How Do I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back, Its My Fault?
My ex and I broke up 1 year ago because I thought he was getting too close and I didn’t see him like that. I mean he treated me like a princess and was thinking about getting married and but I broke up with him because I didn’t feel the same way. At first he wouldn’t let me go and cried a lot and begged for me to stay but I told him we’re through and stopped seeing him. He went into depression and had to take antidepressants.
In the mean time I started dating other guys and got into a few small relationships but I never really liked any of them too much. And recently I started thinking about my ex and how good he treated me. I also heard from his friends that he never dated or thought about any other girls. So I went to see him and he didn’t really show any emotions. I told him I still have feelings for him and asked him if he wanted to get back together. He said he’s done with girls and relationships and when I left him, he promised to himself he never love anyone again. He told me to leave and he never wants to see me again.
I’ve been crying all day, I know I’ll never find anyone who loved me as much as he did. I was stupid then but now I’m more mature I really love him and want to be with him! Did I just loose the love of my life? How do I get him back?
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Tell him exactly what you said in this paragraph. You humble yourself to him. If he feels like he will never love again, it is because he is not over you yet, but he is trying to protect himself. Try to find a way to contact him again. Oh, and say everything like you mean it. You beg for him just like he begged fo you to stay. I don’t think you lost the love of your life just yet.
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Don’t give up. Keep at it, he may still love you.
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Talk to him. Explain the situation. If he won’t take you back, accept that and look at it as a learning experience. There will always be other guys.
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Wow, thats so very sad. If you want him back, try being his friend first and making him happy again.
If it is meant to be, it will be! You can’t force it. In the mean time, look your best, dress your best, smile and look amazing, confidence is attractive!
Create something to go back in time. I figure that if he told you to leave then your screwed.
You pretty much lost him, if it didn’t work out the first time, the second time wont work either. There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just have to look for them.
Maybe he’s playing hard to get?
Firstly, I too think you’re wrong for just breaking up with him. I can understand how overwhelming it is to be told all these emotions with expectations of you them being mutual, the pressure, but if you really didn’t want things to proceed as quickly as he did you should have communication rather than break up. Do you really think you deserve him now? If you’re serious about him and aren’t going to play anymore games then you should tell him what you’re telling us right now. Tell him you did make a mistake, that would be showing responsibility which is MATURE.
what the hell u really hurt this dude how could u?? how do u expect him to get back with u when youve been a b******* to him!!
well i think that he likes you alot, and you should not get back together just because you feel guilty about it. but if you really think that you should, you should flat out say that you like him, but you don’t see you guys ever getting married. I think that he could handle that, and that it would make him happy. but what you feel comes first.
Have you already made mistakes that may have hurt your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back? Some of the most common mistakes made by women shortly after a break up of their relationship are listed below.
1. Constantly trying to contact him. I know you may think if you don’t tell him how much you love him you will lose him. But he may not be answering you calls, emails or text messages. You need to stop doing this now, it will push him further away.
2. You don’t give him his space. He may need his space now to think about the break up. Give him the chance to miss you and let him think about his feelings for you.
3. Acting desperate. Crying and begging will not get him back. This is a sign of weakness and desperation. Do you really want him to take you back because he feels sorry for you? Even if he did, the relationship would fall apart again quickly.
4. Taking advice of friends and family members. Your friends and family members will try to give you advice on what you should do to get your ex boyfriend back. The problem is they don’t have the experience on repairing relationships. They want what is best for you, but their good intentions can cause further problems for you.
What you need to do is get a proven plan. A plan that has help other couples to repair their relationships. You can get information on such a plan by clicking on the links at the bottom of this article.
Your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back are good if you do the right things and avoid the most common mistakes. Almost 90% of all relationship breakups can be repaired, so the odds are on your side. Hopefully in the near future you will be telling your friends that you are back with your boyfriend and you are very happy instead of telling them you "want my ex boyfriend back". Good luck!
well usually once your broke his heart he might be depressed and he shouldnt take u back sorry becasue u hurt him and obiously you don’t love him cause u hurt him like thaT SORYY BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE U SHOULDNT EVEN ASK FOR HIM BACK.
did you lose the love of ur life possible but there aint just 1 and well he really loved you and you just werent serious enough now well he prolly just doesnt want to go through that again make him believe in love again make him want to try again and be sure that this time you REALLY REALLY want him and i mean it… be sure then.. after youve made sure and this isnt a 5 sec decision go to him and make him no show him he can trust you and make him want to love again its still in him hes just blocking it so show him that you wont break his heart again and that you wont hurt him then he should probably open up and if he doesnt… well keep trying it doesnt work as soon as you start
I hate it when that happens. But if you are under 30, relax, you have all kinds of time to find someone. Just take what you learned (I hope you learned) and use it in the next relationship.
I strongly suggest reading "Escape from Intimacy" by Ann Wilson Schaef. It’s a short book, readable in an hour or so, and costs less than $10 on Amazon. It addresses exactly what you ask here – how & why women avoid closeness, and how men do the same thing but typically in different ways.
I would suspect the underlying issue here is codependence, and I would *strongly* recommend you remember your own strength & independence, with or without a man in your life. There are other great resources out there for codependence (Melody Beattie’s books are terrific). Another great author/speaker on this topic is Charlie Kreiner.
This sounds like a painful time for you, which can also be seen as a great opportunity for growth. You have my deepest wishes for happiness and fulfillment. Good luck!
Hello
Winning back your ex boyfriend is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win him back increase dramatically.
if you desire to get your ex back try following these steps:
1.one of the most important things is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of these negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can’t achieve the goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior and you don’t want them..
2.Don’t annoy your ex boyfriend. Boys just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to relax by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously him, [spin]text message him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. You want to give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want to get back with you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting him back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start doing some exercises and eating healthy. When on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, you will project this image to others. You will become an object of desire to men, including your ex.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex boyfriend back.However, if you really want to get him back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them…).
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all the best
Well,there were lots of people ahead of me who were kind/concerned/willing to pitch in and share their piece of advice to you.I am not entirely with their advice or against them as everyone’s concepts are true to their perspectives.However,I felt this strong urge to let you know what i feel.Maybe it will tilt the tide in your favour.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART-whatever happens be for her anytime,everytime.Bless You!
The thing you could try to do, is first, get your emotions under control, act mature, back off, and approach him little by little as a friend, an odd message, not mentioning anything about wanting to get back with him, but to act in a neutral friendly way, first apologise for the way you were, DO NOT BEG!!!…just talk to him about normal day to day things, ie, how are you?….hows your day been, keep it light, and pleasant, do not pressure him, a relationship is something that has to be earned and respected, people do not owe us anything and we have to take responsibilty for ourselves in how we treat people, after all you were the one who messed up, be humble, gain his trust, it will take time, if you want to continue playing the field, do not contact him and put him through this again, he doesnt deserve it…..Good luck!! (trust me…ive been in the position hes in now)