Love? Happiness? I had it all once…will I ever again?
I was married to the love of my life for 19 years and then suddenly alone, she left me a shattered man. That was 8 years ago, had a girlfriend for 3 years, she verbally abused me then sent me packing once she found a replacement. When the money dries up so does the relationship. people say time, the right one is out there etc etc. Find it hard to believe but the only woman I can trust is my daughter and my mother. I don’t know if I could ever ever handle another broken heart as I only have one and it never never healed. I miss my ex wife even after 8 years has gone. I am bitter, hurt and my attitude really sucks. I am soo sad, soo lonely and dread the idea of christmas coming and new years again on my own. To stay on my own, whilst lonely, at least stops me from falling in love again and setting myself up for a big thud of a fall again. I am now 48 yo and maybe this is just the way it is suppose to be until my final days.
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and what…. prey tell…. does this have to do with marriage and divorce?
get some counseling.
iam a woman and to be honest women are worse than men..but yea you will find happiness mabe not as fast as u like but it will happen and please don’t rush it take ur time enjoy u and be live me it will happen just not when u want it to happen
before you are able to get someone, you will have to work on yourself. build your confidence and self esteem, and work on your attitude. i had my second and best shot in my 40’s
I think you are pitting yourself, If it really has been 8 years you need to move on. There are wonderful people out there you just have to put yourself out there to find happiness and you won’t do that if you dwell in your last relationship. One thing I can tell you is do NOT let your past relationship affect your future ones because you are only hurting yourself and the new person in your life if you are holding on to past feelings and making your new person in your life suffer because you got hurt before. I went through being the new person and I was always being told that my ex didn’t trust me because his last girlfriend broke his heart and I just could never live up to her and so after 10 years I left him now he tells me that I was the best thing that ever happened and he doesn’t want me to go but it was already too late at that point.
Get some personal counseling to help you deal with all of this.
You’ll be doing yourself a big favor and whoever the woman who you’re involved with next.
You are responsible for your own happiness. So if you don’t have it you have only yourself to blame. If your life’s happiness depends upon another person then you need to rethink your life. No one else should be responsible for you being happy.
That is the kind of women you will attract with that attitude. What good woman wants a man still hung up on his heartache, unless she has more problems than you do. I have been through my share of heartache, but until I decided to let it heal I couldn’t have a decent relationship and was better off alone anyway (in hindsight). Love happens when you least expect it.
Fist of all stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop whinging and start living, you do nt seem to be an old man, stop acting like a one. The ladies like a laugh give them a laugh, not at you!. be more positive. Laugh and the world laughs with you cry and you cry alone… Good Luck…