Comments on: My husband had an affair with my best friend…What should I do? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Polley http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-71694 Polley Tue, 14 Dec 2010 13:06:07 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/#comment-71694 I will only add a short comment because it seems the other posters said it all. Look Becca, in regards to this thing about your husband saying that he is "in love" with your best friend.... all I have to say is GIVE ME A BREAK. With all the stress of becoming parents and the routine of everyday life, of course the other woman outside the family unit is going to look better. As far as it being your best friend, just know that he turned to her out of convenience. Let's have a little reality check here: hypothetically, if he was to leave you and hook up with your best friend, the routine of everyday life would eventually creep in and he would be right back where he started, only with a different woman and lots of baggage. Good luck, and I hope this little perspective helps :) I will only add a short comment because it seems the other posters said it all. Look Becca, in regards to this thing about your husband saying that he is “in love” with your best friend…. all I have to say is GIVE ME A BREAK. With all the stress of becoming parents and the routine of everyday life, of course the other woman outside the family unit is going to look better. As far as it being your best friend, just know that he turned to her out of convenience. Let’s have a little reality check here: hypothetically, if he was to leave you and hook up with your best friend, the routine of everyday life would eventually creep in and he would be right back where he started, only with a different woman and lots of baggage. Good luck, and I hope this little perspective helps :)

]]> By: Patricia http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-70143 Patricia Thu, 12 Aug 2010 13:30:06 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/#comment-70143 OKay so i dont know how long ago you posted your problem; screw them both!! Honestly its surreal how much our stories are similar. Just six months ago I found out that my best friend (who Ive known since I was 3; I grew up with this girl; she was apart of my family, a sister) had been screwing/ formed a relationship with my boyfriend. This guy was the real deal, we had been dating for four years. I suspected something and hacked into his facebook and found that they had planned to elope with each other. So I confronted her; asking her what was going on; when she denied everything I showed her the evidence I had formed; emails of they're heated online sex chat; complete vomit in your mouth. He was abroad at the time; I called him he denied everything and i just F***ed him off and hung up; I never seen him again. Okay so now not one day passes I think of them both. They were my people; but slowly but surely I'm getting new people! I'm so much better off without them both. And YOU will be too. Have respect for yourself and you daughter; confront them!!! And get the hell outa that relationship. Really when ya think about it; was your relationship that great anyway?? If it was to you; it wasn't to him... he did cheat remember. Dont make excuses for him, he doesnt deserve you. I hope everything works out for you. Things will get betterr:) OKay so i dont know how long ago you posted your problem; screw them both!! Honestly its surreal how much our stories are similar. Just six months ago I found out that my best friend (who Ive known since I was 3; I grew up with this girl; she was apart of my family, a sister) had been screwing/ formed a relationship with my boyfriend. This guy was the real deal, we had been dating for four years. I suspected something and hacked into his facebook and found that they had planned to elope with each other. So I confronted her; asking her what was going on; when she denied everything I showed her the evidence I had formed; emails of they’re heated online sex chat; complete vomit in your mouth. He was abroad at the time; I called him he denied everything and i just F***ed him off and hung up; I never seen him again.

Okay so now not one day passes I think of them both. They were my people; but slowly but surely I’m getting new people! I’m so much better off without them both. And YOU will be too. Have respect for yourself and you daughter; confront them!!! And get the hell outa that relationship. Really when ya think about it; was your relationship that great anyway?? If it was to you; it wasn’t to him… he did cheat remember. Dont make excuses for him, he doesnt deserve you. I hope everything works out for you. Things will get betterr:)

]]> By: Anushree http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-63400 Anushree Mon, 10 May 2010 09:44:09 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/#comment-63400 hi there... i would say, trust is the major thing in any relationship, be it friends, be it parent child relationship or marital. in your case, he's cheating on you, he's breaking your trust, like you said he would have ran off with her if you were not having a child, so there's no point you still sticking to him. no need of making a big hungama, go to him let him know that you know about them ask him explanation for that mail, you be calm, if he's so much attached to her and can live without you, i feel you dont have to wait for him. let him live his life the way he feels like. dont let yourself down, dont cry, dont beg, dont just do something which could make you more anxious. life isn't going to end there itself. you got long way to live life. that was my opinion. byeee..:-) hi there…

i would say, trust is the major thing in any relationship, be it friends, be it parent child relationship or marital. in your case, he’s cheating on you, he’s breaking your trust, like you said he would have ran off with her if you were not having a child, so there’s no point you still sticking to him. no need of making a big hungama, go to him let him know that you know about them ask him explanation for that mail, you be calm, if he’s so much attached to her and can live without you, i feel you dont have to wait for him. let him live his life the way he feels like. dont let yourself down, dont cry, dont beg, dont just do something which could make you more anxious. life isn’t going to end there itself. you got long way to live life. that was my opinion. byeee..:-)

]]> By: Anna http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-15553 Anna Sat, 19 Dec 2009 02:21:44 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/#comment-15553 So sorry to hear that...but now absolutley confront. The friend is no longer a friend..cant be...and husband if it were me no longer a husband kick him to the curb ....who needs a cheater?? Especially with your friend. Move on .... you dont need him....make him pay ....as much as possible up front ....men hate when you take the $$$ So sorry to hear that…but now absolutley confront. The friend is no longer a friend..cant be…and husband if it were me no longer a husband kick him to the curb ….who needs a cheater?? Especially with your friend. Move on …. you dont need him….make him pay ….as much as possible up front ….men hate when you take the $$$

]]> By: know how u feel http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/comment-page-1/#comment-13216 know how u feel Fri, 11 Dec 2009 00:06:12 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1700/my-husband-had-an-affair-with-my-best-friend-what-should-i-do/#comment-13216 Dealing with this same problem in my life. My husband cheated with my best friend from grade school. I found out and was heart broken. I confronted my husband and he denied it but eventually told the truth. When I confronted my best friend she was speechless and tried to deny it also. I decided it was best to get rid of the friend, she was no friend to do this to me and stand by my side at my wedding and lie to me all this time. Who needs friends like this? That will cheat with your husband. Please get rid of the friend right away. The whole thing turned into a mess and I had to make decisions about whether to trust my husband again (the perfect man like yours). The most important people in this are you and your husband and whether your marriage is worth it to stay together and be happy and trust in each other. I have decided to try to make it work with my husband after he apologized and has done everything in the world to be a better man. But it has been tough and now months later it is a struggle to trust him. Good Luck. Dealing with this same problem in my life. My husband cheated with my best friend from grade school. I found out and was heart broken. I confronted my husband and he denied it but eventually told the truth. When I confronted my best friend she was speechless and tried to deny it also. I decided it was best to get rid of the friend, she was no friend to do this to me and stand by my side at my wedding and lie to me all this time. Who needs friends like this? That will cheat with your husband. Please get rid of the friend right away. The whole thing turned into a mess and I had to make decisions about whether to trust my husband again (the perfect man like yours). The most important people in this are you and your husband and whether your marriage is worth it to stay together and be happy and trust in each other. I have decided to try to make it work with my husband after he apologized and has done everything in the world to be a better man. But it has been tough and now months later it is a struggle to trust him. Good Luck.

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