Is it possible for a husband to fall back in love?
My husband and I are going through a tough time right now. He feels our relationship has gone stale and seems to love me more as a buddy or sister than a wife right now. Do you think it’s possible for his old feelings of love to return for me? We will be having a baby in 3 months, do you think the baby can trigger his feelings of love again? Anyone have a personal story to share?
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Maybe he is just confused about the baby. When did his behavior change? You could wait until the baby comes or you could try talking to a professional to see if your marriage is able to be saved.
Of course it’s possible. You are both in a place where your lives will be changing drastically….get some counseling to help you two make the adjustment.
Sorry to hear about your situation. I know it has to be really hard when children are involved. My husband and I have hit a rough patch too. We don’t have any children yet, but we have been trying. I am sure that has to do with some of the stress on our marriage. I ordered a marriage counseling cd set today. Here is the link to it if you are interested. I can’t give you a review on it, because like I said, I just ordered it today.
http://www.marriagemax.com/index.asp
Good luck to you and your family!
he is going though some life changes and the baby most likely scares him. and yes you can fall back in love again. you have the power to do it so do it
If he’s going through an emotional roller coaster now with you being prego, he may get worse after the baby. You need to express your feelings now, and work things out before it’s to late. I hope the birth of your child, brings you closer.
While it is hard to tell based on limited information, yes it is possible to fall back in love, but having a baby alone isn’t a cure for this.
Relationships go through many phases. If you are both friends, you probably share a bond that goes beyond the romantic. Having a child together may help with your bonding or the sleepless nights and added demands of a newborn may cause stress to your relationship.
What I would suggest is that you start off by making time for a date night each week or at least every other week. Go someplace where you can both be together and relate without stress.
If you are short on funds, this can be as simple as a walk through the park. Its not where you go that matters, just that you have the time to talk, laugh, and recharge.
Yes, I think that it is possible.
Yes! Definitely it is possible for him to fall back in love. I have been married for 22 years. My husband and I went through a rough spell and he felt exactly the same way as your husband. He may be feeling once the baby arrives he won’t be important, or you won’t need him as much. One way to begin to get the love back is always tell him how much you love him, let him know you need him and want him, and the baby will be an expression of both your love. Make sure to include him in every aspect of the child rearing, buying apparel etc. Even if he say’s he is not interested still ask his opinion. Everything is possible, it will take work, but it can be done, be patient. Love is much more than a feeling it is an act. Best Wishes!
I fell out of love over a long period of abusive behavior by my alcoholic wife. I can’t even imagine rekindling the feeling I had for her in the beginning although I’ve tried. I was told by someone older and wiser then me that if I couldn’t imagine it, meaning "see it in my mind", then it wouldn’t be possible.
If your husband is saying those things now you better do something quick before he totally believes and can’t see it anymore like me.
I hope the best for you because divorce it just down right painful. Good luck to you.
Marriages can never be perfect because people are not perfect. Being human, every bride and groom has faults as well as vitrues. We are gloomy, cranky, selfish, or unreasonable. We are a mixture of generous, altrustic feelings combined with self-seeking aims, petty vanities, and ambitions. We unite love and courage with selfishness and fear. Marriage is an alloy of gold and tin. If we expect more than this, we are doomed to disappointment.
When my wife and I tell our story, (we married each other twice) we often say that the first time around we forgot that our vows were based on action rather than feeling: "I will love you when times are good or bad. I will cherish you even if I am upset with you. I will honor you at all times." Every couple can profit from remembering and saying these simple words every day. The more each person can find new and creative ways to swear this commitment, the better. The idea is to recite your vows over and over so that when the rocky times come, as they inevitable will, the commitment to love, honor, and cherish will trigger new ideas in the brian about how to hold the marriage together.
In addition, it time to re-spark up the flame and you as a woman, have the power to set the tone in your home. Here’s a few tips:
Concentrate on building an intimate realtionship. Words are not needed. Just be creative and make plans.
Nuture him emotionally.
Touch lovingly, share thoughts and feelings.
Spend private time with him.
Avoid the negitives that could change the way you see him. Begin to live in an atmosphere of approval and forgive quickly and generously.
Live out your commitment is such a way that strong links of trust are established and maintained.
As for your new arrival, get him involved in the decision making and give into his ideas.
Be attentive to his concerns when he comes home. Look attractive as much as possible when he walks thru the door. Prepare his favorite meals. SHow interest and ask questions about his job, activities, problems, achievements. Listen attentively by focusing your eyes on him. Don’t make him compete with the TV, the dishes or even others when he is trying to talk to you. Be his friend – His very best friend!!!
Live your marriage on purpose! Good luck!
Good news is… he does recognize he has love for you… and he’s expressing his new feelings – concerns. Although, his discovery of them may cause you some saddness… his honesty and openess with you is actually a very good thing. It could mean he is reaching out for reassurance or he’s frightened and confused by these feelings. Pregnancy is just as scary for some men as it is for some women.
Do some research… find books related to your experience during pregnancy… your situation is probably more common than you know… then enlighten him by sharing with him what you’ve learned.
Also, I suggest just having a heart to heart with him to reassure him [other's have gone through this together]… let him know you have doubts and get scared too… but ultimately tell him just how excited you are about having HIS baby and how he’s going to be the "hottest" daddy on the planet
Also keep reminding him how much your looking forward to being with him after your body is back in shape again. Make sure to include him in on the fun moments of pregnancy but don’t let your relationship revolve completely around the pregnancy… make it a priority to do fun things together and bring back some of the silly and playful times (as often as possible).
I hope this was helpful… Best wishes for you all:)