Can a woman who cheated mentally and is remorseful now,love her husband again?
My wife loved and married me over this very classmate she wrote loveletter to and against her parental wishes. We hit a rough patch in the past and we seperated briefly when she started this affair first on net and happened to meet him when he came here to take back his family. He is a family guy and has 2 kids and we are married for 14 years and have 2 kids who we love much. I don’t understand the logic of her move as she can not have any stable relation with that guy nor did she sever her relation with mine. She had been nice to me all the time and i would not have suspect her but for the letter which is full of love for him and desperately begging him not to forget her. She even introduced me to him when he visited us with his wife and kids. Did she misinterpret his emails as if he is still in love with her as he was in her college when she chose me? There is no email contact for the last 6 months and she said she would show his mail if it arrives. Can I believe her?
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Yes she can love you again, and actually probably never stopped loving you durng her mental affair. I actuall had a physical affair, and never stopped loving my husband. That was 3 years ago and love my husband so much, still.
everything is possible
Only if she loved him in the first place
Yes.
yes
She may never have stopped loving him, but by cheating she sure disrespected him and damaged his trust (I would think).
Will she remain faithful? Time will tell. Some believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" but we all know that few things " always" occur.
The bigger question is, can he trust her again?
Of course Love is not turned on and off it is always there once attained….So you cheated mentally we all have. There is nothing wrong with fantasizing just take it a step further and use on your husband
By "mentally", you mean she never actually cheated. Most people could be guilty of that. A fleeting thought of "He/she looks great", doesn’t count as cheating. If the love for her husband is the same as before….no problem to fix
ummmmmm…..what is mentally cheating?
absolutely!
she may love him but she is not in love with him no way she could be.
Key word here..Remorse…she wants forgiveness. Forgiveness because she truely loves her husband.
If "mentally cheating" means no physical contact and just fantasizing. There is nothing to be remorseful for.
Having fantasies, wishes and thoughts about other men does not make you a bad person nor does it make you a cheater. It make you human and everyone does it!!!
Once you act on these thoughts and cross the line by being with another person would then make you a cheater.
None of us knows what kind of relationship you have or what other factors contribute to you believing you did something wrong. But if you are "searching" for something that you are not getting in your relationship, then you should try communicating first.
good luck
I can understand how u must feel about this. But maybe she said these things to him because she may think if things go south with u and her she has him in her corner and he wil be there waiting. She may be scared that she will be alone and to seal that that won’t happen is the reason she put all the things in that letter to him. She may also be craving something that she feels she’s not getting from the relationship with u.
U may need to talk a TRUE AND SERIOUS talk with ur wife regarding this. U sound like u love her dearly and want it to work with her, but that may not happen if u have all these douts about this other guy and what she maybe doing.
Good Luck
You being married to this woman for 14 years and having two children, "You" should and would be the only person who can answer this……………What do we possibly know that you don’t….this is your wife ………….you know all the facts, you know all the intimate details of your lives….we could,in know way give you a better answer than you already know!
Specifically asked my wife not to contact an old crush but then one day she did behind my back (by email) which I only happened to find out about by chance (she left her computer on with the email list on display). Confronted her straight away. She seemed very sorry for what she had done. (Or felt stupid for getting caught). In the early days (before marriage) she kept a secret which I also only found out about by chance. It was also about the guy she had a crush on). At that time I was really really hurt, hence I did not want her to keep any kind of contact with the crush.Now, having done what she has done, I am struggling to trust her, to feel the love I once felt for her which is causing all sorts of havoc with my state of mind. Why would she risk..put in jeopardy what we have?!?(four children, a house).I hate my life being like this. We both work, which is an easy excuse for spending less time with each other..or even sleeping together. I don\’t… no,…we both now struggle to be intimate with each other….Our past holds us together but it is also what keeps us apart..I wonder is this all there is left.