How can I get my ex husband to help be consistant with my kids hygiene when they are at his house?
my kids are at that age when they need to be more aware of their body odors, taking a bath and everything that goes with puberty. My ex husband undoes everything that I am trying to teach them about hygiene(i.e. he threw away my daughters training bras and has not tried to teach my son how to wash his body and private parts correctly.) How do I explain that this is a normal and healthy process to go through and that it is not something that is dirty or something to be ashamed of?
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I went through this too. You just have to reinforce it with the kids. Another thing I did was to call every evening and tell my son he needed to take a shower/brush his teeth.
You don’t have to explain to your husband, as long as the children are aware and as long as you keep reinforcing these issues, it’s more than fine !
Dads DO NOT teach their sons how to "correctly" wash their private parts. Is there even a correct way to do it? Unlike Moms and Daughters who love to talk about their vaginas with eachother – fathers and sons keep that off limits.
Don’t know what to tell you about the bras but there is no reason you can’t teach your son about personal hygeine. Your ex is not gonna do things lkike you do. Nothing you can do about that.
i’ll bet your son walks around with a very stinky butt.
Your grasping at straws.
They are old enough to know. Its up to them
to grasp.
If your kids are puberty age then they’re old enough to understand when they’re told to wash their @sses. If they don’t, let them stink. Their friends will harass them for having a stinky @ss and they’ll become more conscious of themselves.
You should sit down with your husband and have a serious talk. I am assuming that you have the kids the majority of the time. You should make a list of things that you find are important and give them to him to look over. Tell him "when i come and pick the kids up, we need to talk about this and I want you to tell me if you think these are important issues". also tell him that if he has a better way to deal with these issues you will consider it.
Make a copy of the list and file it away along with the date that you gave it to him on. If he continuously disrespects general common sense rules, such as hygiene or safety, record all incidence and then take him back to court. Sometimes things can’t be explained if the other person doesn’t want to listen..
Good luck trying to deal with him.
You let me know if you figure it out. My step-daughters come to our house filthy and smelly, with their hair uncut since the last time we saw them and their nails dirty and broken. Their MOTHER allows this. They are the dirty, smelly girls at school. It’s beyond me. They are 13 and 9.
All you can do is teach the kids the right way to take care of themselves, and in time they will do this on their own. When they are with their father you really can’t do much about what goes on, just like your ex can’t change things that you do with the kids. I think that is why people get divorced, because they can’t learn to compromise with each other. I taught my kids, and they learned that if you don’t want to be teased about being stinky that they have to wash and wash right. Of course you know that boys really like to be thought of as stinky for a couple years so the girls will leave them alone, but soon they learn that girls are a good thing and the hygiene routine changes.
You don’t get to reteach your ex how to parent. All you can do is enforce cleanliness in YOUR home.