Comments on: Last year my husband cheated on me. We went to counseling to work things out. He wanted me to do a few thing? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/ Your guide to getting your ex lover back into your arms Thu, 18 Mar 2010 11:20:34 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: DK41 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-8311 DK41 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:49:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/#comment-8311 Explained to me by a psychologist there are different kinds of bipolar disorder: Most common is moods swings very high (happy) to suddenly very low (near suicidal), there is medication for this disorder that seems to work pretty well. What I'm getting at here is it sounds like you are enabling and letting your son come before your marriage. There are many people with bipolar disorder that function better than some without it. At 21 your son should be out on his own. If I was in your husbands shoes I too would feel betrayed and would become shut in. I wouldn't want to leave my marriage because I love my mate, but I would be trying to convince myself every day that I should leave to find peace. I can see how your husband is trying to find everything about you that he doesn't care for because he might be trying to find every reason to leave (convincing himself). But Hon, you can turn this around easily IF you are willing to take care of the problem. Course as I say there are different kinds of bipolar disorder, but I have never heard of any that is crippling and or causing one to be unable to function if treated. Let's say you help your son financially to get out and on his own two feet, then what? He is always going to be in your pocket because he knows you will be there to help him. This too will annoy your husband if he is already annoyed about your use of the credit cards. Cut the umbilical cord Hon. I know it's hard, I honestly understand, but it's the best thing for your son and in the long run for you and your family that needs you too. You said you have two other children and a husband right, they have to feel left out by you. It sounds like whatever choice you make, t fight for your marriage or divorce you will be hurting your husband for it does not sound as though he wants to break up his family =( Best of wishes to you Hon sincerely! Explained to me by a psychologist there are different kinds of bipolar disorder: Most common is moods swings very high (happy) to suddenly very low (near suicidal), there is medication for this disorder that seems to work pretty well.

What I’m getting at here is it sounds like you are enabling and letting your son come before your marriage. There are many people with bipolar disorder that function better than some without it. At 21 your son should be out on his own. If I was in your husbands shoes I too would feel betrayed and would become shut in. I wouldn’t want to leave my marriage because I love my mate, but I would be trying to convince myself every day that I should leave to find peace. I can see how your husband is trying to find everything about you that he doesn’t care for because he might be trying to find every reason to leave (convincing himself). But Hon, you can turn this around easily IF you are willing to take care of the problem.

Course as I say there are different kinds of bipolar disorder, but I have never heard of any that is crippling and or causing one to be unable to function if treated.

Let’s say you help your son financially to get out and on his own two feet, then what? He is always going to be in your pocket because he knows you will be there to help him. This too will annoy your husband if he is already annoyed about your use of the credit cards. Cut the umbilical cord Hon. I know it’s hard, I honestly understand, but it’s the best thing for your son and in the long run for you and your family that needs you too. You said you have two other children and a husband right, they have to feel left out by you.

It sounds like whatever choice you make, t fight for your marriage or divorce you will be hurting your husband for it does not sound as though he wants to break up his family =(

Best of wishes to you Hon sincerely!

]]> By: ah-ight http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-8312 ah-ight Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:49:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/#comment-8312 he's right, that's not a marriage. he's using you, killing your mind, and your pocket. time YOU file. he’s right, that’s not a marriage. he’s using you, killing your mind, and your pocket.

time YOU file.

]]> By: aShLeY84 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-8313 aShLeY84 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:49:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/#comment-8313 huh? you're husband cheated on you and you had to do all the changes? doesn't really make sense.. maybe you're better off huh? you’re husband cheated on you and you had to do all the changes? doesn’t really make sense.. maybe you’re better off

]]> By: Julia http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-8314 Julia Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:49:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/#comment-8314 Sorry to hear this. It's not fair that he's throwing out these big statements that he can't be with you and etc. Of course it's going to make you mad, especially if you did the counselling with him and worked to improve your half of the relationship. Ask him straight up, what the deal is. It's not fair to string you along and then say he can't leave but he's unhappy. Sorry to hear this.
It’s not fair that he’s throwing out these big statements that he can’t be with you and etc. Of course it’s going to make you mad, especially if you did the counselling with him and worked to improve your half of the relationship.
Ask him straight up, what the deal is. It’s not fair to string you along and then say he can’t leave but he’s unhappy.

]]> By: . http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/comment-page-1/#comment-8315 . Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:49:27 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1871/last-year-my-husband-cheated-on-me-we-went-to-counseling-to-work-things-out-he-wanted-me-to-do-a-few-thing/#comment-8315 Your husband just posted a message on here the other day. He got a lot of messages that were not so good. I suggest to you leave him. Also go to counseling again because you both are on here posting questions about the same thing. Your husband just posted a message on here the other day. He got a lot of messages that were not so good. I suggest to you leave him. Also go to counseling again because you both are on here posting questions about the same thing.

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