I broke my wife’s heart so how do I fix it?
Well in my previous posts I explained that my wife and I just had a new baby. She asked if I still loved my ex after hearing a song "In love with another man." I was honest and told her yes. For about a week she was not speaking to me the same way and you all made me reallize how hurt she was. I finally asked her today to forgive me. She said even though it hurts she respected my honesty. I assured her she is number one in my life. She made me realize how that almost broke up our home. She told me that if it wasn’t for the trials that we have been through she would not have the courage to stay with me. It has been fifteen years and she has given me her youth and her love unconditionally. She said we are all entitled to make a mistake but she knows she has to learn to forgive me and just needs time. How do mend her broken heart? I love this woman and am IN LOVE with her. My ex does not have anywhere close a chance ever in life. I would hate to lose my wife’s love and trust. She has always been there for me and now she is distant. It does not feel good. I am so sorry and now I am hurting because I miss how she was. But we are speaking again almost like normal. What can I do?
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You had strong feelings for your ex. Those don’t "just go away". Our hearts are big and are able to hold on to those feelings, remember them, and yet still move on to other relationships.
There is a reason that the other woman is your ex, and you can make sure your wife knows what that reason is. But your wife also has an "ex" in her life somewhere too so in reality she knows that it is reasonable and possible to be hopelessly in love with someone and yet still have "feelings" for someone else. Not "love" but a memory of that love. And why not. We are human and that is part of being human.
You were honest and you had every right to be. That hurt your wife so perhaps being candid was not the best decision. But in reality…I would rather be in a relationship where there is honesty and understanding combined with love and tolerance. Deception never works out very well.
Time will heal it. And if you want to help the healing process be a gentleman. I hope she can get over it, because it’s pretty serious.
OUCH…i would say just continue to re assure her that you are in love with her..women need to know that they are number one in a man’s life..dont just say it though…SHOW IT!! good luck and God Bless
Really? Really really? She is UPSET over THAT?!!! Whoah!!! And you have been together fifteen years and she stopped speaking to you over THAT!!! Well, we have a new winner, winner chicken dinner over here. I know that you are sad. What? Does she have you on a string? She needs to get over herself. You need to stop feeling so bad. What? Now she makes you feel like you can’t be honest with her? My ex treated me like shit, still does and my partner KNOWS that I will ALWAYS love him because he was my husband for 7 years and we have two beautiful children together. I think that the Mrs. is over reacting. Uh, move one. You are with HER. …What, seriously?…..sigh.
Tell her what your telling us about how much you love her. Send her flowers and candy everyday with some sort of card. Wake her up in the mornings with a rose on her pillow or a ring that says "You can’t live without her or she’s the love of your life." Let her know how much you care and let her have time. It would be hard for me if my love would tell me he had feelings for another woman but the heart can heal. Just help her’s heal and show her how much you love her.
TRUST is a very difficult emotion. But where there is love there is forgiveness and your wife first used that to get back. She loves you a lot and she is willing to overlook your skirmishes with life – but I think you owe it to her to build back that trust and love which she has given you unstintingly in all these years.
After all relationships are so brittle and she too could have just gone away but she was steadfast and was willing to walk along with you.. You have to tell her that may be you were frivolous but realised from her reaction of continuing to love you, what love is all about. You have to declare the deep respect you have for her and for the strength which has actually kept your marriage together. And that there could be no other woman in your life but her to love and share for the rest of your lives..
show her that she really is number 1 (get her back for me please all the way back)
I don’t know what the heck was wrong with you that you would answer in an such a way, it is not wise to be honest like that. You should have answered in a way that it is not lying, "why would i have feelings for my Ex, when I have you etc " You hurt her so much, my gosh. This is a lesson for you Next time, be wise, and stay truthful by answering in a way it doesn’t hurt the person.
How sad that after 15 years of marriage you are still playing silly games with each other.