Comments on: Can you fall in love with your spouse again? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Angelo Thomas Crapanzano http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/comment-page-1/#comment-8770 Angelo Thomas Crapanzano Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:22:43 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/#comment-8770 The secret is not letting love die in the first place. This can be done by not letting romance and affection deminish. My wife and I have been married for 57 years. I always hold my wife\'s hand when we walk. I always let her know that she is the most important person in my life. I always try to be romantic and affectionate. I always remember her birthday and our aniversary. I get up before her every morning and make breakfast. When she comes down I hug and kiss her goodmorning. It isn\'t that I\'m different than other men. It\'s hard work. I don\'t always feel romantic and affectionate but I do it anyway. However if your love has already died, what would I suggest. I suggest that you pretend to be madly in love. If you pretend long enough you may find that you will come to believe it. Anyway your spouse will eventually respond and in time you will both become the persons you fell in love with. The secret is not letting love die in the first place. This can be done by not letting romance and affection deminish. My wife and I have been married for 57 years. I always hold my wife\’s hand when we walk. I always let her know that she is the most important person in my life. I always try to be romantic and affectionate. I always remember her birthday and our aniversary. I get up before her every morning and make breakfast. When she comes down I hug and kiss her goodmorning. It isn\’t that I\’m different than other men. It\’s hard work. I don\’t always feel romantic and affectionate but I do it anyway.

However if your love has already died, what would I suggest. I suggest that you pretend to be madly in love. If you pretend long enough you may find that you will come to believe it. Anyway your spouse will eventually respond and in time you will both become the persons you fell in love with.

]]> By: Elliott N http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/comment-page-1/#comment-8542 Elliott N Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:06:14 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/#comment-8542 Yes. It happened to me. After 8 years of being married, I felt I was not in love with my wife any more. I fell in love with a coworker. Even though it never became sexual, I was in an emotional affair with this single woman. After about 2 years of this, I was cleaning out our garage and found some old love letters that my wife had kept. I read all of them. I began to see my wife in a different light and realized that she was the person I had first fallen in love with. I fell in love with her all over again and in June we will celebrate our 23rd anniversary. I know now that I will never fall out of love with her again. It can happen, but it may take more than wishing it to happen. Go back and see what attracted you to each other in the beginning and start looking at the person you love. Believe me everything from our friendship to our lovemaking has been much better since I found those letters and realized what a wonderful woman I had married. Yes. It happened to me. After 8 years of being married, I felt I was not in love with my wife any more. I fell in love with a coworker. Even though it never became sexual, I was in an emotional affair with this single woman. After about 2 years of this, I was cleaning out our garage and found some old love letters that my wife had kept. I read all of them. I began to see my wife in a different light and realized that she was the person I had first fallen in love with. I fell in love with her all over again and in June we will celebrate our 23rd anniversary. I know now that I will never fall out of love with her again. It can happen, but it may take more than wishing it to happen. Go back and see what attracted you to each other in the beginning and start looking at the person you love. Believe me everything from our friendship to our lovemaking has been much better since I found those letters and realized what a wonderful woman I had married.

]]> By: tessa701 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/comment-page-1/#comment-8543 tessa701 Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:06:14 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/#comment-8543 I think yes sure you can as long as there is still that love there.My hubby and I did come apart from each other during my last pregnancy we never said that we were going to get a divorce to each other but we were more like the only reason why we are still together is because of our kids.What helped us is my actually being fully honest with each other about everything that we were feeling and working on them.Alot of the time we say we will work on it but we don't but this time around we did and now we are happily in love with each other.And it feels so good knowing that we didn't just throw in the towel and remain the way that we were. I think yes sure you can as long as there is still that love there.My hubby and I did come apart from each other during my last pregnancy we never said that we were going to get a divorce to each other but we were more like the only reason why we are still together is because of our kids.What helped us is my actually being fully honest with each other about everything that we were feeling and working on them.Alot of the time we say we will work on it but we don’t but this time around we did and now we are happily in love with each other.And it feels so good knowing that we didn’t just throw in the towel and remain the way that we were.

]]> By: daljack http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/comment-page-1/#comment-8544 daljack Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:06:14 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/#comment-8544 You're never going to constantly feel those "first-love" feelings 24/7. If you did you'd never get anything done. Those feelings come back when you have your date nights, or when you happen to look up and he's looking at you, or when you're on vacation together, or when you get to shower together...or the quiet afternoon when you child is taking a nap.....etc etc. etc. It's the little things that keep the romance going....not the once a year biggies. You’re never going to constantly feel those "first-love" feelings 24/7.

If you did you’d never get anything done.

Those feelings come back when you have your date nights, or when you happen to look up and he’s looking at you, or when you’re on vacation together, or when you get to shower together…or the quiet afternoon when you child is taking a nap…..etc etc. etc.

It’s the little things that keep the romance going….not the once a year biggies.

]]> By: polka dot. http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/comment-page-1/#comment-8545 polka dot. Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:06:14 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/1899/can-you-fall-in-love-with-your-spouse-again/#comment-8545 First of all, I'm sorry that you are hurting and I give you credit for trying to rekindle your love with your spouse. I am engaged at the time and my fiance and I are very much in love. We do things for one another, we have open lines of communication, and we make sure that we have alone time together. When I say that we do things for one another, I mean little things, like compliments on looks, like "hunny, you look really nice today" or "i like your butt in those jeans", haha. One thing that my fiance and I have is respect, we respect each other. I suggest that you and your husband sit down and talk about what made you fall in love with each other in the first place. You may find that you both have fallen in your love phase because of the new child and getting older and experiencing life. I would say that you need to start by have 20 minutes of alone time per day. You can spend that alone time just laying down, or just looking into each other's eyes, or you can just talk. Start slow, that is key and communication is also key. Good Luck and hope you can rekindle your love for your husband because love is such an amazing thing. First of all, I’m sorry that you are hurting and I give you credit for trying to rekindle your love with your spouse. I am engaged at the time and my fiance and I are very much in love. We do things for one another, we have open lines of communication, and we make sure that we have alone time together. When I say that we do things for one another, I mean little things, like compliments on looks, like "hunny, you look really nice today" or "i like your butt in those jeans", haha. One thing that my fiance and I have is respect, we respect each other. I suggest that you and your husband sit down and talk about what made you fall in love with each other in the first place. You may find that you both have fallen in your love phase because of the new child and getting older and experiencing life. I would say that you need to start by have 20 minutes of alone time per day. You can spend that alone time just laying down, or just looking into each other’s eyes, or you can just talk. Start slow, that is key and communication is also key. Good Luck and hope you can rekindle your love for your husband because love is such an amazing thing.

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