Does my son hate me?will he ever love me again and forgive me?
my husband and I are divorcing and I am moving out Wed, my son (17 wants to stay in the house with my husband to finish school )just told me he is very disappointed in me for leaving and he does not seem sad, he sad he has prepared himself for this moment since he knew it has been coming for some time now, but he is disappointed in me. He says he loves me and always will but that he is upset with me and angry as well (he is 17 years of age) but one of us had to move out. OMG I FEEL LIKE I AM LOSING MY LIFE…… will he always hate me now, any help? what can I do to make him love me again. He says he did not understand why I am crying or upset about leaving…..please help me understand what he is saying to me. Will he stop loving me now. This i cannot deal with, please any parents that have gone thru this please please help
I was the one that asked for the divorce since my husband and I tried it all but nothing worked we have been married for 18 years now, i have never cheated but my son seems to think there is another man that I am leaving for ……..
why we are divorcing is a sep issue and trust me it is not for lack of trying or wanting to be in love…..
his dad does not talk bad about me and tells him i love him very much and have been a great mom
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well…he probably doesn’t hate you, but I guess he’ll be disappointed for the rest of his life. I don’t blame him for that. If you know it hurts him if you get divorced, then you should try to sort it out with your husband. At least try!! Especially if there is not a huge problem. I’m sure you can at least do this much for your son. He wont hate you for the rest of his life, but he sure will be hurt for the rest of his life. Please try to sort this out. Don’t lose your son by divorcing your husband. It might have a huge effect on him.
If he were youre REAL son he would love you and forgive you despite of what you have done. It might take some time but if he were smart he’d come running back to you.(although it is kind of harsh for you to kick him out{at least hook him up with a relative or somebody})
buy him a ipod or take him to a strip club. that will sort it all out.
my parents split up with i was 15 and all the brothers and my sister stayed with my dad and i moved out with my mom and it changed everyone but good news your son will never stop loving you at all! try not to worry so much everything happens for a reason and things will get better just stay in his life. be there for him even if he doesn’t admit it he is sad..by the way in divorces the boys 90 percent of my time staying living with the dad they need a father in there everyday life!
There is no reason for him to hate you because you have done nothing wrong with the family. you never cheated you were a good mom and if things did not workout between you and your husband then that’s between y’all. He should understand since he’s a grown up already. You cannot be in a relationship where things are not working out. I’m sure he’ll forgive you it’s just a matter of time. He will accept your leave one day.
i’m 15 and my parents got divorced (but i was only 4) i live with my mom, but whenever i get super mad at her i will forgive her after a day or 2, and if you visit him a lot then i’m sure you will be fine. i only see my dad like once a month and it sucks a lot and i think he is a piece of crap for being so in-mature and hardly ever seeing his kids but whenever i see him i always forget all of that and like him until a few days after he leaves. so just stop by a lot and see your son.
He might be upset, but I dont think he hates. Be near him he needs you.don’t leave him he is 17 he still young. Maybe he will show you his love in the future
You should have waited till he was 18. But dealing with divorce is hard. It wasnt hard for my siblings and I because we were waiting for it. But he i just mad for now. i think he will get over it. Im 17 myself, and all i can say to you is just give it time. He’s trying to get use to it. I knw he loves you. YOU GAVE BIRTH TO HIM! you gave him life. he is just upset. Just be there for him.
instead of asking random strangers if he will love you again y don’t you ask him, ask him if he hates u you need to communicate
Your boy will always love you, just that at the moment he feels angry because you chose to leave and that he is gonna miss you. At his age, i feel he doesn;t quite understand why this is happening and knowing that things won;t the same again. Time will heal and i am sure your son will get used to it in time. Keep on reassuring him that one day things will look up for all of you and that its no one’s fault that your marriage is broken. Remind him that the business is between you and your husband so respect it. It’s good of your husband to say nothing but positive/good things about you to your boy. Keep on going an stay strong. you’ll be ok. Keep on telling him you love him very much regardless of everything.
He loves you, and from what I can tell, you have no reason to believe otherwise. If he is intelligent, he most likely DOES understand.
I have a situation like this at home, if my father decide to leave me and my mother I will refuse to see him talk to him, I will never ever give him a chance to mean what he use to mean to me. You old middle age bastards called parents, all you do is think of yourself and what make you happy. But what about us, kids, you don’t understand or care how painful this is for us. I understand your kid and I would never ever look at you again if I was him. PARENTS ARE THE MOST SELFISH PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD. TAKE CARE OF YOU ASS I KNOW IT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU. LEAVE SCAR ON US KIDS.
I am going through the same thing right now. I chose to leave, the boys stayed with their dad I moved out of state. I have tried everything I know to re connect with my oldest son but he just tells me to f off and f you. His dad has talked badly about me and 3 months after I left his dad had his girlfriend at the house. My youngest son is trying to reconnect with me but it is very slow going. I don;t believe my oldest son will ever come back to me. It breaks my heart.
You Are A Failure As A Parent.