how can i make my wife fall in love with me again?
been married ten years three kids. we both work opposite shifts me nights her early mornings. i have weekends off she does not. very little time is spent together. she thinks that i don’t love her. i have messed up in the past, lied, not asking her or taking her dancing. she also thinks that i don’t desire her, i have always told her that she has a beautiful body and that she is a beautiful woman. maybe not as much as i should but i have done it. i have told her that i just got to comfortable in the marriage and that none of this would happen again, although like i said i have lied in the past. it breaks my heart to know that i have broken hers and i cannot stand seeing her hurt so much. please help.
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You need to live every day, from the moment you wake up until the moment you go to bed, like it’s your wife’s last day on Earth.
What would you do if you knew she was going to pass away in one day? What would you do to show her your love for her?
For starters, stop choosing to lie, and stop choosing to reject her. Notice I said, "choose," because these are all choices you are making. Write her notes when you get home from work (telling her why you love her and appreciate her), so she can start off her day knowing you love her. Never end a phone call without saying "I love you."
And…if possible, you two should take some vacation days from work. Don’t tell her where you are going, but plan something romantic. If you are low on funds, give the kids to a relative and cook dinner (Instead of a vacation). Set the table with candles, spread rose petals everywhere.
These are just a few suggestions. I can’t promise your wife will change right away, but if you continue to choose to live your life like the way mentioned above, you could possibly end up in a happier and more positive marriage.
Think positive and do your best to make her happy. All the best!
u need to spend more time with each other, plan for a vaccation (may be the place where u spent yr honey moon )
its very hard with your work schedule…..take a week off and go someplace alone together. Maybe you cannot take being with her anymore either…you need to find out.
take her away for the weekend:)
Aw, i don’t know and i wish i could help because it sounds like you are trying. That kind of thing is complicated and all that time apart doesn’t help anything. Sounds like you learned a good lesson about lying though. You can’t ever take it back and she will probably never. Ever. forget even if she forgives you.
If you truly love each other, time will heal the wound. If you can’t seem to get your feet back on the right steps, you might want to try marriage counseling.
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I totally support your effort to work things out again
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This is what ticks me off about marriages. I went through the same thing a while back. And because she argues better, I was the bad guy! When will wives realize they can be loved, and not be followed like a puppy dog, or hounded over? I never saw her saying things like that to me! I feel for you on this.
I have noticed though, the small things count. I frequently think "wow, she cooks good" or "She helps out a lot I love her" but now I say them instead of thinking them. I buy flowers every now and then, and I plan surprise breakfasts and trips out so she feels needed.
But I still think I’m getting hosed. Where’s my gifts at woman!!!!!
Buy her flowers or jewelery also buy her cards about every couple weeks put inside her car so she sees it when she is leaving for work. Make her dinner do laundry if you don’t do that all ready. Write her letters telling her how you feel about her.
Take her our to where she wants to go even dancing do what you need to at whatever the cost to make her happy. It sounds like your marriage is real bad right now. Women never forget they can move past it but they never forget.
Sometimes when us guys mess up sometimes by the time we figure out we did it’s to late.
just look sexy….arouse her sexual desire for you…u go this way
I would say take a trip to somewhere. If you both live both busy lives try and take a few days off and visit the country. If you live near Montana Go to yellow stone or something. The Hustle and bustle of everthing now days just bogs up every one these days. I’m sure something so simple like a trip there or something to get away would win her heart back. Take a road trip with the kids. Show her you love her. Or if you cant do that. Do something special for her like do the dishes or cook. The little things count the most. Maybe little notes around the house or even take the days she has off and do something special with her. Good luck
duh…just follow threw with your promises
You need to spend some time together and rekindle the romance. Just the two of you alone. And by time I mean probably two weeks or so. You need a "Second Honeymoon."
Working opposite shifts can really put on strain on a relationship. Adding in the pressure and stress of three kids and supporting them.
A little heads up, if you have messed up and lied before it’s hard. While the issue and distrust have been worked through and left in the past the insecure feelings your wife felt will linger on. And it’s hard to get past that sometimes.
Of course the obvious is to spend more time with her. I would suggest taking it back. Try and remember when the two of you first started dating. Or where you were when you fell in love and said I love you. One weekend find a sitter for the kids, tell your wife to get the weekend off, but don’t tell her where you are going or what you are doing, and take her to the place you were at when things were happier and you were "in love".
Just take the time to reconnect. It may not happen in that single weekend but it is a good stepping stone toward rebuilding a stronger foundation.
I wish you and your wife the best.
First one of you have to change jobs because your marriage is more important. But in the meantime just tell her how you’ve changed and do something everyday to show her until she has faith in you again. It’s going to take a while to build trust but if you both still love each other it can happen. The little time you do have together, try dating each other again.