because communication is key to any relationship. My mom once told me that at least if you are fighting, at least you are communicating.
You need to chill, first of all I can see your self esteem is in the toilet. You have to be OK with you before someone else can.
How sad. It sounds like if you have talked to him about it and he is not willing to work on the relationship it may be time for you to think about moving on. I am sorry to say that, but you really can’t make someone love you. He may realize what he has done once you are gone, but you cant wait and hope for that. Seriously try to look towards a future with someone who will love you unconditionally for life, not for four years. Good luck!
It is not how you look that attracts men long term. Men may be attracted to the wrapping in the beginning, but it is what’s inside they want to keep or get rid of. If you want to be a keeper then you need to find out what your husband wants from you. Do you do activities together? Do you support him emotionally when times are rough? Are you two best friends? These are the questions you really need to seriously ask yourself. When you are a true mate to your husband nothing will separate you. Eye candy isn’t all that hard to find, but a deep emotional bond is rare and precious.
You said it yourself: he doesn’t love you anymore. It’s hard and it hurts but it’s over. You will only be hurting yourself if you try to get him back. He SAID he doesn’t love you anymore. There is nothing you can do. You could make him sleep with you again. You could maybe even make him stay with you but you CANNOT make him love you. I’m sorry. This is the bane of relationships and you don’t want to be one of those pathetic people who hangs on to something that is gone. Let it go and let him go.
Give time for yourself. Don’t pay him too much attention. Show him you have self-esteem and better things to do other than wear make-up FOR him, wear hot clothes FOR him, etc. Your world doesn’t revolve around him, although he is your husband. You try to satisfy him just as any woman would to their husband. But if it’s not enough for him, then it’s time for you to back off. We can only give so much. At one point, it’s your husband who has to give and not just take. Don’t stop dressing cute and looking hot though, just give time to yourself. Give him something to think about. And then you know what will happen? He’ll come running back to you again.
Let bygones be bygones!!!
Well firstly good for you making so much effort to keep the spark alive. A lot of married men and women don’t.
It sounds like his problems go deeper than how you look. He has either lost the "spark" (which you can get back) or he has genuinely fallen out of love with you (which is very hard to get back). See if he will agree to go to counselling with you, or if not go on your own and discuss your feelings. If you can’t get the love back then you need to move on with your life. I know it’s heartbreaking, but you deserve better than a loveless marriage.
You probably should leave him. I’m one of those guys that’s married but don’t enjoy my wife’s company. I’m plannning to leave soon. It’s just the ying-yang thing where for one partner, it just doesn’t click.
Girl pray. God can fix anything. If it is meant to be it will be. You cant make a man stay unless he wants to stay. You cant keep a man that does not want to be kept. He will see that the grass is not always greener on the other side. You sit back and let God work. He wants you to be happy and not hurt in your heart. Your husband does not realize that you are a diamond. Where there is one that wont there is one that will. God makes someone for everyone and if he is not the one for you then God will send him. Dont worry. You just make yourself happy and do what you are suppose to do as a wife and God will handle the rest. Be strong. You are blessed and highly favored.
Well there is obviously something in his life distracting him from you.
Love fades, but I think you could get him back. Try not to divorce though , that will just ruin everything.
I would ask him sweetly about it and just ask if he still loves you, or do something that will make him love you , like get him something he has wanted!
goodluck!
You half lost me with the one long sentence, but its ok I think I got it…lol. Basically, you are bending over backwards to get him the wrong way. Stop trying so damn hard on your looks and foster the actual relationship. Try fostering your relationship by doing things together, and communicating. Show him that you love him in small little ways like bringing home his favorite take out without letting him know in advance, or his favorite alcoholic drink, or surprise him with saying you’ll do something with him that you might not necessarily be interested in (and he KNOWS your not ineterested in it). These small things let him know that you care enough to think about him, and want to make him happy. If he feels the love flowing from you, it might warm his heart to be loving back to you.
Maybe he doesn’t love you anymore because you’re a little needy? You do everything thing for him, but what do you do for yourself? What have to done to develop your mind? What makes you interesting to be around? It sounds to me like you spend a lot of time trying to get his attention; maybe he’s tired of you being so clingy.
Unless he’s told you he doesn’t love you anymore, you’re making a lot of assumptions. Maybe he still loves you, but wishes you were a little less dependent on him. It’s a lot of pressure being someone’s reason for living. A marriage counselor should be your first step; a good one will help you both communicate better and get to the root of your problem.
You can’t do anything, there is no magic trick that can change a person’s heart. If you really fill that he doe not love you any longer. I suggest that you all have a serious talk, you need to know once and for all. Ask him if there’s any chance of you two rekindling what you once had? Because if he has moved on, I suggest that you do the same. You, me , or for that matter no woman can make a man love her. Love occurs naturally between two people, sometimes even by accident, but never because you change something or do something new and wham they love you. That just does not happen. And instead of focusing so much on him, start focusing on you! Get a hobby, meet some new Friends, go to church, do yoga. Start loving yourself more and you will attract your true soul mate. You are a wonderful person, and you will be OK even without him. Good luck and God bless you!
Look girlfriend move forward not backwards, find you a new man who’s going to love you.
based on what you’ve said about yourself, it seems to me you’re an attractive woman. I don’t think this is a "looks" problem. He knows you’re pretty, but there’s something else going on. Maybe it’s something you’ve done or something you haven’t done. If there’s no one else involved, I would say he still loves you. Maybe he needs some time for himself. Everybody needs a little time on their own. If you spend the whole day together, maybe there’s no time for him to miss you. (since you’re always there) Give him some space, maybe let him join a club, (health, school) or something, and maybe you should do the same thing.
I applaud you for trying to save your marriage. Please don’t give up so easily. Marriage is worth fighting for. Seek counseling from a Pastor , Counselor or trusted friend.
I would recommend the book to you by Gary chapman "The five love languages". I think this resource will be helpful to you and your spouse.
Take care.
Give a lot of love without appearing "needy". Don’t nag, just do loving things without expecting much in return at first. Be the best person you can be because it is the right thing to do, not because you’re trying to make him love you.
LEAVE IT ALONE. You cant MAKE someone love you. Sorry for being so harsh but its true.