Comments on: How Do I save my marriage?

By: Rapscallion

Rapscallion — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:50:41 +0000

Dude, your not responsible for her becoming a stripper. Quite frankly if she wanted to help pay the bills there were a billion other jobs she could have done. And your not responsible for the breakdown.

Quite frankly with the way this woman acted and is acting. I’d continue to look to better myself as you are doing and get myself another job, go ahead and file for the divorce and move on with your life and find another woman. Be thankful you didnt have any kids with her.

And quite honestly if you had sex with her after she became a stripper, i’d go get myself tested for any and all STD’s to make sure she didnt bring home a little present for you. It’s very likely that she has had more then a few sexual encounters with other men during her time at the strip clubs.

By: steelers_fann88

steelers_fann88 — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:50:41 +0000

I suggest you get off your butt and prove to her you are going to make a living for her.Show her you are going to care for her.Don’t take a job and then quit as soon as she comes back as most men do.That will only drive her away further.You are going to have to give her proof you have changed.Saying and doing are two different things.Good luck.

By: Brittney T

Brittney T — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:50:41 +0000

You can’t. If he doesn’t want it and you do, and you can’t save. Marriage is a joint venture, both have to want it.

By: lizanull

lizanull — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:50:41 +0000

Basically your wife left you because you don’t make enough money – you call that ‘love’?!?

Let her get the annullment – you won’t always be a janitor, just take it for now if it will allow you to study and go to school to better yourself.

Things won’t always be the way they are now – but they will for HER.

YOU are the one who’s going places and whose life will get better.

A stripper’s lifestyle is not that great – what kind of future does she have?!?

She might be making good money now, but so what? That’s just money – what about her self-respect?!?

I’ll tell you what happened here – she made a bad, BAD mistake to start stripping, her dad got mad at her about it, and she made her bad mistake ALL YOUR FAULT.

Well, that’s a bunch of crap, it’s NOT all your fault, it’s all HER fault, she’s the one who decided to start stripping, and she refuses to take responsibility for her actions.

Let her go. She’s acting like a money-grubbing whore. Oh you say that she’s not sleeping with other men well trust me, it won’t take long for that to take place, especially if there’s any money in it for her. Sheesh.

YOU DESERVE BETTER.

By: Terri J

Terri J — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 16:50:41 +0000

The best way you can show her how much you care is to get another job. Tell her that you won’t push her to come home until the first day of your new job.

On the first day of your new job, ask her if she’ll move back in while you’re at work. Won’t that be great, coming home with her there?? Keep picturing that in order to motivate yourself to keep looking. I know the job search can be frustrating, so keep thinking about that day, and you’ll make it.