Comments on: How do I get my wife to be in love with me again? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kara http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7593 Kara Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:33:26 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7593 The fact that she won't even try counceling speaks volumes. If she wanted to stay together and make it work, then she should be more than willing to do at least that to discover where your differences are and to learn how to repair them. It sounds like she has her mind set on wanting to separate, and if that's the case then there is probably nothing that you can do. But if anyone knows what you can...it's her. I hope everything works out for you. The fact that she won’t even try counceling speaks volumes. If she wanted to stay together and make it work, then she should be more than willing to do at least that to discover where your differences are and to learn how to repair them. It sounds like she has her mind set on wanting to separate, and if that’s the case then there is probably nothing that you can do. But if anyone knows what you can…it’s her. I hope everything works out for you.

]]> By: frank http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7594 frank Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:33:26 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7594 If I were you I would get out of this relationship fast and in a smart way. You are heading for some serious painful experiences. She needs time to grow up and feel life's pain for herself before she can commit to others including your son. I can bet if you do separate you will end up with custody. You made a poor decision having a child with her without being sure she wanted to be in a marriage or a mother. Your wife is pretty much out of your life by now (mentally and physically). Its nothing you did wrong, your chemistry doesn't suit her. You are still young, get out b/c it's going to get a lot worst. IF you have to stay in for the sake of your son and b/c you don't believe sound advice, give her a year off to date other people and feel the pleasures and pains of being single and on her own. In the meantime do the same and then make a decision. Just make the right decision that will benefit you and your son. You already made a bad one, don't make another. If I were you I would get out of this relationship fast and in a smart way. You are heading for some serious painful experiences.

She needs time to grow up and feel life’s pain for herself before she can commit to others including your son. I can bet if you do separate you will end up with custody. You made a poor decision having a child with her without being sure she wanted to be in a marriage or a mother. Your wife is pretty much out of your life by now (mentally and physically). Its nothing you did wrong, your chemistry doesn’t suit her. You are still young, get out b/c it’s going to get a lot worst.

IF you have to stay in for the sake of your son and b/c you don’t believe sound advice, give her a year off to date other people and feel the pleasures and pains of being single and on her own. In the meantime do the same and then make a decision. Just make the right decision that will benefit you and your son. You already made a bad one, don’t make another.

]]> By: joyhamil44 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7595 joyhamil44 Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:33:26 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7595 Odd that her "numbness" started when she became a mother. Couples tend to get very child centered and sometimes forget to to make time to be a couple. Start setting aside regular "date" nights if you are not doing that now. If she will not go to counseling for you, then suggest that she do it to help your child. If you end up separating eventually, then it WILL be hard on your child. You will need to be able to work together for your child as he will be a connection between you both for many years to come. Make it a requirement before you even consider cooperating with a separation. I suggest that you look into some relationship books. "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" by Dr. W. Harley is a good overview of his work. Check into their weekend seminar, I've heard really good things about it. Ask her to commit to this weekend for a start. What can it hurt? Then, you can work on the follow up stuff. http://marriagebuilders.com/ Another that I have known a few people to go to and find helpful: http://www.retrouvaille.org/ Her resistance makes me wonder about what else is going on with her. Take care. Odd that her "numbness" started when she became a mother.

Couples tend to get very child centered and sometimes forget to to make time to be a couple.

Start setting aside regular "date" nights if you are not doing that now.

If she will not go to counseling for you, then suggest that she do it to help your child. If you end up separating eventually, then it WILL be hard on your child. You will need to be able to work together for your child as he will be a connection between you both for many years to come. Make it a requirement before you even consider cooperating with a separation.

I suggest that you look into some relationship books.
"Fall in Love, Stay in Love" by Dr. W. Harley is a good overview of his work. Check into their weekend seminar, I’ve heard really good things about it. Ask her to commit to this weekend for a start. What can it hurt? Then, you can work on the follow up stuff.

http://marriagebuilders.com/

Another that I have known a few people to go to and find helpful:

http://www.retrouvaille.org/

Her resistance makes me wonder about what else is going on with her.

Take care.

]]> By: Kim B http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7586 Kim B Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:33:25 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7586 I don't know you, but I feel for you. When you have a child involved, it makes things very complicated. I have been married for 12 years, and have felt that sometimes I feel numb with my husband. He just doesn't get me sometimes. In my perfect world, I'm 36, I think if he were to ask me sometimes, just how I am feeling about everything, it would help. It just seems that life is so busy with having a child and working, the relationship just gets thrown aside because it's not the important thing. Till the blank hits the fan... that is. My advice... give your wife a bit of space, if that is what she wants, let her have it. She will respect you for that. You both probably need it, you maybe just don't realize it right now. Talk to her like an adult, don't get mad, don't be condescending. Tell her how much you love her, and that you will do what it takes to have her back. You sound like a good guy..good luck. I hope you both work it out. I don’t know you, but I feel for you. When you have a child involved, it makes things very complicated. I have been married for 12 years, and have felt that sometimes I feel numb with my husband. He just doesn’t get me sometimes. In my perfect world, I’m 36, I think if he were to ask me sometimes, just how I am feeling about everything, it would help. It just seems that life is so busy with having a child and working, the relationship just gets thrown aside because it’s not the important thing. Till the blank hits the fan… that is. My advice… give your wife a bit of space, if that is what she wants, let her have it. She will respect you for that. You both probably need it, you maybe just don’t realize it right now. Talk to her like an adult, don’t get mad, don’t be condescending. Tell her how much you love her, and that you will do what it takes to have her back. You sound like a good guy..good luck. I hope you both work it out.

]]> By: Animalfriend http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/comment-page-1/#comment-7587 Animalfriend Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:33:25 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1774/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-be-in-love-with-me-again/#comment-7587 You sound so nice & understanding. It sounds like she could feel a lot of pressure from having the baby. Since the time frames match. Maybe she still has some kind of post partum depresion going on. It can linger. Every women is different w/ childbirth. I would ask her again about going to the Dr. or Gynocologist. She might be feeling very overwelmed. Try to stay understanding, and if worse comes to worse give her her space a little while, so she can work some things out on her own. Don't panic just be she wants some space. Work out joint care for your child & be there no matter what, pray & keep the faith, I bet it will work out. She's a lucky girl I think she'll realize that. My Best to you & her. You sound so nice & understanding. It sounds like she could feel a lot of pressure from having the baby. Since the time frames match. Maybe she still has some kind of post partum depresion going on. It can linger. Every women is different w/ childbirth. I would ask her again about going to the Dr. or Gynocologist. She might be feeling very overwelmed. Try to stay understanding, and if worse comes to worse give her her space a little while, so she can work some things out on her own. Don’t panic just be she wants some space. Work out joint care for your child & be there no matter what, pray & keep the faith, I bet it will work out. She’s a lucky girl I think she’ll realize that. My Best to you & her.

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