My boyfriends Ex girlfriend is trying to get back into his life, what should I do?
She is sending him messages to have him call her, and they should hangout and she misses him. We are in our 20′s and been together for a year. He says that they will always be friends and I’m just gonna have to deal with it but they haven’t spoken since we’ve been together and now they just started too…but he doesn’t call her to my knowledge. I don’t like it nor appreciate it because I’m not stupid and it feels like she is trying to get him back. He loves me and I know wants to be with me forever but how can I get her to stop?
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I hate guys who tell their girlfriends they’re silly or overreactive when their exs are trying to get back in their lives. ..
Tell him to try to get him to see your point of view by asking him how HE would feel if YOUR ex was sending you text messages and telling you he missed you. I mean HONESTLY, do guys not understand the undercurrents between current girlfriend and ex girlfriend? Sometimes they can be so clueless..
But I wouldn’t try to nag him too much because guys tend to like walking out on problems and label you as "demanding" and "immature". But I would definitely ask him how he would feel and to try to empathize with you.
he told you youll have to deal with it?
yeah, theres a problem. i would worry if i was you.
just dont put yourself in the middle unless she gets you involved.
In all honesty I think telling her how you feel might entice her to do it more, it seems as though you tried explaining to him how you feel and it didn’t make a difference which isn’t nice. I understand we are suppose and do trust our men but when my bfs ex’s call I do explain to him that I’m not crazy jelous, i understand, but why does she have to call in the first place? What do you have to talk about really?
You can’t get her to stop. You shouldn’t have to put yourself in that position. Think about it: They haven’t talked for at least a year, yet he says they will "always be friends". Doesn’t that sound fishy to you? Now, had they been friends this whole time, and you knew her, and were comfortable in knowing that they are strictly just friends, then it would be a different story. But that’s obviously not the case here. Your BF probably does love you, but he just showed you where you stand in his list of priorities, and it doesn’t look good. Either he leaves his past (including ex-GF’s) in the past, or you don’t include him in your future. Good luck.
Tell your boy to just forget about her.. I know jealousy is pretty bad, but.. You must act upon it… Don’t get too extreme or your boy will leave you.. Just proceed with relaxation and caution. That will do..
Relationships with members of the opposite sex should naturally fall away when someone is in a serious relationship. That is healthy and wise. You should discuss it with him, tell him how you feel and that it hurts you and that you feel like she’s trying to get him back. Open communication is very important in this sort of situation, but approach him with with respect and understanding, not in a nagging or accusatory sort of way.
Thats funny…that sounds like me! Except I am the other girl..
maybe you girls could become friends
Although this happened with my ex husband we split up and its so complicated because we still care about each other and still love each other ( its been just over a year) and he told me that no matter who he is with we will always be friends and that I cant get rid of him. I am not trying to get back with him ( eff that noise) but he was my best freind once and we had such great chemistry. Dont do anything because you dont want to be the bad guy ya know? Just realize he is with you, thats all that really matters
If he told you that you had to deal with it then i see a big problem there. You DON’T have to deal with it… Tell him that you don’t like it and that he’s either going to chose you or her… you need to put a stop to it i don’t see this right
colleencisneros…….Girls like you ARE the problem. If I was an ex and I knew I was currently causing a problem in my ex-boyfriend/husbands life with their new girlfriend, I would bow OUT. I have the ability to remove myself from the situation. That means I respect my ex’s new life AND the new girl, simply because of any feelings of uncertainty the girl might have where I would be concerned. This is a part of what’s wrong with society today- most girls don’t give a crap about boundaries. b-o-u-n-d-a-r-i-e-s. Look that up in the dictionary.