how can i get my husband to love me again, been separated for 6 years?
I married my husband 16 years ago, we have been separated for 6 years now we live 2 blocks away from each other, we have a 12 year old beautiful girl and we are both good parents. 6 years ago I asked him to leave because he had a drinking problem and I couldnt take it anymore. I asked him to leave but loved him still. He has now been sober for 6 years since that day, I would love to have him in my arms again but he is happy on his own, doing what he wants & also a great dad. When I see him I still get a ping in my heart. How can I get him to look my way, how can I get him to fall in love with me all over again??? I got the courage up one day and asked about us, but he wasnt interested in getting back. I cant move on when he is the one I really want. What can i do??
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A make-over always helps…try a boob job.
No matter what you do, you cannot make someone love you.
man its over. sorry! six years is just too long to be apart and then expect a relationship again. u shoulda talked to him after he was sober for like a year.
you only live once you only get one chance
make your move forget everything u love him and if your thinking that he might be thinking the same thing!!
just kiss him out of no where and see what he does
go for it and never look back
Talk with him see if he wants to get back together but live apart. This is probably better this way.You can appreciate each other better.
Tell him you love him dearly and want to get back together. If he says no, then you know how he feels and you can finally move on. Easier said then done…..
If you already discussed it and he didn’t take the bait then stop torturing yourself. It sounds like he has told you he isn’t interested so that should be the end of it. Look for love elsewhere while you are still young. Nothing makes a woman seem more desirable to a man then to have someone else want her.
Honey,
Unfortunately you can’t make someone love you. If he seems to be happy on his own, then so be it. Be thankful that he’s a good father to your daughter. What I suggest, is doing something to make you happy…whether this means getting a a makeover, getting a new outfit, etc. Go out and meet new people. Once he sees that you’ve moved on and appearing to be happier, maybe he will take notice. If he doesn’t, that’s fine too. It’s his loss!
hmmm, well I’m sure you remember how you met him. reenact that! or reenact a special day that you two had together….make him remember why he married you! I’m sure he really loves you deep down inside if he was seriously sober since that day.
If he is not interested in getting back together, then there is NOTHING you can do but ACCEPT it.Your acting like a lovesick 13 yr old hon.
I am sorry it hurts, but at the same time you did the right thing because if he had NOT sobered up, your life and your daughter’s would be hell now.
Hi
well, you can try a love potion but honestly, you and I both know it won’t work. You cannot imbue someone with feelings, you cannot decide what your ex husbands feels or doesn’t feel for you.
If really you feel he is the only one, write him a letter, take the time to write it, to tell him everything from A to Z as to why you asked him to leave, and why you want him back.
Whatever his answer may be, respect it. Do your best to move on if he is no longer interested, and his feelings for you can no longer be rekindled.
You have your whole life ahead of you, and your daughter has the right to see you happy in a relationship, or on your own.
You owe it to yourself, to your ex-husband and to your daughter to move on in your life and find a new source of happiness.
Take care, and wishing you the best.
Bye
try to get sexy again and seduce him…it’s not like you are not sexy but change would help you
Wiseguy is on the right track. it would also help to start having your physical relationship in defferent places. I dont mean like a park or something, but different places, like different places inside of you.
When there is a gap in the relationship it is very hard or impossible to fill the gap. Try talking to him nicely. Give him a kiss. If it does not work you can not do any thing to get him back in your life. 6 years is a long time.
That’s a tough one, try to get help from your daughter.
me and my husband have been togather for 4 years but he left me last year to move out of state and what i did is when he came over i made sure i was dressed to the 10’s and mention i had a date but i never did instead i would sit and watch tv or play games on the computer it took about 8 weeks for him to relize he wanted me back i would get dressed up every time you know you going to see him and buy flowers and set them on your steps with a tag that says sweetheat or some sweet name right before he comes over and let him see them and if he brings them into you say ohhh (name) is just so weet and loveing he just sends me stuff out of the blue and act like you are falling in love with him again i hope it works out and if you would like me to help you though out the process u can email me babygirlstaken@yahoo.com i would love to find out how it works out for you!!!
He said he isnt interested but u all havent seen about filing divorce papers?
Tell him ur thinking about working things out or Making it final. this ’separated’ crap isnt doing anything for you. Plus you dont want to tie down a wild bird it will be nuthin but problems.
Go find the man who will make you happy, i know you want that family back together especially since hes a good dad, but hes made his choice.
I’ll bet talking about relocating somewhere else or getting married to some else will wake him up.