How can I fall in love with my husband again?
Lately I have been annoyed by my husband and its because I hate the way he looks right now. He has gotten fat and sloppy. His face and scalp is always crusty and sometimes he stinks so bad I can’t tolerate him.Sex is sweaty and sticky so now I don’t have a desire to do it.I fantasize ALLL day about other men and pretend he is someone I like when talking to him or kissing him. I tried to tell him to workout with me but he dont want to. I think he is ugly and an embarrasment to me. I don’t like being seen with him. I am married and we have a one yr old. How can we save it?
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Lay down the law with him, be straight forward and tell him just that. Let him know that he is not the same man you once married. He sure as hell would not like it if you were the same way, so why should you have to suffer? Whatever you do, NO AFFAIRS. Do not cheat on the poor guy, and of course hitting up the gym does not sound to appetizing for an old lazy bum. So offer to go with him, tell him to bathe every night before he goes to bed. But seriously? How could you even talk about your husband like this.. you both don’t deserve each other and it is such a sad thing.. i don’t know but i hope this helped somehow?
if he’s letting himself go & not wanting to improve yourself i’m just not sure what else you can do. keep asking him to go work out with you & express yourself to him-tell him you’ve noticed him changing & you’re starting to not be as attracted to him as you once were. if you’re unhappy and he’s not willing to change for you then it’s probably time to leave. you don’t want to be with someone you don’t love anymore.
OK, well first of all I understand that you need to be attracted to your husband but don’t you feel anything for the person that he is inside?
If he is letting himself go have you even asked yourself why would he do that? Maybe something is bothering him? Is he depressed?
Happy people care about their appearance, he’s not happy for some reason.
I love my husband, and while I would be disgusted if he was a fat slob who smelt. I love him enough to help figure out why he was a fat slob who smelt
tell him if he truly loves u ..too change ..
Have you told him any of this? I’m sure that he won’t be happy to hear it, but he also won’t be happy when his wife drifts farther and farther from him emotionally over the years. You both need to go to a marriage counselor to work this out.
tell him all this. be honest. communicate and tell him that he doesn’t seem to care anymore and you honestly are thinking of leaving. If that doesn’t scare him into reality, nothing will.
Maybe you should talk to him about divorce and explain your reasons. This mights shake him up a bit. Also check out my source.
Do you really love him? Can you picture what your life would be like if another man was in your life instead of him? Is that a decision you could live with. Would you be able to move on and not have any regrets? What if you saw him in public after a while, how would you feel? I know this is a tough decision to make because it deals with matters of the heart, but if he is not willing to make even the smallest effort to improve himself , and you are encouraging him to do it with you, maybe you need to sit down and have a "Come to Jesus" meeting with him and explain your feelings, what you thought, what you feel now, how you would feel in the future and get some kind of plan together on what the two of you are going to do. Let him know you understand how discouraged he must feel, but let him know that the two of you have a child together and you have to take responsibility and set an example. If he has put on so much weight then maybe he is discouraged right out tlhe gate thinking that he has so much to lose that it seems so diffiicult and would take too long. Also, as far as his face and scalp, help him find thngs that would work and then tell him how much better he looks. and say, "doesn’t that feel better?" I know this is hard, especially when there are so many other men out there that woud want to be with you too. This is one of those Dr. Phil questions, so I would just say to play the "What If" Game in your mind and see what you come up with. Just process all information concerning you, him and the relationship. Also the level of happiness you feel or desire. Best wishes.
Hit him over the head with a frying pan!
It usually takes a few good wacks!!
Just keep at it!!