lost wife’s love divorced living together again no intimacy or physical contact. Starving for affection?
married 13 years 4 children stay at home wife I always worked alot. Wife fell out of love and divorced me and we are back together but only as roommates no love or physical contact I am dying and getting tired or trying nothing seems to work or help I am constantly in trouble or pushed away for something or another living on eggshells and breaking them all the time
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And you went back why?
if she doesnt show you wnat you need, find it elsewhere.
I WOULD THINK OF COURTING HER AGAIN.
Why are you even in this situation? You are already divorced, and she doesn’t love you. Why would you even want her?
Just leave. Find your own life.
try the simple things, offer her a back rub, cuddle. little things can make a difference. but the main thing is, is she wanting to work things out? if not set up a day n time for u each to go out once or twice a week. just don’t bring what u do outside the home into the home. don’t ask her n her not ask u.
Maybe you need your own place so you’re not reminded about missing a wife.
If you guys divorced, you divorced. You can’t move back in as roommates. After my ex and I split she still had to stay at the apartment a month and it was excrutiating to me. I’d come home and she was there but I couldn’t kiss her or touch her. We could talk but even if we had a good conversation, out of nowhere I’d gum up and need to go for a walk or a drive to get away from her (and often cry my eyes out).
You just need to go. It’s over.
That was my situation… we were just "roommates" and living together just for our childs sake, no intamacy. Now we are living in separate homes… and it seems that she wants to come back to the family life, and so does our daughter. Maybe you do need to split up for real, so that she knows what she is giving up.
I don’t have any answers yet on my situation, so maybe this isn’t the best. Just thought I’d share.
Pay for it dude.
Have a heart to heart. Talk things through. It really makes no sense to be unhappy together. After 13 years of marriage, you guys should be able to talk to each. Decide what you guys want and need from this relationship. If there really is one. You are wasting valuable time. Just talk and get things out in the open…Good Luck!!!
It sounds like a terrible idea, living as roomies when you are divorced. You may think that it is good for the kids, but it sends them mixed messages. It sounds like she doesn’t want to be with you as a lover. You need to move out of that house and move on with your life. You can still be a great father.
You sound terribly depressed. Understandably so. I think perhaps it’s time to move on. Isn’t this only pro-longing the inevitable? Believe it or not, you will find love again. And probably be happy again. Maybe even enjoy life again. What a concept, right? Seriously, take stock in yourself. Take care of yourself, no one will do it for you. Good luck.
Aloha my friend:)
That is sad, but hope is not gone yet.
Time to take her by the hand and pull her close to you and tell her Aloha and when you walk away from her say Mahalo.
These two words are very powerful to Hawaiians and their meaning behind it carries alot of weight.
It’s better than saying I love you, it means you are everything to that person and by religious aspect…it carries the same weight as love thy neighbor.
Spiritually speaking.
Mahalo
Mate if you have tried everything and she still rejects you , then accept it’s over and move on. Good luck.
Everything in this world never last, so enjoy while you can b/c we getting old old granpa.
You beg for the punishment, don’t you? I’d say that you’re crazy but I know how it is with kids. I would try to stay away from living like you are married. Go out some nights and don’t tell her where you’re going.
Hello KP,
Wow this is a tuffy!
So, it looks like you moved back in on her terms. Which also probably means that she made it clear that she is not available to you in any other way than a roommate.
So if you truly love her, you have a choice; you can 1) Agree on a period of time that she could rehash the past, say one month for every year that you were married when things started to go sour – after the rehashing period, agree to work on the friendship (this means not demeaning each other in front of the children) – after friendship work on dating again. Then so on and so on and so on…
If you can two can remember why you got together in the beginning, maybe you will be able find your way to each other again, but you two will have to agree to keep your hearts soft towards one another.
I know this sounds cliche, but I have had my heart broken by the same man twice. We are giving it another go (He finally got a clue and I have been praying) but it has not been easy.
VERY Important – You must love her and she must respect you or it will not work – this means you are being thoughtful, loving, considerate, and kind – even when she is being a "beep,"
Which means she must defer to you, enforce her respect for you and your decisions in front of your children, look to you as the head of the relationship, and finally not try to control every aspect of the relationship.
2) Accept the fact that she does not want a relationship with you, move out and continue to build stronger relationships with your children.