Comments on: How to fall in love with hubby all over again? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anita http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7267 Anita Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:42:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/#comment-7267 Seriously, with two very small children (well, one on the way!) the time you two have GROWN USED to doesn't exist anymore and won't until those kids are much older. Welcome to parenthood. That is one of the drawbacks to waiting until 30 or so to have kids and start a family....the longer you have all that adult freedom, the HARDER it is to give up. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth, you are LIVING it, so you know its true! Seriously, with two very small children (well, one on the way!) the time you two have GROWN USED to doesn’t exist anymore and won’t until those kids are much older.

Welcome to parenthood.

That is one of the drawbacks to waiting until 30 or so to have kids and start a family….the longer you have all that adult freedom, the HARDER it is to give up.

Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth, you are LIVING it, so you know its true!

]]> By: Space Cadet #5 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7268 Space Cadet #5 Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:42:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/#comment-7268 From a man's point of view, here are some suggestions: 1. move toward him, not away from him. this includes in bed, in the kitchen, outside in the yard, etc. if you are consciously moving towards vs. away, it's a mental exercise. 2. ask him questions. don't expect he's going to entertain you, or come on to you. he's tired of doing that. he would like to talk with you but he's unsure what to say. ask him questions. 3. kiss him at least once a week. again, mental exercise. 4. try try try to focus on anything about him that you do like 5. tell him that you won't reject any sexual advances he may make in the next month. give him a free pass. see what happens. EDIT - Do NOT do what Lynn P says below about "let him wine and dine you". This is what I am saying in #2 above. This is ANNOYING to think that you are going to "let him" entertain you. Marriage is not about one person entertaining the other. He is tired of that. He wants a companion. Treat him like a friend, and put in equal effort. Why don't you wine and dine HIM. EDIT 2 - Katherine J is exactly right, probably too right; it's a perfect answer. I'd settle for half of what she's saying. Obviously she learned from a past mistake... but anyways, she learned. Lucky the new guy. EDIT 3 - Guy being a Guy is also so right I'm falling over and busting out laughing. He's saying it so directly that it's embarrassing that he has to tell you. It's so obvious and so simple, yet how many women will do just as you are doing (or worse) because they can't come to terms. ***Thank you for asking this good question, and for caring enough to ask*** Good luck. From a man’s point of view, here are some suggestions:
1. move toward him, not away from him. this includes in bed, in the kitchen, outside in the yard, etc. if you are consciously moving towards vs. away, it’s a mental exercise.
2. ask him questions. don’t expect he’s going to entertain you, or come on to you. he’s tired of doing that. he would like to talk with you but he’s unsure what to say. ask him questions.
3. kiss him at least once a week. again, mental exercise.
4. try try try to focus on anything about him that you do like
5. tell him that you won’t reject any sexual advances he may make in the next month. give him a free pass. see what happens.

EDIT – Do NOT do what Lynn P says below about "let him wine and dine you". This is what I am saying in #2 above. This is ANNOYING to think that you are going to "let him" entertain you. Marriage is not about one person entertaining the other. He is tired of that. He wants a companion. Treat him like a friend, and put in equal effort. Why don’t you wine and dine HIM.

EDIT 2 – Katherine J is exactly right, probably too right; it’s a perfect answer. I’d settle for half of what she’s saying. Obviously she learned from a past mistake… but anyways, she learned. Lucky the new guy.

EDIT 3 – Guy being a Guy is also so right I’m falling over and busting out laughing. He’s saying it so directly that it’s embarrassing that he has to tell you. It’s so obvious and so simple, yet how many women will do just as you are doing (or worse) because they can’t come to terms.

***Thank you for asking this good question, and for caring enough to ask*** Good luck.

]]> By: nonameblonde http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7269 nonameblonde Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:42:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/#comment-7269 Get some marriage counseling now, honey. Trust me. It will automatically put the emphasis back onto the marriage. Put the necessary work and time into the marriage and you can't fail. And always always remember...grass is NOT greener on the other side. You have no idea what divorce can do to you, your children, him, both of your extended families. It's not an easy option because you feel you missed on on exciting men that don't even exist. Maybe you should have stayed single and dated when you were 17. Because at 31, with two kids, it's not time to wonder about it. Get some marriage counseling now, honey. Trust me. It will automatically put the emphasis back onto the marriage. Put the necessary work and time into the marriage and you can’t fail. And always always remember…grass is NOT greener on the other side. You have no idea what divorce can do to you, your children, him, both of your extended families. It’s not an easy option because you feel you missed on on exciting men that don’t even exist. Maybe you should have stayed single and dated when you were 17. Because at 31, with two kids, it’s not time to wonder about it.

]]> By: Lynn P http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7270 Lynn P Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:42:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/#comment-7270 Sounds to me that you are both stuck in a rut. You both need to take up your own interests and hobbies and spend time apart, which will give you something to talk about to each other. Also if you spend too much time together of course he will drive you mad. What about going out on dates and letting him wine and dine you? get a babysitter and get him to take you to the movies or out for a meal and just spend some quality time together as a couple rather than parents. You have been together too long to throw it away but you are both that used to each other you take each other for granted and dont make the effort any more. Tell him how you feel and hopefully he will agree with you and try harder. good luck Sounds to me that you are both stuck in a rut. You both need to take up your own interests and hobbies and spend time apart, which will give you something to talk about to each other. Also if you spend too much time together of course he will drive you mad.

What about going out on dates and letting him wine and dine you? get a babysitter and get him to take you to the movies or out for a meal and just spend some quality time together as a couple rather than parents.

You have been together too long to throw it away but you are both that used to each other you take each other for granted and dont make the effort any more. Tell him how you feel and hopefully he will agree with you and try harder.

good luck

]]> By: Katherine J http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7271 Katherine J Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:42:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1743/how-to-fall-in-love-with-hubby-all-over-again/#comment-7271 One thing that has always worked for me is the old advice - "Fake it 'til you make it." That is, act like you're where you want to be with him and you'll get there. Make sure you kiss him at least daily - preferably when he leaves home and when he comes home. Compliment him when he does things the way you like - if he takes a shower and he smells good, tell him so. Do little romantic things for him, even if you're not feeling all that romantic. Make time for just the two of you, when possible. Think about the times when you feel most in love with your husband - even if those times haven't happened in a long time. Try to remember the things you love about him and think about those things, often. Look for the good in him and he'll see the good in you...your hard work will be rewarded. Don't allow yourself to get caught up in the idea that a different man would be better. Remember the things that brought you to your husband and made you decide to marry him. The internet is full of ideas for little things to do to make him feel special and loved. Go for it! One thing that has always worked for me is the old advice -

"Fake it ’til you make it."

That is, act like you’re where you want to be with him and you’ll get there.

Make sure you kiss him at least daily – preferably when he leaves home and when he comes home. Compliment him when he does things the way you like – if he takes a shower and he smells good, tell him so. Do little romantic things for him, even if you’re not feeling all that romantic. Make time for just the two of you, when possible.

Think about the times when you feel most in love with your husband – even if those times haven’t happened in a long time. Try to remember the things you love about him and think about those things, often. Look for the good in him and he’ll see the good in you…your hard work will be rewarded.

Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the idea that a different man would be better. Remember the things that brought you to your husband and made you decide to marry him.

The internet is full of ideas for little things to do to make him feel special and loved.

Go for it!

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