Comments on: Why won’t my wife trust me? Will she ever again? Is there anything I can do to make her more secure?

By: Ash

Ash — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 22:05:57 +0000

Couldn’t agree more with bubba. 1 year into marriage and needing counseling. Good luck with that.

By: Bubba

Bubba — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 05:22:10 +0000

Here’s the facts:

1. You need to man up. Love or not, you are a man and you are acting like a woman.

2. You are probably lying, because you made yourself out to be totally innocent. Your confession reminds me of the interview answer I hear a lot that goes “my biggest fault? I am a perfectionist and I expect everything to be perfect”. Come on, your biggest fault is that you drink too much, you slack off at work and you were let go from your last job because you are a chronic underachiever. Let’s not kid ourselves. You were looking at porn because you want to do things with that frigid wife of yours that she won’t do.

Be honest with her. If she cannot handle it, you are babysitting a retard.

By: claire0917

claire0917 — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 05:37:24 +0000

Wow, your wife seems very insecure.. you seem like a very nice guy.

By: ♥ღRavens Destiny♥ღ

♥ღRavens Destiny♥ღ — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:32:30 +0000

Your wife’s insecurities sound very severe. I think she needs to seek professional help. Would she go if you went with her? Let her know how serious you see this issue. Tell her you want her to be happy and you will do anything to make her happy, even go to counseling. If that doesnt work I would think about talking to her best friend or someone in her family. That however might really make her mad, then again she might be more willing to listen to someone on the outside that she trusts. If she continues to absolutely refuse I would suggest you go to counseling alone for advice on what you can do. If things continue this way both of you will be very unhappy and it will take its toll on your marriage in the long run.

By: They Don't Like Me!

They Don't Like Me! — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:32:30 +0000

Sounds to me as if your wife has self esteem issues. If she doesn’t want to talk to someone you can’t make her, so you need to tell her that she is putting a strain on you with her self esteem and trust issues. Tell her she needs to try and fix it. At least that is what I would tell my husband.