How do i get my ex boyfriend back and make him realise that he's made a BIG mistake?
Im 16 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. His name is charlie and he is 17. When we first starting going out it was amazing and we fell in love so quickly. We was like inseperable and it got to a stage where i had him wrapped round my little finger and he’d do anything for me and he was the most nicest person ever. He was always very over protective and didnt like me going out but i still did anyway. He also got me pregnant the first 5 months of us being together but i had an abortion so it made us a lot closer.
Then it all soon changed after the first year and a half. He cheated on me, and cause it was all a shock to me i was devastated and i took him back. Our relationship kind of ended then but we just wanted to make things work. He then got me pregnant again on the second year and at the time he was seeing some other girl and i was just in bits. Each month he would just make me feel more insecure about myself.
By this stage he was calling me fat and ugly. He then asked me back again and i took him back. He made me feel worthless. In february this year we split up and it was a joint decision because we was just arguing all the time. I really don’t understand him. Its like one minute he loves me the next he hates me. he just takes advantage of me all the time.
In the past 2 months ive been constantly ringing him and hes been saying were going to get back together but then always changes his mind. I would walk up to his house because i physically cant sit at my house i will just be pulling my hair out knowing im not with him. When he looks at me now its like inside he’s dying and he loves me but horrible words just come out of his mouth. Its like hes trying to make himself hate me.
I went round his house last week and he was saying to me he missed me so much and he loved me so much. Its like when im crying being all soppy and desperate he’ll walk away perfectly fine. But when im strong and being horible back to him he’ll want me back. So at his house we ended up having sex and it was really emotional. then straight after he was like meg go home. And i was just devasated. i dont understand him. I dont know what he wants. He just looked at me and you could tell he didnt wanna be horrible but he just said to me im so sorry my heads so fucked up.
Its been about 6 days since then, and hes got a new phone and a new number so i havent been able to contact him. Ive spoken to him on facebook but he just swore at me and then deleted me.
I know he lloves me just atm he thinks he hates me because i wind him up all the time. It just hurts so much to see what he used to be, the boy who would do anything for me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, to this monster who calls me fat and ugly and doesnt care if im crying. i dont know what to do to make him realise that hes made a big mistake. Because i know what charlies like, i reckon if i do just fuck off like im doing now, and i havent spoken to him in about 2 weeks he’ll panick and want me back and ring me or something.
I just dont know what to do. please help me
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he’s too young and so are u, he uses u and u keep letting him. u cut ties with him, and get some therapy because this is an obsession with you. love isn’t suppose to be like this, and the fact u keep giving in to him won’t make him respect u. yes it does hurt, when u try to be an adult and do adult things before your ready. he is immature and maybe doesn’t want to be tied down.
not even worth a try
I hope this doesn’t offend too much, but here goes. He is using you for sex, bottom line. You have got to grow a brain. This guy is no good for you, and unless you like being treated like garbage, you need to sever all ties with him. Grow up.
[1] he doesn’t love you. abortions don’t make people closer.
[2] you obsess on him even now, even after all that.
[3] he knows you do. he knows your "independence" is just an act.
[4] he’ll use you for quite a few more free f*cks until you FINALLY catch on that he is a manipulative user reptile. We’ll guess about 35 or 36 more times he’ll get you to climb out of your panties for him.
[5] YOU’RE the one making the BIG MISTAKE.
If you really want this guy back he has to want you too. Right now he’s not ready.
It may be this guy is totally wrong for you and no matter what you feel you cannot make someone change.
I would just tell him how you feel – write a letter mebe, it’s old fashioned but it will give you the chance to tell him how you feel.
If you keep telling him what a mistake he is making it really will not help.
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16 and pregnant twice already?
Sweetie… leave this whole mess alone.
Find a stable woman you can talk to and spend time with to mentor you.
Calm your life down.
Focus on your education.
Best to you, Honey.
xoxoxoxo
It’s easy to see it from the outside, he likes to have sex with you even if he knows that you are not compatable. Sex will keep any guy coming back no matter how bad the relationship is, but then he will want to exit as fast as possible too because he really doesn’t want to be associated with you. By calling you names he’s been trying to push you away because in his mind you are messing up his life by getting pregnant. He isn’t ready to be a daddy, and I doubt that you are ready to be a mommy. On your abortion the only thing he felt was relief to make him feel closer to you, that he wasn’t going to be a daddy then, and he wanted you to know how good he felt about that. He was also relieved because it meant he could have sex with you again and hopefully not have that happen again. But it did and it really wrecked what he had going with you didn’t it? That should be telling youi he wants nothing to do with someone who gets pregnant. It wasn’t in his game plan ever to be with someone yet, he just wanted sex.
I didn’t even read your whole post. just based on the question, you don’t "make" anyone realize they made a mistake. it’s obvious that you are really young, and need to understand that guys are going to treat you however you LET them treat you. also, guys are going to break up with you for NO REASON WHATSOEVER. He won’t be the last guy to do this to you, it’s called growing up. leave him alone and move on to the next relationship
Honey I wish I was there to give you a hug. You are so young and your circumstance is very complicated. Please check out the links below about chastity (purity) and getting over the past. It’s to bad that you had an abortion. If you ever want to talk about your emotions and experiences visit the Rachel’s Vineyard web site. Please don’t go back to your boyfriend. You’ve referred to him as a monster and you deserve to be treated with respect. There are good guys around, have faith, and good luck!
I don’t have an answer to all your emotional problems… but I do have an answer for your physical ones. GET ON BIRTH CONTROL! Continually getting pregnant is ridiculous…. and abortions are not meant to be a form of consistent birth control.
You can get your ex back. Many people including a friend of mine have done this.
My friend could get his ex back following this guideline from a tough situation after a nasty break up:
http://www.get-your-ex-back.info