Will I ever be able to love someone again?
I was in a very abusive relationship. It has Been a few years now and I can’t seem to have feelings for anyone. Is it because I haven’t met the right person or am i just incapable after what has happened?
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Hi pinkangelswatch.
It can take a long time to heal, but I don’t believe in ‘never again’.
I think that it’s good to be part of a healthy community like a church group or some other network of people, such as a first-aid team, who aren’t just focussed on their own interests/needs. (For example stamp collecting may be good but it can be very inward-looking.)
Before you move on to another relationship, are you free from the last one? Is there ‘unresolved baggage’ holding you back? Do you need to forgive people/a person for what you suffered? Forgiving is good for you, it sets you free. Not forgiving means you’re giving your offender free rent in your mind.
Don’t be obsessed with finding another person. I believe it will happen. Will you be ready? In the meantime, don’t just lick your wounds. Work at becoming a better person to give to someone else, become as good as you can, as a loving gift to give the ideal person when the ideal person comes along.
And don’t expect that the ‘ideal person’ is going to be perfect — perfect people are out of production, you’ll have to make do with a ‘factory second’ of some kind. But on the other hand, don’t throw yourself at anyone/everyone — you’re worth more than that, and your deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.