Comments on: How Can I Get My Husband To Come Back To Me? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Karen http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/comment-page-1/#comment-10784 Karen Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:56:13 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/#comment-10784 Please just leave this man to his disrespectful behaviour. He doesn't deserve you. I can tell you now that he wanted to be lured in, because if he did love you he would have, at worst, had a one night stand and had the decency to feel wracked with guilt for it. NOT carry on, like a spoilt child, using her neediness as an excuse to hide things from you and spend romantic time with her. Please believe I understand your pain. My husband is my life and I too would possibly react like you, but hope I had a good friend to help me see the wood for the trees and realise he was treating me like a second class citizen and a fool. He wants his cake and wants to eat it and that is not playing fair. It isn't what your vows meant in any way shape or form. Love yourself more and leave him. I promise you will look back on this time and wonder why you put up with this disgusting treatment for so long. Please be strong, please be true to yourself. I wish you all the love and strength in the world to help you to make the right decision for your future happiness Please just leave this man to his disrespectful behaviour. He doesn’t deserve you. I can tell you now that he wanted to be lured in, because if he did love you he would have, at worst, had a one night stand and had the decency to feel wracked with guilt for it. NOT carry on, like a spoilt child, using her neediness as an excuse to hide things from you and spend romantic time with her. Please believe I understand your pain. My husband is my life and I too would possibly react like you, but hope I had a good friend to help me see the wood for the trees and realise he was treating me like a second class citizen and a fool. He wants his cake and wants to eat it and that is not playing fair. It isn’t what your vows meant in any way shape or form. Love yourself more and leave him. I promise you will look back on this time and wonder why you put up with this disgusting treatment for so long. Please be strong, please be true to yourself. I wish you all the love and strength in the world to help you to make the right decision for your future happiness

]]> By: The Chika Rita http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/comment-page-1/#comment-8243 The Chika Rita Wed, 28 Oct 2009 08:49:43 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/#comment-8243 EDIT EDIT, TOTAL EDIT : sorry but i was reading this message around 12 midnight and didn't realise how hopeless it was until i re-read it this morning. now, i'm a firm supporter of marriages. i believe that when there is a problem, people should help one another etc because after all, they did VOW to be together through good times and bad. However, I DO NOT support a case where the husband starts acting like some drama mama and a woman, heavily manipulated by this starts acting like such an idiot, trying to repair something that she didn't destroy. marriage takes committment from BOTH SIDES.if one side isn't acting, then the other shouldn't even bother because nothing will come out of it. sure, it'll be good for a couple of days but then it will go back to the same old rubiish. I know you love him, because trust me, I have been in love and the man hurt me sooooo much that he even used to cut the phone off in my face. being the stupid little me, i'd call him and call him and cry and cry and tell ask him why why why. he just kept on being mean until i finally said, this is stupid. how can i expect a man to love me if i do not love myself? how can i expect a man to see me as a worthy person if i'm stooping sooooo low, clearly showing him that i have no self-worth? so, i left him. this was a month ago. no idea if he'll call me back etc etc. the first few days were horrible!!!!! i would cry every night asking why? what did i do wrong?? but i'd had enough of all the phone cutting. and believe me, this guy was really really nice. i mea, that's why i even fell in love with him later on (at first, he was just a rebound guy). so, here's what i'm telling you. leave the 'kid' alone and let him seriously grow up. he's clearly enjoying being torn between two women and seriously, what ego-messed up douche wouldn't be? yoooo dude, got like two women fighting over me..yeeaaaaaaah. if you want to continue with this kind of scenery..sure, no problem. it is your life. good luck. keep on begging him to stop and maybe one day he'll stop then continue, then stop then continue. however, my advice is that you stop all this. he knows that you're not going anywhere. he knows you love him and what happends with such people? they know they have them no matter what they do. so, start threatening him. yes. do it. if he fails to listen, move over to your parents house to show him that you're serious. trust me, this woman will one day get tired of him. and even if they do end up together, she'll continue her old habits. if she did it to two people already, she can do it to a third person. you on the other hand can go out and start looking for another guy before you turn into an old barren hag. you cannot force someone to love you and it's no use loving someone who doesn't love you back. NO WOMAN deserves to be treated that sort of way. sadly, you are allowing yourself to be treated like that. if you keep on holding on to him,he will eventually leave you. a man looks for other things to conquer. so what the hell are you waiting for?move on! EDIT EDIT, TOTAL EDIT

: sorry but i was reading this message around 12 midnight and didn’t realise how hopeless it was until i re-read it this morning.

now, i’m a firm supporter of marriages. i believe that when there is a problem, people should help one another etc because after all, they did VOW to be together through good times and bad.

However, I DO NOT support a case where the husband starts acting like some drama mama and a woman, heavily manipulated by this starts acting like such an idiot, trying to repair something that she didn’t destroy.

marriage takes committment from BOTH SIDES.if one side isn’t acting, then the other shouldn’t even bother because nothing will come out of it. sure, it’ll be good for a couple of days but then it will go back to the same old rubiish.

I know you love him, because trust me, I have been in love and the man hurt me sooooo much that he even used to cut the phone off in my face. being the stupid little me, i’d call him and call him and cry and cry and tell ask him why why why. he just kept on being mean until i finally said, this is stupid. how can i expect a man to love me if i do not love myself? how can i expect a man to see me as a worthy person if i’m stooping sooooo low, clearly showing him that i have no self-worth?

so, i left him. this was a month ago. no idea if he’ll call me back etc etc. the first few days were horrible!!!!! i would cry every night asking why? what did i do wrong?? but i’d had enough of all the phone cutting. and believe me, this guy was really really nice. i mea, that’s why i even fell in love with him later on (at first, he was just a rebound guy).

so, here’s what i’m telling you. leave the ‘kid’ alone and let him seriously grow up. he’s clearly enjoying being torn between two women and seriously, what ego-messed up douche wouldn’t be? yoooo dude, got like two women fighting over me..yeeaaaaaaah.

if you want to continue with this kind of scenery..sure, no problem. it is your life. good luck. keep on begging him to stop and maybe one day he’ll stop then continue, then stop then continue.

however, my advice is that you stop all this. he knows that you’re not going anywhere. he knows you love him and what happends with such people? they know they have them no matter what they do.

so, start threatening him. yes. do it. if he fails to listen, move over to your parents house to show him that you’re serious.

trust me, this woman will one day get tired of him. and even if they do end up together, she’ll continue her old habits. if she did it to two people already, she can do it to a third person.

you on the other hand can go out and start looking for another guy before you turn into an old barren hag.

you cannot force someone to love you and it’s no use loving someone who doesn’t love you back. NO WOMAN deserves to be treated that sort of way. sadly, you are allowing yourself to be treated like that. if you keep on holding on to him,he will eventually leave you. a man looks for other things to conquer.

so what the hell are you waiting for?move on!

]]> By: Raven http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/comment-page-1/#comment-8244 Raven Wed, 28 Oct 2009 08:49:43 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/#comment-8244 you can't make him realize anything that has to come from him I will tell you that you do need to let go he knows your still there and waiting for him when you finally give up and let go he will realize he has lost you and he might come back to you. He's an adult and he knows what he's doing the age between thern don't make a difference if he doesn't know what he wants decide for him I personally couldn't be with him if he told me he don't know what he wants and I know you believe he hasn't slept with her but all the signs point to it, he would have been home already if he hadn't he is making a full out of you sorry . you can’t make him realize anything that has to come from him I will tell you that you do need to let go he knows your still there and waiting for him when you finally give up and let go he will realize he has lost you and he might come back to you. He’s an adult and he knows what he’s doing the age between thern don’t make a difference if he doesn’t know what he wants decide for him I personally couldn’t be with him if he told me he don’t know what he wants and I know you believe he hasn’t slept with her but all the signs point to it, he would have been home already if he hadn’t he is making a full out of you sorry .

]]> By: Andrea http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/comment-page-1/#comment-8245 Andrea Wed, 28 Oct 2009 08:49:43 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1861/how-can-i-get-my-husband-to-come-back-to-me/#comment-8245 Sticky situation... You need to give him space. You should NOT be the one telling him to stop talking to her in the first place if he really wanted to work your marriage out. And now he wants to separate, that should be a big indicator that he can't make up his mind. I know that you love him but you shouldn't be his sloppy seconds after you know he kissed her, spent nights with her, hid stuff from you, went behind your back etc. because that is not a healthy relationship for anyone. It is obvious that she has blinded him from reality so to get him to realize that he has no future with her isn't the question. if you are still in contact with him you need to cut him of or do the same thing he is doing (to an extent). If you don't want to cheat on him then make him suspicious about what your doing which would lead him to think that you were cheating. If that doesn't work then don't beg for him to come back to you or to stay with you because from what you're doing he basically knows that while he is with you/ her you are begging for him to come back,your not leaving him. So by doing that its like saying I know what your doing, I'll do anything to stop you but i wouldn't leave you (do you get what im saying?) Its like if he leaves her he knows you'll still be there and while he's with her he knows you'll still be there. But you HAVE TO make him think that you wont be there Sticky situation… You need to give him space. You should NOT be the one telling him to stop talking to her in the first place if he really wanted to work your marriage out. And now he wants to separate, that should be a big indicator that he can’t make up his mind. I know that you love him but you shouldn’t be his sloppy seconds after you know he kissed her, spent nights with her, hid stuff from you, went behind your back etc. because that is not a healthy relationship for anyone. It is obvious that she has blinded him from reality so to get him to realize that he has no future with her isn’t the question. if you are still in contact with him you need to cut him of or do the same thing he is doing (to an extent). If you don’t want to cheat on him then make him suspicious about what your doing which would lead him to think that you were cheating. If that doesn’t work then don’t beg for him to come back to you or to stay with you because from what you’re doing he basically knows that while he is with you/ her you are begging for him to come back,your not leaving him. So by doing that its like saying I know what your doing, I’ll do anything to stop you but i wouldn’t leave you (do you get what im saying?) Its like if he leaves her he knows you’ll still be there and while he’s with her he knows you’ll still be there. But you HAVE TO make him think that you wont be there

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