Comments on: How to get my wife to fall in love with me again….? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jessica1188 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7008 Jessica1188 Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:37:37 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7008 Couples counseling! Seriously, your wife have some issues associated with that pain association and her pushing you away may be directly linked to that. It's much easier to avoid someone you see as childish then to realize you should be treating them as a husband. Counseling is such a great way to talk about things that would usually be uncomfortable, but having a third party who isn't biased or that doesn't take sides is so refreshing! Couples counseling! Seriously, your wife have some issues associated with that pain association and her pushing you away may be directly linked to that. It’s much easier to avoid someone you see as childish then to realize you should be treating them as a husband. Counseling is such a great way to talk about things that would usually be uncomfortable, but having a third party who isn’t biased or that doesn’t take sides is so refreshing!

]]> By: morganic. http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7009 morganic. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:37:37 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7009 ACT MORE MATURE. If she's telling you that you act childish, she's probably right. You have a kid now, so no matter how old you are, you have to grow up (it's a choice you made). I fit hurts her, ask her to go to a doctor and see if something is up, or, if that's just an excuse that she's using, set up a romantic night for her. Chances are, she's overwhelmed by the child, so you should get a babysitter, and have a romantic night. Take her out to dinner, and then get a hotel suite and have champagne in the room. How old are you by the way? Your spelling is terrible. ACT MORE MATURE. If she’s telling you that you act childish, she’s probably right. You have a kid now, so no matter how old you are, you have to grow up (it’s a choice you made). I fit hurts her, ask her to go to a doctor and see if something is up, or, if that’s just an excuse that she’s using, set up a romantic night for her. Chances are, she’s overwhelmed by the child, so you should get a babysitter, and have a romantic night. Take her out to dinner, and then get a hotel suite and have champagne in the room. How old are you by the way? Your spelling is terrible.

]]> By: Rach http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7010 Rach Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:37:37 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7010 Hi there. You sound like a really nice guy, I feel bad for what you're going through. However, and this is just in my honest opinion, it seems it was all done the wrong way since the beginning. There are exceptions to this of course, but it sounds like you two really rushed into things. You moved in together and started your life only 3 months after your started dating. 3 months is nowhere enough time to actually get to know a person. Most people will tell you it's not about quantity, it's about quality. And it's true, some couples go through more stuff in a year than others do in a lifetime. However, a 3 month relationship is NOT the case. I don't want to sound like you don't have a chance of making it better, because maybe you do. And I am sure if your wife says she loves you, she probably does. But if she is not IN LOVE with you... You have to think about the possibility that maybe she never was, and it would be okay. Even if you both thought you were in love, 3 months is nothing, the very beginning is the best part of every relationship, it would make anyone think they are madly in love. She is coming to realize this, but now there's a child, a family, involved and it makes everything harder. It also makes everything worth fighting for. So don't give up, try to make it work. But don't force it and if it gets to the point where you both have to admit that you made a mistake... It will be hard, but you will have to move on. Hi there.
You sound like a really nice guy, I feel bad for what you’re going through.
However, and this is just in my honest opinion, it seems it was all done the wrong way since the beginning. There are exceptions to this of course, but it sounds like you two really rushed into things. You moved in together and started your life only 3 months after your started dating. 3 months is nowhere enough time to actually get to know a person. Most people will tell you it’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. And it’s true, some couples go through more stuff in a year than others do in a lifetime. However, a 3 month relationship is NOT the case.
I don’t want to sound like you don’t have a chance of making it better, because maybe you do. And I am sure if your wife says she loves you, she probably does. But if she is not IN LOVE with you… You have to think about the possibility that maybe she never was, and it would be okay. Even if you both thought you were in love, 3 months is nothing, the very beginning is the best part of every relationship, it would make anyone think they are madly in love.
She is coming to realize this, but now there’s a child, a family, involved and it makes everything harder. It also makes everything worth fighting for. So don’t give up, try to make it work. But don’t force it and if it gets to the point where you both have to admit that you made a mistake… It will be hard, but you will have to move on.

]]> By: Mr. Shpongadongle http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7011 Mr. Shpongadongle Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:37:37 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7011 Hmmmmmmm - well, the best advice I could give you would be to get to the Sterling Men's Weekend. However, in case that is difficult, let me remind you of a couple of things. A man needs to be totally self sufficient, not relying on your wife for anything (including sex). The best way to get sex is to not want it (I am serious). I have a friend who did the weekend and he went for 13 months without sex after his wife had their third child, you know what he said: "No problem." Show her you care without any sex involved, touch her shoulder, give her a hug, stroke her hair. If she tiredly asks you if you're begging for sex just tell her no - you just love her. If she does offer you sex, turn her down. When she communicates with you she's typically telling the truth about how she feels. Why does she think you're a child? Are you emotionally dependent on her? Physically? You need to change this very very quickly. Take care of stuff, clean up, clean the garage, get the cars serviced, take out the trash, clean the kitty litter, do the laundry, do the dishes, fold and put away the clothes. Relieve her of the burden of having to care for the house and the child. OWN IT! How you show up now will determine the fate of your marriage. She gave you an ultimatum! It's time to step up to the plate. She doesn't need you! Hmmmmmmm – well, the best advice I could give you would be to get to the Sterling Men’s Weekend.

However, in case that is difficult, let me remind you of a couple of things.

A man needs to be totally self sufficient, not relying on your wife for anything (including sex).

The best way to get sex is to not want it (I am serious). I have a friend who did the weekend and he went for 13 months without sex after his wife had their third child, you know what he said: "No problem."

Show her you care without any sex involved, touch her shoulder, give her a hug, stroke her hair. If she tiredly asks you if you’re begging for sex just tell her no – you just love her.

If she does offer you sex, turn her down.

When she communicates with you she’s typically telling the truth about how she feels. Why does she think you’re a child? Are you emotionally dependent on her? Physically? You need to change this very very quickly.

Take care of stuff, clean up, clean the garage, get the cars serviced, take out the trash, clean the kitty litter, do the laundry, do the dishes, fold and put away the clothes. Relieve her of the burden of having to care for the house and the child. OWN IT!

How you show up now will determine the fate of your marriage. She gave you an ultimatum! It’s time to step up to the plate. She doesn’t need you!

]]> By: DG http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7012 DG Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:37:37 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1711/how-to-get-my-wife-to-fall-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7012 be nice be yourself is she don't like that divorce and stay single be nice be yourself is she don’t like that divorce and stay single

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